Why Vetting Doesn't Work

We've all heard the phrase: "You should have chose better" when trying to ineffectually explain to women why other women were bad to us. Incredibly frustrating conversations aside, this misunderstanding, and perhaps willful misunderstanding, really drives the wedge between the sex's understanding of each other deeper than people think.

Men want women to understand them. Women do not want to accept accountability for their behavior, let alone other women's behavior. The solution for them is to pass the blame to the individual man and blame inability to vet on his lack of morality, skills with women, and overall incompetence at life. Makes sense.

The truth is vetting doesn't work.

"What? But the all the manosphere dudes told me to vet properly!"

How do you vet properly, dear reader? Do you set up a list of things that include morals, behavior, attitude, body type, race, etc? Why do men, especially inexperienced men, make up these lists?

• It will shield them from future problems in the divorce

• It makes feel special and manly because they are imparting their values on the world

• They're continuing a set of values from their predecessors and that feels good

• They don't want to live up to the burden of performance of being her best option throughout her whole life

• They want to impress other people about how good they are at vetting women

• They are in denial about women changing and you no longer being the best options

There are more reason but they are more fleshed out here in Rian Stone's 7 part post:

https://theredarchive.com/blog/Rian-Stone/vetting-part-i-men-do-not-know-what-they-want.24013

Are there certain things you should avoid at first glance? Yes.

If she's fat, smelly, unlikable etc. But your penis should handle that for you.

Does she pass the boner test? Well, you shouldn't be thinking about commitment anyways. That's her problem. Commitment is her goal, not yours.

The only way to vet women is time. Time drops all masks. Until then you don't have the ability to tell the future: whether she will change, get bored of you, meet a group of divorced women who convince her to leave, and so on and so forth.

There is only one thing you have and that's frame. Is she on your program or not? All that matters. Assess this often and stop being addicted to outcomes. They are prisons.

"She's not yours, it's just your turn". This is a redpill maxim for a reason.

Nuke