Genevieve King

Small steps, Big changes, Part 4: Location and Collaboration

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Coming up next in this mini series on taking small steps toward big changes, let's talk about the Where and Who of it all.

Do we know who all might be impacted by these changes? What ripple effect might it have on other partners, friends, family or wider communit...

Small steps, Big changes, Part 3: Timeline and Pacing

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Today, I'm continuing my series on taking small steps toward big changes. This week, I explore the logistical but also sometimes emotional When of it all. What is the timeline for making a change? What is a comfortable pace, and why? And can everyone equally agree on th...

Small steps, Big changes, Part 2: Why do we want this?

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Today, I'm continuing my series on taking small steps toward big changes. This week, I offer some prompts and considerations for the Why of it all. What are our motives? What are all the internal and external pressure points?

I use the same five examples from 2023-08-06 10:15:39 +0000 UTC View Post

Small steps, Big changes, Part 1: What is the goal?

Hello and happy Sunday, I hope you're having a lovely day. ☀️

I'm starting a series on taking small steps toward big changes. It's an often requested topic that always felt daunting to try to cover in one or two videos. So I'm spacing it out, giving it more breathing room, in hopes that...

After a breakup, what about our mutual friends...?

Good morning and happy Sunday, I hope you're having a beautiful day and a beautiful weekend.

Today, by request, let’s explore potential ripple effects of breakups. Since we usually have mutual connections with our ex, how does the split impact those other dynamics?

Are we scared of ...

LIVE CHAT: On Boundaries vs Demands, One Penis Policy, and Proving Fears Wrong

Here's the video and transcript from yesterday's Live Chat! The next one will be some time mid/late autumn, I hope to see you there again.

Chapters:

• 00.00 Intro / Differences between boundaries and demands
• 10.38 Format for check ins?
• 13.30 On d...
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On Coming Out, Friendships in Adulthood, and how Hyper-Individualism hits our Fears of Abandonment...

I hope you're having a nice weekend (and if not, I do hope you have a person or people around to lean on).

Recently, a penpal suggested he could interview me from a patron's point of view, so I said, "sure, why not!" During the chat, we discuss things like coming out, making friends in adul...

Is anything causing Compassion Fatigue?

Good morning!

I hope you're having a beautiful day and a lovely weekend. This past week, I made a ~60 second public video on compassion fatigue, and a lot of people said they relate. So, I made a longer video to explore the topic a bit deeper.

While I've experienced it numerous times ...

Bonus Resource: Poly Pages podcast

Hi! I hope you're having a lovely Sunday and a great weekend. 

A lot of people ask for more podcast recommendations, but the space is surprisingly limited when it comes to non-monogamy. You might enjoy this three-season podcast by 2023-06-25 10:29:59 +0000 UTC View Post

What if partners communicate really differently?

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Today's video is patron-requested, which always makes me happy. I want to create resources that apply to your current situations, to the best of my ability.

Let's dig in a bit about how we talk to our closest relationships. More specifically, what if they have a really d...

10 Signs it's Probably Going Well

Good morning!

I hope that your weekend is going great. And if it’s not, I hope you’re still able to find a few bright spots of relaxation wherever you can.

Let’s talk about green flags today. This could be with newer people, when you're just getting to know them, or maybe your r...

Are you putting yourself second?

Hello and happy Sunday, I hope you're having a beautiful day and a beautiful weekend. ☀️

Some weeks back, after the case study I posted on learning to say no, there were a few requests that I share some lower stakes examples, especially in romantic or sexual relationships. So today, I'l...

"I hate this... when does it get easier?"

Good morning!

I hope you're having a lovely weekend. Today, I'm answering a question that I get kind of a lot: “when does it get easier? I'm having a hard time, when do I stop struggling so much?” It's a broad question, but I will do my best to offer some feedback with examples. Hopeful...

LIVE CHAT: On Coping with "Firsts", Comparisons, and Wanting More Time Together

Here's the video and transcript from yesterday's Live Chat! The next one will be some time mid/late summer, I hope to see you there again.

Chapters:

00.00 Intro
00.52 How to mindfully separate from a distrustful partner?
04.08 Coping with dates who don't want he...

Polyam-Friendly Kids' Book: "A Color Named Love" (Ellery & Reschke)

Hi and happy international Mother's Day (if that's a thing you celebrate, or are)!

Being child-free myself, most of the polyam parenting resources I share will come from other people. (I can especially recommend 2023-05-14 09:55:44 +0000 UTC View Post

5 Questions about Sex I Wish I Asked Sooner

Good morning, and I hope you're having a lovely weekend!

So, lots of people ask me to make sex education videos but I'm unfortunately not a sex educator. However, I can definitely speak to the volatile range of emotions and stressors that come up when navigating that sort of intimacy.

Case Study: Learning to Say "No"...

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Lots of folks have asked me to share more about detachment, codependency, and finding solid boundaries with people you love. And absolutely, I've got you.

Today, I'll share a case study of one significant relationship in my life, and how I've learned to say "no," without...

15 Questions for Long Distance Relationships

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I hope you’re having a lovely weekend. Today’s resource will be a questionnaire, which I hope may be of service.

I’m often asked how to set boundaries in long distance relationships. That’s a big topic. Since there are so many variables, and it’s really context...

"There's just not enough to go around" - Part Two

Good morning!

Today, we'll continue exploring scarcity, specifically with renewable resources like energy or sexual desire. What is and isn't within our control? What plays into our fears, and how do we talk about it?

I'll share how I approach these tensions, what I ask of myself and ...

"There's just not enough to go around" - Part One

Good morning and happy Easter, if you celebrate!

Today's chat will be about scarcity, specifically with finite resources like time or money. What do we do when there's not enough to go around? How do we know when asymmetry is hierarchy in disguise?

This is not a comprehensive ...