DIRECTOR'S CUT: Therapist Reacts to UP and Grief
Added 2022-12-04 15:00:06 +0000 UTCHow do you find happiness and purpose in life after loss?
Licensed therapist Jonathan Decker and filmmaker Alan Seawright are both crying because they’re reacting to Pixar’s Up. They talk about Carl’s reluctance to move on and find a new life without Ellie, and they cry watching the montage about their life. They talk about Pixar’s perfect screenplay and physical comedy, and they cry about that. They discuss how life can continue after loss, finding new joys and purpose, and Jonathan almost leaves and lets Alan do the show by himself because Up is his kryptonite.. Oh, and Michael Giacchino’s heart-wrenching score makes them cry too.
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Brian Blessed, who voiced the Gungan King, said every time he did that jowl sound, George Lucas told him, "You know, you just cost me $70,000 to animate that."
Asymetra
2024-09-26 03:28:20 +0000 UTCI finally worked up the courage to watch this one. Thank you guys. It didn’t disappoint. ❤️
Denise Dilworth
2024-07-14 22:38:03 +0000 UTCI'm going through an amicable but 100% unexpected divorce. I've watched this video at least a dozen times to try and remind myself that there can be hope again. I just hope that there is another person out there for me.
Ryan Coert
2024-06-22 22:54:40 +0000 UTCDamn you, Pixar, I'm crying in the trailer before the intro of the video
Nacho Franco
2024-04-24 21:29:53 +0000 UTCFinally watched this episode. Thank you, Cinema Therapy. This is an episode that took me inside my own memories so much, I had to keep rewinding to see what I missed.
Melissa
2024-03-27 19:46:49 +0000 UTCThey even animated the stubble on his chin to look so real! I say this because my grandpa had it, and when we would give him a hug, or a kiss on the cheek we could feel it scratch our cheek. That may sound weird, but it is a vivid and endearing memory of my grandpa. I look at these two and I see my grandparents. Man, I am so lucky to have had them in my life… well my heart feels like it’s been torn out… Thanks, Pixar.
Hannah Rose 🥀🎵
2024-03-12 05:37:04 +0000 UTCI remember watching Disney Pixar’s UP in the cinema , there wasn’t a dry eye in the cinema all I could hear was sniffing and crying not just from myself 😅 I had over six boxes of tissues and a spare bag I was handing and passing the tissues round the cinema surprisingly all boxes went round everyone 😅 after the movie was finished I held the bag open for everyone to stick there tear and snot soaked tissues into couldn’t get over how heavy the bag was 😅 this movie was an absolute masterpiece big Michael Giacchino fan brilliant composer 👌☮️💚🥹
☮️🪬Sonar IllusionFox🪬☮️
2023-12-17 23:15:14 +0000 UTCI lost both of my parents and it was a struggle. Between April and June, that is the time I struggle the most. Everything associated with my parents (their birthdays , when they both passed away,Mother's Day & Father's Day); all of that happens during that time. That is the time I isolate myself as much as I can and take it one day at a time. I do work, sure, but afterwards, the memories are what get to me. Up still makes me cry to this day. I know grief is something we all go through. I just protect my soul by getting through it alone (although this year I have a therapist helping me to work on my grief and not to be afraid to share)
Audrey D Clark
2023-05-28 22:11:02 +0000 UTCsix minutes in and i'm in tears. i always forget how hard the beginning of this film GETS ME.
Magnus Taliesin
2023-03-03 18:56:46 +0000 UTCLaughter through tears!
Cinema Therapy
2023-01-14 19:44:14 +0000 UTCWow I am wasted. I literally burst into tears when Jono (am I even allowed to call you that, Sir? ) told what happened that morning when his mother died. So emotional. I feel for you! You have such a great mixture. After a very emotional scene - and I always cry with you, even more in this show where its both of you - you place some funny joke scene or go into the next scene with a remark, so that I am in tears and still feel the grief or sadness and bursting already into laughing out loud. For one its confusing but fun. But if anyone would observe me without context, I am sure they draw the wrong conclusions. This patreon is worth every cent! I love your show!
Stephenie Zoé Vee Siegmann
2023-01-14 15:16:12 +0000 UTCWe have them on our YouTube videos! The only reason we don't have them here is because Patreon doesn't support them yet. But they say it's coming soon as it's a highly requested and necessary feature.
Cinema Therapy
2023-01-09 14:58:10 +0000 UTCI kindly request subtitles... ^_^
Tiffany Hsu
2023-01-07 09:20:29 +0000 UTCYes! Who else can play a (lovable) grumpy old man and Santa Claus?
Kendra Jucksch
2022-12-18 05:58:14 +0000 UTCDoes anyone know the Intro/Outro music they use in their videos?
RealGuyBestGuy
2022-12-14 21:46:36 +0000 UTCWhen I saw this, the first thing that popped into my head was "Welcome to the episode where they're both going to cry. A lot. Non stop." All the love, I cried my eyes out like a baby when I first watched this movie.
Saly Entislia
2022-12-10 18:09:46 +0000 UTCI had already destroyed a tissue before the opening. Now 5 tissues later, I will find happiness by putting up my Christmas tree
Jessica Reeves
2022-12-10 15:14:10 +0000 UTCWhen this show came out my 9 month old daughter was about to have a bone marrow transplant to hopefully cure her cancer. I had not left the hospital in months. I also hadn't cried, and I knew I needed to. I'd heard about this movie on the radio and thought it might be the catalyst I needed. So I got someone else to stay with my baby and went to the show. Boy was I right. I was a mess and sobbed, but really needed it. I got all my crying out so I could be strong for my daughter through what turned out to be a rough next two years. I haven't been able to watch the show again since then. Thank you for doing this show and reminding me what a great movie it is.
Emily Powers
2022-12-07 18:15:50 +0000 UTCAnd can we talk about Ed Asner?!
E Noonan
2022-12-07 08:16:34 +0000 UTCYou guys should do an episode on TBI and/or memory loss
Caleb Holt-Fitzgerald
2022-12-07 00:00:47 +0000 UTCSo happy you did this movie. Can’t watch now. Glad it’s here for the future.
Jen Gelber
2022-12-06 21:27:56 +0000 UTCYou guys lived up to this one 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 one of the best episodes yet
Omen the Black Cat
2022-12-06 19:14:11 +0000 UTCI agree!!
Shelby Scheer
2022-12-06 19:13:07 +0000 UTCSame for you too, my friend
_forestzy
2022-12-06 15:31:16 +0000 UTCDid that help?
Corinne
2022-12-06 15:06:40 +0000 UTCAlso might I request Klaus on Netflix. That movie is phenomenal.
Evs
2022-12-06 15:06:03 +0000 UTCIt's iconic!
Corinne
2022-12-06 15:05:43 +0000 UTCThis movie helped me move on after my cousin passed away. It honestly made me think “if he can do it, so can I”
Evs
2022-12-06 15:05:18 +0000 UTCI just found out yesterday that I have a higher risk for dementia due to a variety of health problems. No memory problems yet, but frightened. My twin has been a godsend and continues to be. Good luck.
LISAMACnCHEESE
2022-12-06 15:04:44 +0000 UTCA perfect movie - that also made the word SQUIRREL into eternal shorthand for ADHD. Thank you, Pixar.
Madeleine Bock
2022-12-06 11:29:24 +0000 UTCGods this made me cry when I needed it to. I currently have the most amazing boyfriend in the world, he is literally my other peice, like we've already spent other lifetimes together. On both sides of my family there are chances of dementia and currently with my neurodivergency I already struggle with my memory. This movie, Carl and El's dynamic, it makes me want to cherish every moment with him, spend every minute I can with him, so later if I do end up with dementia, I can just look at him and feel those memories though I can't recall what they are. When that time comes for both of us, I hope we can meet again in another life and do it all over again
_forestzy
2022-12-06 05:22:34 +0000 UTCJust casually sobbing on my lunch break. Thanks, guys! 😂😭 Don’t worry, I pulled it together for my next meeting. 😛
Jenna Tomlinson
2022-12-06 04:23:42 +0000 UTCWow, yeah, thank you for that perspective! Jesus definitely had struggles himself and you’re right, he did need others. Definitely something I can remember when I’m feeling like she doesn’t see me as enough (whether she means it that way or not). I have been actually trying to find ways to come to an understanding about it with her. That might be a helpful thought her and I could agree on. There are many who struggle with mental health in scriptures, and aren’t written as just being under Satan’s influence.
Donut_Worry
2022-12-06 03:54:29 +0000 UTCI get it about church. When I was growing up your level of faith was measured by how you *felt* about God. My feelings would regularly beat me up so I assumed my faith wasn't strong enough. Jesus needed 12 disciples to help him in his work and for friendship and encouragement. He understood the importance of community. Your soul is your own.
LISAMACnCHEESE
2022-12-06 03:33:13 +0000 UTCI mean I'm more like Alan in that everything will make me cry...but yeh if something is genuinely beautiful and more tender it adds that feeling over overwhelm that I have trouble dealing with. If something is beautiful as well as sad it's like someone caused a wound with the sadness but the beauty added salt to it. It's healing but it hurt...so more likely to make me cry. Fine pixar just double punch me immediately. Thanks a lot. I'm glad this movie is healing for you.
Teesh W
2022-12-06 02:00:03 +0000 UTCRequest for grab bag of mystery: Alan's list of perfect screenplays
Jilliannnnnnn
2022-12-05 21:56:06 +0000 UTCI'm so glad this got the pick! For the first time ever this year, I lost a close friend to a sudden death, and I think about her a lot and all the things that we wanted to do and couldn't. I know she'd be proud of me even though I'm not doing the thing I initially thought I would do when we first met, and I like to think she's laughing at me from the afterlife while I cry like a teeny tiny baby over this movie.
Kodie Cummings
2022-12-05 19:38:55 +0000 UTCIposted this as a comment, but wanted to break it out so people can post their ideas and requests for songs and shorts. :) There are some seriously legit music videos that are basically shorts, as well as shorts by Pixar like Bao, Luna, Lava, etc. Could we request reaction to those, CT? Pretty please?? My thoughts: 1. Hurt by Johnny Cash 2. This Was Just a Dream by Carrie Underwood 3. Anymore, Tell Me I Was Dreaming, & If I Lost You by Travis Tritt 4. Pixar / Disney shorts - Far From the Tree (TALK ABOUT generational trauma!! To me, this is what God & Moses are talking about in Exodus about the sins and blessings being passed from generation to generation.) as well as the others listed above. :)
just me
2022-12-05 19:30:25 +0000 UTCI think that's one of the reasons I avoid this movie... I lost my Papa when I was 10.. and Grandma when I was 35. 25 years without the person who completed her, and yet she lived through it, learned how to live on her own, and still enjoyed life thoroughly until the end. ❤️
just me
2022-12-05 19:19:19 +0000 UTCAll props to Nine Inch Nails and Trent Reznor... but that song is Johnny Cash's life in 4 minutes. I absolutely adore his version! (Oooh... there are some seriously legit music videos that are basically shorts, as well as shorts by Pixar like Bao, Luna, Lava, etc. Could we request reaction to those, CT? Pretty please??)
just me
2022-12-05 19:16:40 +0000 UTCI love 'Up', but I totally skip the beginning now; I don't want to ugly cry at the START of a movie, that's just embarrassing (side-eye to the 'Lion King', that opening song makes me cry every time too).
Teah Durst
2022-12-05 18:50:26 +0000 UTCAh back to the Erikson stages, Ego Integrity vs. Despair. Carl was definitely stuck in despair.
Megan Rizzo
2022-12-05 18:16:05 +0000 UTCThanks! And that’s definitely true about feeling flawed as a parent if something is wrong. She always is resistant to my viewpoint when I explain things I struggle with for that reason. For example, I recently got diagnosed with Dyscalculia (math learning disability), and for years I told her I thought I had it, and it would have been so much cheaper/easier if I had just been tested as a kid, but she always argued saying it was the schools fault and they confused me, or I didn’t work hard enough and do the 3rd grade math workbooks she got me as a teen (I was too embarrassed by the workbooks, but I actually also spent extra hours after school with teachers trying to help me understand things, and even went to the office in middle school and got myself in an extra enrichment math class). She didn’t want to accept that I would have had a much better experience if she had gotten me tested and I got the extra help I needed. It was easier to blame the school program, or myself for not doing enough. After not making it into my chosen program because of too many attempts to pass my math requirement, I only just barely paid a fortune to get diagnosed now as an adult, and with accommodations, was finally able to get my associates degree this summer, while pregnant, after a 6yr break from the 4 earlier attempts at the required math class…the only credit I had left to at least get my associates. It shouldn’t take someone 10yrs to get their associates degree lol. But yeah, I don’t think she is intending on being mean, I think she just doesn’t want to acknowledge that there could be something wrong with her child that she missed. She also doesn’t want me to lose faith, and wants to make sure I do all the churchy things, but there’s a time and a place, and it’s okay to accept professional help and not just rely on the Lord. (Sorry if you’re not religious, but I hope that still makes sense) —Sorry for the novel 🤦🏻♀️ haha.
Donut_Worry
2022-12-05 17:20:10 +0000 UTCIt was a fantastic job!
KrissyArtist
2022-12-05 16:29:24 +0000 UTCLegit went and got some sleep, got a box of tissue and a coffee, mentally prepared myself, and then clicked play.
Gryff
2022-12-05 16:01:49 +0000 UTCEvery pore!
Gryff
2022-12-05 15:57:54 +0000 UTC"Is your soul not moistened?" I am dead with that. Needed that laugh after the tears. My dad was 84 and passed away last year just before Christmas. The time I was able to spend with him was so priceless and this movie has hit in a different way thinking about my mom being a widower and me without my dad. I miss him a lot and Carl has some things that remind me a lot about him. Damn you Pixar.
Briana Lindberg
2022-12-05 15:54:47 +0000 UTCgee thanks!
Wesley Gunder
2022-12-05 14:52:43 +0000 UTCSometimes parents can have a mean streak if they feel any struggles their kids have are a direct attack on their current or past parenting. And that's true if the kid is 10 or 20 or 50. Your mom is wrong. Be kind to yourself and take your time. Some parents got the same kind of feedback from *their* parents. Hard to break the cycle.
LISAMACnCHEESE
2022-12-05 13:33:09 +0000 UTCHa, it’s all good, I still love her very much, and I also have therapy, which has been helpful. She’s even babysat for me while I’ve gone haha.
Donut_Worry
2022-12-05 11:26:46 +0000 UTCAs soon as Carl pins the Ellie badge on Russell I lost it. My soul WAS moistened 😭
Bec B
2022-12-05 10:38:44 +0000 UTCLol. Especially with my kids. - Jonathan
Cinema Therapy
2022-12-05 08:03:15 +0000 UTCWhat a beautiful idea. - Jonathan
Cinema Therapy
2022-12-05 08:02:59 +0000 UTCYeah, Addams Family is a good palatte-cleanser. So much fun!
Cinema Therapy
2022-12-05 08:02:37 +0000 UTCIt's a freaking knockout.
Cinema Therapy
2022-12-05 08:02:07 +0000 UTCI feel you. This shoot took it out of me like no other. - Jonathan
Cinema Therapy
2022-12-05 08:00:39 +0000 UTCYikes. - Jonathan
Cinema Therapy
2022-12-05 08:00:08 +0000 UTCThe symbolism is so rich in this movie. - Jonathan
Cinema Therapy
2022-12-05 07:59:52 +0000 UTCI'm so sorry. I'm sure that's incredibly hard. Hoping for good things for you to come! -Jonathan
Cinema Therapy
2022-12-05 07:59:31 +0000 UTCAlan is currently working on his next movie :) I used to volunteer at senior living facilities. It fed my soul. - Jonathan
Cinema Therapy
2022-12-05 07:58:43 +0000 UTCLol. We'll take it!
Cinema Therapy
2022-12-05 07:57:10 +0000 UTCPossibly the most quoted line in all of cinema history -- "squirrel"!!
Neurotic Cow
2022-12-05 00:21:36 +0000 UTCReminds me of the old episode in MASH where BJ is grieving being away at war while is tiny daughter grows up. After he wallows alot and is mean to all around him Hooligan calls him out and says, "Maybe you've lost alot, but its only because you've got the most!" He learns to count his blessings.
LISAMACnCHEESE
2022-12-04 20:01:35 +0000 UTCSo after this I went and re-watched some more Cinema Therapy videos, cried some more, then I watched Johnny Cash’s Hurt. I’m DONE crying today, guys. I’m watching the Addam’s Family CT video next. No more tears for me today! Tear duct workout is done! Thanks, Alan and Jonathan for the hard work.
Darcie Daniels
2022-12-04 19:27:49 +0000 UTCUgh...I thought your Inside Out reaction got me, but this one got me GOOD! It has been a while since I've watched Up, and I both want and don't want to rewatch it. Such a good movie!!!
Mollie Justin
2022-12-04 19:15:18 +0000 UTCI saw the notification for this, saw it was UP and said, “damn you, Cinema Therapy!” 😂😂😂 because I knew I was going to snot all over myself . Thank you for never disappointing :)
Lucy
2022-12-04 19:10:43 +0000 UTC“Emotional Vulnerability is just Satan” That sounds like something my mom would say. 😝🫣Who needs validation, ammirite? But literally, when I try to explain my mental health, she actually has said multiple diff occasions, “That’s just Satan”. Sooo, I’m his fav vacation home at this point.
Donut_Worry
2022-12-04 18:25:35 +0000 UTCYou're right to talk about the scene with the photos but my favourite has always been the one right after, where Carl tosses out all his old stuff (except for the weather vane and the sheets as he still needs them) and the house flies again.
Tommi Horttana
2022-12-04 17:28:57 +0000 UTC1) My partner and I are currently separating after 5 years together. Although we both hoped to grow old together like Ellie and Carl, we've run into some incompatibilities that tell us it's time to move to the next adventure. I'm sad, I'm grieving, it sucks, and this episode was both an excellent catharsis for getting some tears out and a loving reminder that there is life after loss and it can still be amazing even if it didn't turn out the way you'd hoped. 2) Sophie, can we have a montage video of all the weird sounds Alan and Jono have made throughout the show? #herbahbahbahbahbah
Kristine Amdor
2022-12-04 17:04:11 +0000 UTCAfter working in a senior living facility this movie hits home. It also reminds me of my grandparents who are still alive. Making connections with the elderly is one of the most interesting experiences in life. I recently just left my job at the senior facility do to my morals being put into question and the hardest part was knowing I was leaving the residents and some of them I may never see again. I love this movie and everything about it. It's just one of those perfect family movies that not only tells a great story, but also teaches you a great lesson and I'm grateful for that. I think part of the reason we all love disney and Pixar so much is they just have a great way of telling stories and relating to people and life. Thanks disney and Pixar for all the wonderful movies you have brought us. (Now start making more of these movies instead of live action remakes please!)
KrissyArtist
2022-12-04 16:18:41 +0000 UTCDamn you, Cinema Therapy, er, Pixar!
Darcie Daniels
2022-12-04 16:05:14 +0000 UTCI lost my dad a little over five weeks ago. And… idk if y’all are religious or not but y’all two and this vid really feels like it’s Him going ‘hey, it’s gonna be okay, I know it’s hard rn, you’ll get though this’. Thank you for this. This helped me a lot.
Leslie Daley
2022-12-04 15:27:30 +0000 UTCMan... Pixar made a love story deeper and more true in one montage than Disney ever did in a two hour movie!! There's such richness to an entire life together, with all of its ups and downs.
just me
2022-12-04 15:09:49 +0000 UTCI know I'm gonna cry so much at this episode 😭😭
alia
2022-12-04 15:06:23 +0000 UTCOh goodness, I don't know if I'm prepared for this... 😶
Yani Dodge
2022-12-04 15:01:20 +0000 UTC
