Dyspareunia? More like Dyspareu-NO Thank you! ❌
Added 2025-04-23 17:27:01 +0000 UTCSex shouldn’t hurt. Let’s talk dyspareunia—why it happens, what it feels like, and how to stay sexy when sex looks different.
Hey friends!
Let’s get real for a sec—sex is supposed to feel good, not like a medieval torture scene. If your spicy sessions are feeling more “ow” than “wow,” we need to talk about something called dyspareunia (dy-spuh-ROO-nee-uh). This means pain during sex, and it’s way more common than you think 🤔
So what is it?
Dyspareunia can feel like:
❤️ Sharp or burning pain during penetration
❤️ Deep aching afterward
❤️ A “my body just said NOPE” sensation
❤️ Or even like your uterus just got uppercutted
It can happen for physical reasons (like dryness, tightness, infections, endometriosis), emotional reasons (hello anxiety, trauma, stress), or both. Your body and brain are totally vibing together—sometimes in ways that block pleasure and bring pain.
But here’s the tea:
You are not broken.
You are not alone.
And you 1000% deserve pleasure without pain.
Most of y’all have penises—so, how would you show up for a partner dealing with dyspareunia? How could you stay erotic, intimate, and connected… even when sex looks different?
P.S. This video was recorded with former practice colleague Lainie Givens, OTR/L who is no longer with my practice for reference. ❤️
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susie@drsusieg.com
2025-04-26 19:58:40 +0000 UTCLainie no longer works with me, but I do have a kick-ass assistant, Kathy, who works remotely. And thank you for sharing your experience navigating the pain your wife was experiencing during intercourse—it sounds like you both leaned into communication, love, and patience to work through it. 🔥
susie@drsusieg.com
2025-04-26 19:45:40 +0000 UTCI appreciate the love, Robert. Yes, it was on good terms. I'm happy that she honored what she felt was best for her in her life.
susie@drsusieg.com
2025-04-25 19:05:41 +0000 UTCDam I liked this video. Your former associate was cool and knowledgeable. To bad you don’t have her with you anymore. Pray it’s all on good terms and such 🙏
Robert C.
2025-04-24 21:02:18 +0000 UTCI was wondering if Lainie Givens still worked for you or when you said assistant who works remote. Anyways my wife did not have this issue, however early on she did experience pain. It at times was frustrating but I always tried to maintain patience and tolerance. Sometimes we did have to end it before it ended and I was ok with it and accepted. We also had to discuss and she explained. We put it together when she wasn’t relaxed or thinking of all this other things in her head she couldn’t relax her Vulva muscles to make penetration enjoyable. Yes we had done other activities (not always the same) it was a work in progress. Lots of narrative during it all. Made me think how as teenagers you think having a Virgin or that the vagina needs to be tight etc. I took a deep look at those statements know with experience and relax was way less stressful. Was so much work to get it in and then once gliding and sliding I’m like it’s finally in o my gosh this feels so good. I’d finish. It was a whole thing and we are at a different stage with different difficulties. I can say also my wife having a child I think her Vulva and vagina got better. Just sayyying.
Robert C.
2025-04-24 02:25:06 +0000 UTCThat’s great. Have you or your wife ever watched the documentary “The pill”? Worth watching. My wife never took the pill. We use condoms now even though our first child we planned. For years we/ I never used condoms with my wife. Always the rhythm method and pull out and the natural family planning.
Robert C.
2025-04-24 02:15:40 +0000 UTCHits home big time. A little over 25 years ago my wife began experiencing vaginal discomfort/pain so we stopped having intercourse. Had never heard of pelvic floor therapy and her other medical providers didn't take note or provide information. Since we had gone from manic gerbil sex to nothing, my wife attempted to pleasure me in ways I felt were uncomfortable to her. Trying to be considerate of her, I told her "It's okay, just relax and go to sleep." This led her to thinking I didn't want her touching me (I have a history of being shy about touch outside relationships) which led to 14 years of no intimacy. An urologist at Oregon Health and Science University's Men's Health suggested pelvic therapy for me when I was consulting with her about lack of nocturnal erections. My wife said she would like to experience penetration again. I suggested she also schedule with a PFT. The therapist did an internal that indicated all was good to go and suggested she get a prescription for vaginal estradiol cream. We are now working through lubes, whether and how to use lidocaine all while dealing with two strokes she's had. Being her penetrative partner in exploring all this something I very much care about.
Guy (works)
2025-04-23 18:33:39 +0000 UTCMy wife has been suffering with lichen sclerosis for a couple of years. We have had to learn to slow down and that sometimes she has to raise the no go flag. LOTS of lube and slow deliberate and gentle stimulation. The hardest thing for me was learning that it was OK for me to lose my erection as we take the time it takes. My wife has learned how to get me ready as she reaches a state to be ready for penetrative sex. It is really about communication and having love and respect for your partner and their needs. We have been together for almost 35 years and honestly we are having more and better sex than at any other time in our relationship as we take time to help each other be intimate. I also think my wife stopping the pill somehow unlocked her ability feel desire again, it is great even though she has been asking me to wear a condom to be sure we don’t start a surprise second act of parenthood.
Craig Chadwick
2025-04-23 17:48:42 +0000 UTC
