Spilling Your Fantasies: Nerve-Wracking or Totally Worth It?
Added 2025-02-18 16:17:01 +0000 UTCThe thought of sharing your fantasies with your partner can be downright nerve-wracking—worries like “What if they think I’m weird?” or “What if they’re totally turned off?” tend to take over. The fear of rejection and judgment is real, and we often spiral into worst-case scenarios about how they might react. But when we finally muster up the courage to share our deepest desires, more often than not, they’re either into it too—or at least open to exploring a compromise.
Have you ever shared a fantasy with a partner? Has a partner ever shared theirs with you? Let us know what that experience was like! And if you haven’t, what’s holding you back?
Comments
Too dark? Nah!
susie@drsusieg.com
2025-03-03 17:02:23 +0000 UTCI started to post a gallows humor fantasy that I have shared with my wife, but decided it is too dark.
Guy (works)
2025-03-02 20:27:37 +0000 UTCHi Bruce, thanks for sharing this (and the fact that you use to take ballet lessons too! DVM is in good company. 🙂) You’re definitely not alone—fantasies are normal and don’t have to define you or your sexual orientation. There's a little kink in all of us. 😉🔥
susie@drsusieg.com
2025-02-20 21:34:20 +0000 UTCHi Doc, OMG, sharing fantasies is not my forté. I agree with DVM. I have so many intersts and I used to take ballet lessons as well. Now I practice a somatic yoga with an 87 year old yoga guru. She is so informed about the body I am finally recovering from years of poor posture and I feel if I had followed my heart years ago I wouldn't need to recover at all. I even don't share my fantasies with my wife of 34 years, for fear she would think my kinky thoughts meant I am gay or at best a philander. I have chosen to be faithful so I have not explored these fantasies (BDSM, Submission, femdom, CBT, and other related kinks). But they remain and that vexes me a lot. ~Bruce
Bruce Stüdeli-Kocher
2025-02-20 19:25:34 +0000 UTC
