Therapy Deep Dive: Attachment Styles
Added 2024-08-14 15:00:11 +0000 UTCLicensed therapist Jonathan Decker does a deep dive on attachment styles and what they all mean. He explains how attachment styles are developed, and he shares his personal experience with them. Jonathan recommends therapy (of course!) and the book Secure Love by Julie Menanno if you want to dive further into attachment theory.
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Honestly, don't sweat it at all. Always good to check with the recipient of such comments, because many people don't like that. But I'm not used to people commenting on my appearance so I appreciate the positive feedback.
Cinema Therapy
2024-08-20 17:59:15 +0000 UTCAlways powerful stuff here thanks again. I have found that unshaming myself via writing to be helpful in changing anxious and avoidant patterns of behavior. Unshaming it by experiencing the emotion and saying "this emotion is trying to help me, it kept me alive (past tense). It is no longer the past" has helped me a lot. I hope others see this video and the comments too and know that they are not alone too.
Xemjas
2024-08-20 17:43:11 +0000 UTCMy apologies and thank you for pointing it out so I could correct it.
Anna Murray
2024-08-15 20:30:12 +0000 UTCNot an appropriate comment.
Smidge
2024-08-15 20:27:03 +0000 UTCThis was great info! Apologies for being inappropriate.
Anna Murray
2024-08-15 18:48:49 +0000 UTCAll right, Jono, a longstanding question for you: Can your attachment style change based on who you are attaching to? For instance, can you be securely attached to Jo, avoidantly attached to Sam, and anxiously attached to Max? Is that being Mystique-ly attached?
leafsheepz
2024-08-15 18:28:47 +0000 UTCAlso, for anyone who may not be aware, Jono runs another YouTube channel with Alicia called Mended Light. There are many wonderful videos on there where they get more into these different attachment styles. Strongly recommend for people to check them out, too!
SaucyJTD
2024-08-15 01:35:56 +0000 UTCRough childhood made me anxiously attached to friends and romantic interests and avoidant with my family, especially my mom. I'm not nearly as bad as I used to be by any stretch of means, but the anxious attachment still rears its ugly head when I'm feeling unconfident. I've been working toward secure attachment with myself for years now. It's really difficult, and I'm truly proud of the progress I've made thus far. Which then frustrates me for those rare occasions where I meet someone whose opinions actually matter because I backslide some lol. I can eventually work past it, which is great. It just takes time and work from me.
SaucyJTD
2024-08-15 00:51:24 +0000 UTCI always thought that I was Avoidant by nature, but watching tiff made me realize that I lean more toward Anxious.
TheRentFan
2024-08-14 20:17:32 +0000 UTCI’m 100% Disorganised Attachment , I’m a mix of the two , I have a lot of trust issues definitely stemmed from one parent , I’m finding it to much of a challenge to tackle it , I do question it when it comes to love and my natural instinct to to challenge them on it to see if there true to that or just flanneling me because it’s something I wanna hear …. low self esteem and no confidence sucks when you lack both 😔
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2024-08-14 19:55:21 +0000 UTCThat was really useful knowledge. I wonder what if anything I can get from my therapist regarding having relationship problems with people who have a different attachment style. Thx for alerting me to this. I often look at the relationship a guy has with his mom to indicate to me what I should look forward to too, but this goes deeper.
Lynettra
2024-08-14 16:04:15 +0000 UTCBeen watching CT for a while and noticed a lot of similarities between you and me in regards to growing up with being bullied, being too much, and relationship issues. Finally started seeing a therapist last month, I’m ready to commit to change. For me personally I’d love to hear more about anxious attachment and also hyper independence and co-dependence. I struggle a lot with the latter. Porous and rigid boundaries is also another one. I’d be interested in hearing about. Thanks for doing these, I find them super informative and helpful.
Clay
2024-08-14 15:42:51 +0000 UTCI have a disorganized attachment, but I have been working in becoming secure by taking myself out on dates. Doing things by myself without anyone else's interference lets me experience the activity true to myself, not trying to do it how I think they want me to. And doing things on my own has been helping me regain confidence and realize that J am actually pretty cool.
Smeeson
2024-08-14 15:17:29 +0000 UTC
