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Update: my Patreon will replace my 250k Tiktok account

Style of Play

I’ve built my brand around my style of play - kind and cruel. I’ve often referred to myself as a chameleon dominant (I heard another d-type talk about it on Tiktok and loved it!) This is the evolved (and evolving) version of me that you see today. But what did it look like initially for me? 2022-09-29 15:03:26 +0000 UTC View Post

Grounding Exercises

“I can’t seem to get into the right headspace lately…”

I’m sure you can relate to this statement, or have been able to before, whether it applies (or has applied) to you or your play partner(s).

I think this is a far more common issue that you might know! And trust me, it’...

I finally had a day that I am satisfied with

An Introduction to Age Regression & Age Play

I’ve been getting a similar line of questions lately: can you have Little tendencies without fully regressing? Would that be viewed as age play? Age play gets a lot of bad rep, but to be honest I think it’s vastly underrated.

Whether you’re an age regressor and/or age player - being y...

Parental Control Software - Part 1

This is a pretty interesting element to add to a dynamic - one that requires copious amounts of trust, vetting, and negotiations.

Let’s start with two very important questions:

Why on earth would we introduce this into our dynamic? And how has it impacted the d...

Session stories: the coin toss game

I had a really fun session today. It was the tipping point at which I decided to start sharing session stories. I’ve wondered a long while if keeping a journal of sorts about thin...

Aftercare for me as a Pro Dom

So much emphasis is placed on aftercare for subs and especially in lifestyle dynamics, which makes complete sense when there are far more lifestyle dynamics than professional dynamics. Today, I want to share more about my own journey with you with regards to aftercare for me as a Professional Dom...

Hi all!

Hi all my lovely Patrons!

My apologies about having been so quiet these past few weeks. After the Germany trip, I needed some R&R to recover after all that stress, which was (of course) followed by PMS and now also a visit from my mom. Things have been hectic, but exciting to...

Q&A: do all kinks come from trauma?

I enjoy debunking nonsense statements that people throw around about BDSM. One of them (that people toss around far too proudly) is that kinks come from trauma and that kinksters are just traumatised individuals who need therapy. I can’t count how many times I’ve been on the receiving end of ...

BTS: Getting in the headspace for filming

Here I explain how I go about getting ready for filming and getting into the right headspace, as well as how I ease out of it - which is equally important.

Feel free to post any questions you may have about my process!

ASD: Sometimes there are bad days

Sometimes there are bad days, and it is totally okay. 

Last week Monday was a meltdown day for me. These bad days can be totally random or unpredictable, and are often very sudden. Although I have a sneaking suspicion that it might also be because I sometimes struggle to rea...

BTS at the dungeon

Here’s a little behind-the-scenes video from this week’s filming!

I was filming Tiktoks, Patreon content, and my Store Owner Chapter 2 content for Onlyfans.

Consent check-ins during a scene

I posted this video to my Tiktok earlier this year - and it got a LOT more reactions than I thought it would. Naturally, this included trolling and negative comments from folks who didn't understand much or who took it out of context. So I decided it's a good idea to unpack some of it and discuss...

Types of Degradation

Let’s discuss the different types of degradation!

This video is fairly extensive so I won’t say too much here.

Here’s my question to you:

• Which types of degradation are which limits for you? And why? (But only if you’re comfortable disclosing)...
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Caregivers: what it means & my experience as a CG

Please note: Caregivers & Ageregressors do not have to fall under the BDSM umbrella. It is not a kink, and it is most certainly not sexual in any way.

A common misconception is that a CG is also always D-type. This does not have to be the case - a CG does no...

The Obedience App

Please note: I am sponsored by Obedience to produce a Tiktok video. However, I’m raving about it here because I love the app so much. So this is not sponsored in any way 🙅

How do I use it?

I mostly use this app for my Submissive Perso...

How do we introduce degradation play into a dynamic?

Here’s a few of my own tips on how to introduce degradation play into your dynamic.

I want to stress this: the way in which you approach your partner, is super important. Nobody likes the “this is good, but I want…” type of approach. Since this is for both you and your p...

My ADHD chaos versus my ASD order

Life gets tricky when these two opposing neurodivergencies collide with each other - or when they battle for dominance.

I often find it challenging to balance my ADHD and ASD. The past few weeks, my ADHD has been running rampant, resulting in no routine, impulsivity and spontane...

Degradation kink: what is it?

In this video, I cover the following:

• What is a degradation kink?
• Reasons that people have a degradation kink.
• Moments of not being able to handle Felix’s cuteness.
• Arguments for and against a degradation kink.
• My thoughts on the arguments against a...
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Overview: punishment vs funishment

This video was a request from one of you!

I would like to do a couple more videos around punishment and funishment ideas, including physical and non-physical ones.

Punishments and funishments are so much fun - and a great opportunity to become creative! Part of why they’re so fun i...

How did you get into the lifestyle? 👀

This is always one of the first questions that I’m asked whenever someone finds out that I’m a pro dom!

So, here’s my story:

I’ve always been dominant - oldest child, had to take care of mom and younger sister, that kinda thing - and I’ve always been dominant with men. It�...

My experience at the Kink Up Cape Town party!

I ATTENDED MY VERY FIRST BDSM PARTY!!

The event was organised by Sub Rosa Dictum, who have organised various events around Europe and now want to help develop the community in Cape Town. I love that, of course.

Here’s their website, if you’re curious about it: 2022-04-14 06:25:35 +0000 UTC View Post

Let’s discuss the psychology behind a praise kink

From my own experience with submissives, I have seen that praise and degradation kinks often go hand in hand. We can (often) thank childhood trauma for both of these! No surprise there. We will discuss the praise kink first!

So, the praise kink stems from the need for validation and approva...

Setting boundaries and limits - Part 2

In this video I explain a bit more about setting your boundaries and negotiating them in your dynamic.

Remember that boundary and limit negotiations can happen at any point in the dynamic. Boundaries and limits change as you play more and evolve and learn more about yourself! Therefore, th...

Setting boundaries and limits - Part 1

Here is my very first educational video!

As requested, I cover the basics of setting boundaries and limits within your dynamic.

Feel free to add your thoughts and opinions!

Sharing my experiences with ASD & ADHD

I’ve decided that I will be sharing my experiences with autism and ADHD in my everyday life, as well as how it affects my work and BDSM dynamics. I feel that this is part of creating an inclusive community here, because there are so many neurodivergent folks in the world - even (or especially) ...

Green flags in BDSM: part 1

I’m just going to give a brief explanation and examples here of the three green flags I listed in this video.

Vetting & negotiations:

This is essential to any dynamic, even vanilla ones. The vetting process is comparable to a job interview - both the ...

PSA regarding my one-tier Patreon

Announcement: I’m downscaling to one, all-inclusive tier!

My reasons are simple and straightforward:

1. It makes my life much easier if I don’t have to keep track of which tiers have which benefits (on top of the thousands of other things in my head).

2. I want my safe and educational space to be accessible to everyo...