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Added 2024-10-01 03:49:15 +0000 UTCJust rambling about some identity stuff (some personal experiences) and gender-non-conformity, transness, whatever blah blah, the complexity of being a human being. I'll link the video I was talking about here:
Alexander Avila's Video;
https://youtu.be/a4r0CoXsGmk?si=JICtbil3Y1tQCvJd
Leave as little or as much as you'd like in the comments sharing your own experiences and thoughts on whatever. You are valid to be who you are, and you are allowed to be complex and inconsistent and fluid and flowing. You are alive and you are experiencing life every moment. You are always changing, and allowed to change. I encourage you to make room for self-exploration, and for self-love. Whoever you have been, may be, and will become, I hope you can love yourself in all of your forms.
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I definitely agree it’s why I try to use as little labels as possible when describing myself because when people see a label especially when it’s concerning politics, religion, or gender identity they immediately jump to having either a positive or negative reaction to it and I’d rather people form their own views of me without any bias. What I said about labels also applies to groups and fandoms which also causes people to jump to conclusions based on their own views or what they heard others said about those groups and fandoms thus painting all members of it with the same brush. the bigger the group the worse it gets because when there’s a lot of people banded together there’s a higher chance for some of those people to be bad people and those people because the poster children of the groups they’re apart of because they’re often the loudest and people who are infamous get more attention then those who are famous especially online. It’s why so many people view the LGBT community as a whole as a bunch of sexual predators or worse, and when the good people in the community try to explain themselves or disown those who’ve done bad they’re ignored because the masses have already painted them all with the same brush and refuse to engage with them. Then those same people go around saying stuff like “the Trans are coming after our kids!” Which causes further damage LGBT people as whole because the majority of people buy into that fear mongering.
Grey
2025-06-20 21:03:48 +0000 UTCI agree over simplification of a person's identity and expression for the sake of societal norms holds all of us back. 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵🏳️⚧️🫂
Tiffany Brown
2024-10-17 17:26:38 +0000 UTCthank you for sharing this!! it's really important for people to welcome the nuance around the complicated topic of identity. it's different for everyone, and terms themselves can be complex with their given history in real life and on the internet. people are always changing, some more than others, but I don't think we should fear or demonize that change.
Rin Duong
2024-10-16 02:27:21 +0000 UTCI'm glad that you made this showing your stance on all of this. Personally, I don't think the femboy label is inherently bad, although I never got too deep into the community, but I know that it went much deeper than what I got to, especially on tiktok and other places (none of which I care for, so don't bother with, which probably helped in me not getting too deep into the "dark side of femboys") I started off as cishet male, then went to cis pan male, then internally questioning pan male?, then FEMBOY pan male, finally ending up with somewhere around transfem tomboy/biker chick. I got to where I am now, not by waking up and thinking, "huh, I'm a girl", but by trying different labels and seeing what worked, then adding or taking them off. I will still probably be changing them until I die, but that's how life goes and I wouldn't want to still be cishet male, since I've learned so much about myself and others by being open to new labels. My point is, I don't think that any label is inherently bad, it depends on who is saying it, what it means to them, what the label means to others around them and also where the conversation is happening. The internet isn't the right place to have certain labels, even if they are "SFW", since as you said, they can attract the wrong people. Here at least, the whole f-boy (that looks bad without context) thing is your choice and I'm glad that you can make that call and be willing to speak about it. Also, I never knew you were trans, and am very jealous of your vocal range, even moreso now than before My full list of labels I currently use would be something around transfem tomboy/biker/rocker/metalhead/musician/pansexual/nerd/introvert/gamer/engineer/pilot, but that's a whole lot of labels that describe me with some seeming to contradict each other (tranfem tomboy), so I typically would shorten it down to what I feel is most important in the moment, with the other labels being part of me. A label, to me, is simply an identifier, since explaining the nuances of my personality without them would take a long time, so I like them for that, also they give a sense of "this is me, I like this". At the end of the day, everyone will identify differently and have different opinions about different things, but we are all going through changes throughout life and shouldn't be restricted to a single label (male or female). Sorry about long message, hope someone who needs it reads it and it helps them. Stay safe, make the best decision for yourself first, then those you care about.
Tgirl-duck
2024-10-14 23:50:04 +0000 UTCooh yes I definitely can! for me it's on and off, and it's ultimately different for everyone. sometimes it's just "that part doesn't look right" or "I wish this was flatter or bigger" and things like that. for me, it's more of a gender-related dysphoria-- wishing hips weren't so wide, or chest wasn't this or that. In simple and light-hearted terms, I wish for dorito build and was given feminine twink build by default.
Rin Duong
2024-10-12 04:15:53 +0000 UTCcan you describe the feeling of not being comfortable in your own body .(sorry this sounds so rough and you don't have to do it am just curious because am happy for the most part with my body and I am curious about how a person with feelings such as your self sees the world and such )((again am sorry for the long message and for such a hard question )
Niko Malekovic
2024-10-12 01:59:33 +0000 UTCThank you for listening! Your English is good and I understand it <3
Rin Duong
2024-10-11 02:58:28 +0000 UTCHi. I'm your listener from Russia. We don't raise the issue of identity here, so I can't really talk about it (because I don't want to make mistaken statements). But I think, that you are making fair remarks. Sorry for my English 😅 (P.s. love your audios <3)
Sargan
2024-10-10 16:24:08 +0000 UTCI’m really wishing everyone who’s been discriminated for their identity, is lost in life or has been SAd in the past the absolute best. There will be somewhere out there, they could be a few blocks away or in a different continent, who supports every fiber of you and loves you 100% unconditionally, and no matter how much searching it takes, you must find them!!! - Love from a bisexual goofball, KK
KK The Atomizer
2024-10-03 00:53:15 +0000 UTCHey no apologies, really wishing you the best and that, if your family finds out, it’ll go well with them!!
KK The Atomizer
2024-10-03 00:50:04 +0000 UTCI'm not entirely sure what I feel or how I feel through all my time in my life I've been a masculine but I've always felt some way about my feminine side because it gives me some confidence im still very unaware about what I really classify myself as I'm still kinda figuring myself out but I really can't freely explore that Because one side of my family is very anti lgbtq so I feel as I can't ever really express myself unless I eventually get out on my own sorry for the small little rant/explanation >~<
Sil Belmont
2024-10-02 05:53:54 +0000 UTCI'm glad there are more and more spaces to hold the conversation about it. Especially because I have a lot of LGBTQ+ community members, I want to build a safe space in my own community as well :)
Rin Duong
2024-10-01 17:34:53 +0000 UTCAs one of them genderfluid folks, i find this kind of discussion just the most interesting (and often times important) things
Weirdo
2024-10-01 10:31:09 +0000 UTCMate. Your analytical nature in how carefully you wish to navigate these topics shows how deeply you care for your community. Don't worry, you're doing great!
G_274
2024-10-01 06:24:48 +0000 UTCThanks for sharing this, Jasper. I'm so sorry about the SA incident - it's unfortunately common and it was absolutely NOT your fault. I'm happy to hear that you've found balance within yourself with your identity and I hope you continue your life full of self love and acceptance ❤︎
Rin Duong
2024-10-01 05:21:45 +0000 UTCSorry for the long message apologies if it's too long to read all of it but best of luck to you Mitsu.
Jonathan Blaylock
2024-10-01 04:19:35 +0000 UTCMitsu we are here for you and thank you for feeling comfortable telling us about you being trans. I'm thankful that you trust us so much. I understand that you will not longer be using the word Femboy and I understand completely and I agree and respect it. Thank you for being so welcoming to us and to me. I wish you work continues to go crazy well for you. I'm sorry that you missed out on your childhood but I'm glad that you are here with us. Just be you and only you can br you. Thank you.
Jonathan Blaylock
2024-10-01 04:17:33 +0000 UTCI was always bullied for being feminine and then when I thought well maybe I’m a girl, I got SA and broke my identity. I started acting more masculine and not shaving or anything and got more comfortable with being a man. I realize that I’m both masculine and feminine thanks to wicca, I have both inside me and they’re balanced now. I have decided to just identify as male, after awhile of battling identity issues I can say that I am happier since I’ve lived both lives… I’m just a person I don’t care what gender I am or anything like that anymore… I’m just me…
Jasper💕
2024-10-01 03:56:47 +0000 UTCdid you just address me as Sigma LMAO
Rin Duong
2024-10-01 03:54:15 +0000 UTCSigma, I won't be able to listen cus I'm at the bros house🤣
Jahrana
2024-10-01 03:52:48 +0000 UTC
