RELATIONSHIP COURSE: Parenting Foundations
Added 2022-12-14 14:45:59 +0000 UTCParenting is both one of life's greatest challenges and greatest joys. It’s also really hard. How do you do it? What are some of the best practices?
Your internet dads are here to help. This course combines family therapy studies and their own hard-won experience to give you their best parenting wisdom.
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Currently on “parents as friends”, and omg: you guys talking about how sometimes you guys really can’t stand your kids, especially when you’re in a flow state… or when me and my hubby are in the middle of the conversation and our son keeps trying to talk to us. There were plenty of times that my hubby loses his temper and almost yells at him to shush. I am so guilty of not being on hubby’s side, and shaming him for losing his temper. And I do feel bad, but because our son does have speech development issues, for me any kind of him trying to communicate with us, and with hubby especially, is a good thing and I’m more afraid that him getting yelled at for trying to talk with us is going to stop making him want to talk at home. I know he’s chatty at school because his kindergarten teacher says he’s always trying to talk but whenever an adult tries he just clams up. I’m not trying to say I’m perfect either, cuz there’s plenty of times where I lose my patience and tells him to shush too. But knowing that it’s a common feeling, where sometimes we really don’t like having our kids, kind of helps me understand that it’s normal. Kids are annoying. And that’s ok. Not all adult friends of mine I like spending time with 24-7 either. Even my hubby. Also: getting my son to flush the toilet. DAILY BATTLE.
Hikari Yamato
2023-11-28 22:43:25 +0000 UTCSo glad this course helped!
Cinema Therapy
2022-12-23 09:17:17 +0000 UTCI've been running on fumes for a couple of months now and have stopped enjoying family time... I'm simply exhausted. There's a silver lining though, I can't wait for our new nanny starting in January with the hopes I can become a fun dad again. Not just seeing my time with the kids like something I have to “get through”. 🥴 That said, I learned so much here and even gained confidence in things I was already doig well but wasn't so sure of. Like toys on the floor not being yours anymore if left there. 😅
Jan Sapper
2022-12-22 19:42:26 +0000 UTCYou're so welcome!
Cinema Therapy
2022-12-17 05:52:16 +0000 UTCSo glad this helps!
Cinema Therapy
2022-12-17 05:51:54 +0000 UTCWhich rule, specifically? It's a long course :)
Cinema Therapy
2022-12-17 05:51:28 +0000 UTCI think you're definitely on the right path being calm and understanding. Something I learned about a year ago was, "name it to tame it," meaning naming the emotion. I've seen a lot of success with empathizing with my kids, talking about the emotion(s) they're feeling, and then teaching the lesson when they're in a calm mindset. And absolutely, yes, it is hard sometimes!
Angie
2022-12-16 00:40:14 +0000 UTCThat's a good rule -- I was a nanny for a couple years and that was their family rule as well. I learned a lot from those parents :)
Angie
2022-12-16 00:19:01 +0000 UTCI don't have any kids but I babysit for my family a lot so it's really helpful to be able to learn more about good parenting techniques and know that everyone has trouble with it sometimes. I have a lot of cousins on the spectrum so it can be really hard for them to express themselves in ways that others understand. I always try my best to stay calm and take my time but it can be hard sometimes. These videos help me know how I can better myself when it comes to taking care of kids🙂
Max Fauchier
2022-12-15 22:51:25 +0000 UTCWell, I just learned more in 1h and 18min than I have in 15 years (don't get me wrong my parents were great... well my mom was). Thank you so much for this course. I don't have children but my boyfriend has two and we have them every two weeks for the weekend. I know them now for like 5 years and still bearly know them. I never really felt comfortable around them because I just kind of getting annoyed with children even though they tried to call me mom, which I don't want them to do. I mean I love dogs... but I still want to connect with them more but didn't know how to do so. I'm definitely gonna use and practise what you have shown and tought me in this video. I have to work a lot on myself and it will take time to get there where I want to be as a kind of stepmom and thank you for sharing your personal experiences with us. Hearing that you too loose your temper from time to time and that even you have all sorts of emotions (not just love) for your children is really reassuring. Btw. Alan you nailed the words "Freund" and "Schadenfreude", trust me I am german ;)
Loki Dokey
2022-12-15 22:13:35 +0000 UTCIt can be so hard sometimes! But if they can see that you're invested in them, it really does make a difference. That said, you can also set parameters - we have a "no talking about video games at the dinner table" rule 😂 just to encourage conversations about other topics as well, so we can hear about other things that are important to them, too.
Cinema Therapy
2022-12-15 21:57:38 +0000 UTC"If you don't pay attention to the small stuff, they won't come to you with the big stuff; because for them, it was all big stuff." I struggle with some of the interests like Minecraft because I didn't play with Legos as a kid and it's not fun for me now, either, so that phrase is something I have to remind myself of frequently.
Angie
2022-12-14 18:30:54 +0000 UTCI appreciate this kind of content because I'm very slightly || (<-- that much) older than you two so it's like peer group therapy :)
Angie
2022-12-14 16:19:27 +0000 UTC
