PATREON EXCLUSIVE: The Dangers Of Having Too High Standards For The Women You Date

the Psych hospital and we had to rescue them both in the dark. However, they looked HOT. One does not forget those kind of things.

A friend and I picked up two girls about 21-25, at the Conti pub, however they wanted to swim in front of the pub. This was about 1962, however, the girls were from Ka

GREAT advice Alex.

Blair

Thank you very much for this video. I think both genders have unrealistic expectations for their partners. Almost all guys wanting instagram model looking girlfriends are the same when most women want an at least 6 ft tall and fit boyfriend. You won't even notice smaller blemishes when you are in a good relationship and you will be happy regardless. It doesn't mean that you shouldn't try to mantain your best look for your partner of course but you have to be realistic with each other.

Liandra

seems like you are becoming more black pill/realist these days Alex haha

T

Very correct about the growth.

Luis

How did you answer the woman?

beret-doppelganger

You can move before things are perfect. Things as we all know, never are perfect. My thinking thoughtful movement can help you, did me. Had all the things you listed big-time. Your friends that have high-quality GF. Be with them. Your exposure will help you work on your difficulties. With you working to improve yourself. If your friends high-quality Girlfriend likes you. Do-not push this. She may let other high-quality girls know about you. High-quality girls and women do talk to each other. When I read you list of things. Think of myself. Attempting to help and hope I did no harm

Domald

What I’m concerned about is that I’m 20 and I’m already seeing all of the high quality girls getting snapped up! I’ve been suffering from intense depression, anxiety, self esteem issues and trust issues for quite some time now, and I’ve only just begun to work on them. I kind of worry that by the time I’ve got myself sorted out, there won’t be a single high quality woman left!

Hummm... totatly true about western girls and not putting in the effort and guys not knowing better who wind up with a ring in their nose getting yanked by woman because that is the standard they hrew up on via the media. Not true in some other countries. If a guy is hung up on looks etc ... just go hang with her mom. That is what you will wind up with - if she is graceful, charming and gentile and takes care of herself - let along treats the husband well ...your girlfriend came from a good factory. Old saying ..broken factory broken product - and that guys for the guys too. What is amazing is seeing guys who were married with that ring in their nose and on their 2nd round they are tougher and she steps up. Some may even call them jerks/harsh/ etc

K M

When I was dating in my forties, a woman I met asked me: "Why can't men see my inner beauty?" Clearly she thought that she was "pretty enough" and that she should be judged more for her personality qualities to determine her relationship potential. The truth is, the older we become, the more our personality and character wear themselves on our skin - and I do mean literally. When you know what you're looking at, you can in fact judge the book by its cover, and this is particularly true for women. As for this woman, I could see just by looking that her that she had bad self-esteem; she was heavy, wore too much make-up, moved gracelessly and, obviously, fished constantly for validation (which admittedly is not on the skin, but was useful confirmation of the conclusion I'd already come to). There's actually a lot more to evaluating a person's character based on their appearance, but I wanted to make this point: if she doesn't look good to you, then that is your intuition telling you that there's something wrong. It isn't "proof", but it probably isn't far off either. Young women? They haven't lived long enough for their character to have etched itself on their skin. In fact, I don't think it's possible to identify a "quality" young woman at all. They are unproved and unprovable; no matter how they appear, you are absolutely rolling the dice by getting involved. (Best of luck to you.) But, mature women? I can size them up in seconds. And unfortunately, it is as Alexander suggests: the good ones are all taken, and in my generation have been for a long time. As for men like me? Whether we're on our own. Relationships aren't a real possibility. It's not really a matter of having "too high standards". It's more a problem of supply and demand. Time to figure out how to have a quality life as a permanent bachelor.

Compassion and emotional intelligence are important, but they aren't the solution. It's important to be vulnerable, but you need to understand that someone else is going to show you their true colors when you put yourself in this kind of position. If you aren't careful, it can be incredibly easy to become too emotionally invested. It's very important to be disciplined in these conversations and limit them until it is clear your interest is reciprocated. The worst kind of person you can entertain in the long term is an emotional drain.

Many guys instinctively avoid makeup heavy and tanned women so this advice is not really that necessary.

Ignas

Quick tip. If you want “pretty enough” to last as long as possible, avoid girls who tan obsessively and/or don’t take care of their skin. As a 44 year old woman, I can attest that the worst thing that happens as we age (looks wise) is what happens to our skin. It’s brutal. 🥺 A young girl who doesn’t fry her skin and has a good skincare regime is better positioned to maintain her looks much longer compared to others (assuming there aren’t significant weight gain changes or other health issues). Girls who prioritize makeup over skincare when they are young may end up depending on makeup more and more as they get older to cover the ravages of aging. Unless, of course, they decide to give up altogether and just let everything go to pot.

I'm surprised that you said that most still single high quality women are going to be in the <20 year old range. In terms of attractiveness, maybe, but surely the chances that their personality is developed enough for them to be considered high quality is pretty low.

Oh damn I've fallen into this a shitload of times....