DIRECTOR'S CUT: Family Therapist Ranks PIXAR Parents
Added 2023-04-24 15:00:07 +0000 UTCWhat does healthy parenting look like? How do parents show up without being overbearing or controlling?
Licensed therapist Jonathan Decker and filmmaker Alan Seawright are taking a look at Pixar parents and ranking them by healthy parenting throughout the films. They rank Coco’s Mama Imelda, Inside Out’s Jill and Bill, Luca’s Daniela and Lorenzo, Onward’s Laurel, and Turning Red’s Ming and Jin. Jonathan uses his expertise in family therapy to explain why some Pixar parents miss the mark and why some excel at parenting their children. Some parents react instead of respond, some are overbearing, and others make room for all emotions to be felt. Jonathan and Alan share some of their parenting wins and misses, and they compliment each other’s dadding.
Comments
the conversation at the end (when we got our f-bomb lol) about how Jono makes chores into play makes me wish you guys would do an episode on Mary Poppins 🥺 or it could be the fact that today is Julie Andrews's birthday...
NinaGreen
2024-10-01 13:52:26 +0000 UTCI used to go to the library right after school. It was a sanctuary for my sister and me. Sometimes if I saw someone and I didn’t feel like talking I would walk behind the tall stacks 🫣. The “I” in INFP is very strong sometimes.
Hannah Rose 🥀
2023-05-27 03:14:33 +0000 UTCI do love a good library - Jono
Cinema Therapy
2023-05-26 13:25:32 +0000 UTCWhen Jono said “If we get this done in a half-hour we will go to the library.” I got so giddy.
Hannah Rose 🥀
2023-05-26 03:17:26 +0000 UTCI'd put them at the top :) Marlin ep coming soon!
Cinema Therapy
2023-05-01 13:21:39 +0000 UTCI would like to see where Marlin from Finding Nemo and Remy's dad from Ratatouille would fit in this list... so many Pixar movies and I feel like we are missing parents from this.... Oh and I know you guys have talked about the Incredibles in the past, but just for ranking sake, I think they would be high in the list... at least in the Top 3... right?
Kate Ackerley
2023-04-28 17:42:10 +0000 UTCEvery single time I think Inside Out is done hitting me in the feels, I want to cry at that scene :') Really good episode overall!
Emily Snell-Salvaggio
2023-04-25 17:56:03 +0000 UTCI *love* what you guys said about Luca. I don't censor my kids and every time someone new comes into my life and sees that I don't censor my kids, they assume I am a bad parent. But the thing is, by not forbidding topics, I don't make them seem exotic and desirable. And we talk about things. My philosophy as a parent is to prepare my kids for the real world as best as I can so when they get to it, they know what to do. And especially what you said about who do you want to teach your kids? Yourself or some rando who may teach them the wrong stuff? I make sure my kids learn from *me* so I know what they're learning and that it's accurate.
Smeeson
2023-04-25 14:57:18 +0000 UTCKids say the darndest things!
Cinema Therapy
2023-04-25 14:00:08 +0000 UTCGods, I wanna be Laurel when I grow up. I'm a single parent myself, not widowed, just a horrible breakup, rocky co-parenting, and sketchy, sorta felt like it was a dangerous extraction to get me and my daughter away from her unstable dad and go no contact. I'm still processing the hell out of the last several years of my life and everything that lead up to that 5|-|17storm. I'm still swinging between feeling optimistic, angry about what happened, grieving over the kind of lives I could have lived and never will, depressed and wondering if I'll always feel damaged, and that's not even the parenting part. With parenting, I always feel like I'm failing every day, but pushing through and doing my best to learn what my daughter needs from me so she can be her best her she's aiming for, and grow up to be a functional adult who can successfully navigate her own life. Like Barley and Ian eventually get to doing. On my better days I know I'll get to Laurel's level. On my worse days I feel like the Almighty DM penalized a level or two off my character.
Lady Lost
2023-04-25 08:53:47 +0000 UTCThis is random...but what you said about Inside Out reminded me of a quote my professor said about grief and suffering "you can never say to someone 'I know just what you're going through' because nobody processes things in the exact same way. All you can same to someone who is suffering/grieving is 'I love you! I care! or, I'm here!" As always fantastic episode! Will there be a part 2?
Kate Larson
2023-04-25 03:32:06 +0000 UTCDamn you! LOL, no seriously...I've just been informed by my 12 year old that I need to watch your number one parent and be more like her! LOL, oh dear...
Traci Koehler
2023-04-24 17:29:14 +0000 UTCThank you, that means a lot. Have a great day! :)
Cinema Therapy
2023-04-24 16:46:59 +0000 UTCGreat Episode as always guys. As a person that has just recently turned 18 and in no way near having children anytime soon it is so interesting to hear you guys talk about your experiences when it comes to parenting. While watching I also thought about that it might be interesting to cover parent and child relationships, be that via blood relation or adopted. Mainly thinking about Joel and Ellie from the last of us here, but there might be some more.
_emely0518_
2023-04-24 16:46:20 +0000 UTCThat is alright. It just popped out after watching the episode. I always look forward to your videos regardless. Hope you and your families are safe and happy. Have a nice day you guys.
goonghana .
2023-04-24 16:25:37 +0000 UTCGreat ep guys!!
alia
2023-04-24 16:09:43 +0000 UTCI'm thinking on how I got here, and I think it stems from my frustration with people standing on their side of the argument, doing nothing to fix the actual problem because neither side is willing to give an inch. They stand on their egos and nothing gets fixed -- it just stays broken with their egos intact. 😑
Angie
2023-04-24 16:06:32 +0000 UTCThat's a great idea, but we film and plan videos months in advance, so unfortunately it's too late for those.
Cinema Therapy
2023-04-24 16:06:19 +0000 UTCBlame -- it's an ongoing lesson and also a reminder for us as the parents -- I'm teaching our kids that blame has no place in a conversation unless we're using it to solve a problem. If we're not solving a problem, blame only serves to make people angry and hurt feelings, which does not help with furthering a loving relationship. Kids are 6, 9, and 12. And I really do believe this; it's not something I'm just teaching my kids but don't follow. I feel like in most situations, blame falls to no single person; everyone has a piece of it and can use that data to work on themselves. Later the lesson for my kids will be that another place to utilize the tool of "blame" is to allow everyone space for their feelings, but with "I" statements. "I felt hurt when this thing happened because _____"
Angie
2023-04-24 15:57:05 +0000 UTCInside out ALWAYS makes me cry. Thank you for this episode. 10/10
Holly✌️
2023-04-24 15:55:50 +0000 UTCThis is so fun. Maybe you should find movies, from different genres, and do a best and worst woman parental figures for mother's day and do the same for the man parental figures on Father's day. That would be a lot of fun.
goonghana .
2023-04-24 15:51:19 +0000 UTCAnother great episode from the CT team. I remember when I was 12 and watched Inside Out for the first time, I was stuck on it for weeks, just watching it over and over again because I felt like there was something there that I was missing. And it was every bit of it. Realizing that as an adult with more maturity just makes it that much better of a movie and I still cry when I watch it.
Eli Solen
2023-04-24 15:49:30 +0000 UTCYesssssss!
Holly✌️
2023-04-24 15:11:58 +0000 UTCLove this!
Ali
2023-04-24 15:05:05 +0000 UTC
