'She's not yours, It's just your turn" and why this phrase hurts.

Out of all the redpill maxims, "she's not yours, it's just your turn" seems to be the one hitting the mainstream the most. Whether it be on TikTok and IG reels of young men lifting and trying to garner sympathy for their failed college relationship or on podcasts where intelligent men try to explain to nearly braindead female twitch streamers the reason they're perpetually single, this phrase is the one that has garnered the most attention. 

It's also the phrase that seems to get the most emotional responses from men, as it challenges their bluepill idealism and their ego. Realizing the all the work they've done in their life will not guarantee a woman's loyalty forever is hard task for any blue pill or purple pill idealist. Why does it hurt so much? 

As humans, we like safety and predictable outcomes. As men we want to solve problems. We know unpredictability is just another facet of interfacing with nature so we accept it, BUT we do everything we can to mitigate it as it is a survival tactic. Same thing with relationships. We are taught as men many ways to keep the love of our life satisfied, whether it be through self-sacrifice (lol) or performing at the highest level. When faced with this mental model, men feel invalidated in their efforts and feeling that there is nothing they can do to stop women's innate mating strategy, hypergamy. 

Cowardice also comes up to refute validity of this statement. It's "giving up" as if tying your self worth and happiness to your relationship is any better. It is quite the opposite of cowardice. Deciding to live life according to your own wants and standards rather than have your bravery be defined by the fickle whims of a woman sounds cooler and more heroic than fighting to keep a girl in your life. 

Women don't like this phrase because it goes against their sexual strategy of hijacking men's unrelenting sacrificial nature for their own comfort and goals. It gives men more power over their sexual destiny and allows men to understand what paradigm they're operating in, to the detriment of bad women. 

In trying to understand this phrase, realize that women are not property. They have no chips on them to track them down (their phones don't count), there is no law that prevents them from leaving, and there are no legal consequences if they leave (divorce usually favors the women) so you can't hold them against their will. Women also move on faster due to biological reasons. They are designed to need men's protection and they can't be very well protected by a weak, dead, or absent man. 

Owning a car vs. Renting a car. A metaphor used by Rian Stone. When renting a car and you crash it you simply call the insurance company, sort it out, maybe go to the hospital and get a new car almost right away. When you own a car, there is much more legal footwork, and personal responsibility you must take. Renting a car is more fun and carefree versus ownership which involves worrying about every scratch and noise you hear as you drive. Think about that. 

For guys that hate this phrase, it could also be an attack on their ego. "No guy is better than me" is dangerous thinking as it could be contested at any moment. Thinking that your some kind of perfect being and that your relationship status reflects that is a dangerous path which could lead to getting zeroed out. In addition to this, you must remember as a man that your not qualifying to a woman's standards. You have your own life path and not having a woman next to you for the ride does not make you less of a man. 

After accepting this mental model, the outcomes in your life are nothing but positive. There is the elusive yet highly sought after outcome independence. You enjoy your girl more because she chooses to be with you everyday and can leave at any moment making time with her that much sweeter. You accept abundance as the best state and understand women will come and go in your life. Finally, you understand women's true nature and start accepting them for what they are, not for what they could never be. 

- Nuke