PATREON EXCLUSIVE: Do reformed fuckboys deserve a traditional wife?
Added 2023-01-24 05:42:01 +0000 UTC
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Patreon does a reforms. Fuck boy deserve a traditional wife. Tldr: short short: does a reformed F boy deserve a trad wife? I think a reformed F boy should ask himself and does ask himself(or are they really reformed?) The question is that really even what he still wants? ( i do). Someone who has not themselves been through the thick of it and come out the other end, not a pile of sharp edged shards of their former self. being in the trenches and getting out of it makes you appreciate the kind of people who have had to go through those tough times , and I think that strength of character…. proven in real life! is of far greater value than a hymen . tldr: medium version: the expectation to a woman who has been through her hoe face, is the same as to a guy who has been through the F boy face, and while past behaviour is the biggest predictor of future behaviour… that past behaviour is only screwing people to compensate for a problem, then that is the past period, but if you have overcome that and done the work, then that becomes your past behaviour. That past behavior is a strong indicator of a high quality person with the skills needed for a long-term relationship. life will always throw you a curveball. A hot person, completely untested on the field, vs a genuine reformed person, meaning you are a battle tested, and you have made it … If you’re not a complete broken down wreck afterwards, I feel that is a past behaviour that overcoming our problems, looking deep inside yourself, recognising that life is not always smooth, that that is actually a green flag. So does an F boy deserve that trad virgin wife… who knows.. , i would say, a reformed f boy dererves someone who has been through the shit probably appreciates that strength of character, more than a pretty untested facade, ideally you want both, and the one factor is “nice to have” but not really important… Ofcourse idealisticly you want both, but real life is rarely ideal, maybe you can be battle tested without battle… but alas thats rare..… ) 😏 I know I have been mostly projecting outwards with my approach to the topic, woman with a high body count… but let’s keep it a stack… I am kinda if the reformed F boy, this video is referring to. Except getting some was never easy or an afterthought . It was hard work, and I had so much of my self-worth involved with clapping cheeks. I honestly don’t even know my body count. You know how guys will lie up with a body count and women would lie down with a body count. I’m pretty sure I lied to myself about my body count. So I guess the question was i an F boy at all, is relevant… Personally, I would say no … despite outwardly going in, as hard as I could. Figuratively and literally I went hard, but I never went unethical…. Or I tried very hard not to go unethical there though 2 situations, one boarderline, the other i fully crossed a line knowingly (I though sleeping with a college’s wife would help their situation. That if she felt good about her self again , that she would carry that into their situation. That she would be motivated to seek feeling positive. Or at the very least realise that the grass is not greener on the other side… ( 😏 which is a diss to me, but hey i was self sacrificing, so yeah) and others said well now he knows who he is married to.. how did he know. I told him. It was a wierd situation. He was in jail and i was taking care of his life outside i guess. (Yes joke a side ) . I had visited him before often and had now seen his wife’s condition on the decline. When he was sitting off his 6 month sentence for possession of weed, she used to visit ne on the reg, coz sitting alone at home was doing in her mental. She talked about her situation and made jokes with her sexuality, which i didn’t acknowledge or jokingky refuted. “A hot thing like me! Imagine! Id say” hor or bot, seems that did t fix the situation “ (it’s funny. I definitely didn’t pedestalised her or even much admire her and simply on instinct i acted the way you should to build attraction…. I hadn’t discovered the manosphere yet. And it definitely wasn’t intentional. He was clingy in the relationship, he let her get away with … gosh… it was sad to see, anyway) i picked up and drove his mom to visit him on the reg (wife refused though) i even took with dog to the vet on the reg and when the dog had renalfailure took it to be put down. His mom was taking care of the dog. Anyway i came clean to him infront of his mom. I remeber her asking if it was good for me, and answering panicked, this wasnt about me. It was for you. I lied theb sayibg. It was good but didn’t feel goid, if she knew what i meant) I have very much focused on the question, what would redemption for a carousel riding Sheila look like… and it’s very reasonable for a woman to have the same requirements of me… absolutely. Because I can claim all those things that I was desperate, I was actually a good person, just trying to affirm the validity in the world, i I fully believed the world would value me more with a higher body count. 100%. Men would respect me, and woman would, through preselection, desire me . Rationally past behaviour is the best predictor of future behaviour, and it wasn’t the FBoy phase that I would say is a predictor for future behaviour … it was the low self-esteem and clinginess and taking shortcut to a solution for a fundamental problem, that is of most relevant in my future I didn’t enjoy the F boy face and it has left scars. Future partner of mine doesn’t have to worry about me if fing around, I sucked added, and was way too much work for what I actually got out of it. So I honestly feel I’m never going to do that again… but the clinginess and the desperation and the low self-esteem that made me feel I had to do these things, that I was taking a shortcut to solve those low self-esteem, issues and childhood traumas that base line initiator of the FBoy behaviour that should be something a lot more concerning. And that is where redemption had to begin for me Very much like the analogy of an addict, you have to be honest with yourself and look deep inside what caused all this And for the last three years, I have definitely been looking inward as best i can. I am doing the work. And because I recognise the maturity and value in a person overcoming something the process of looking in words and the hard work required to change that baseline and to fix one’s life I value that in people, a virgin woman who has never had any troubles in her life, never been kissed, never had to overcome, is a big risk to me! This person has not been tested by life, and how are they going to react or deal with it? As a reformed F boy, maybe you shouldn’t be even looking for a virgin traditional wife… you have lived real life yet you continue to chase a Disney fantasy… all your life experiences should have taught you… In a way, a reformed party girl has been through the shit, and when she gets with you, it’s not just a off the womb blue eyed decision, there is purpose and experience behind that decision, at least they should be That is the kind of person, you can trust to go with you through thick and thin they have been through the thick and thin themselves and survived it and grown from it and thrived having learned the lessons That is a ride or die partnership… I said you’re previous behaviour is the best indicator for your future behaviour And you have overcome hard times. you are battle tested. I am way past, only wanting Newbys to the game of life, I realise there is more to it than just being hot. What use is the prettiest car if it is going to break down on me as soon as the road gets bumpy… - [ ] I am so much better a man now. I didnt have a great bases to grow from. So i had a lot of catch up to do and grow. And it took a decent chunk of my life, and still will.. but i niw deal with problems differently. F boi was me avoiding something. Distracting myself. That past behavior is hopefully gone. Do i deserve a trad, virgin? Um i dont deserve anything. Do I now have the qualities of a good man which would make the equivalent a trad virgin… maybe… But through the process of getting here, do I even want a trad, virgin? And that is a clear, no. Again, who cares how pretty the car as if it doesn’t drive well…. Lol ok that was just the first 3 minutes… Im going for a 10k run and will listen to rest. Then edit this text…. It’s been a couple of weeks since this video and I forgot to continue the text. Out of recollection, I can’t say I have many new thoughts, I would have to rewatch the video… and im behind on maybe 5 videos. With commenting thats alot of hours But an analogy was made to a recovering addict And I think that was so fitting to the process and the quality is and introspection required to beat a habit, especially long term. Lastly, I would like to ask for compassion regarding my long and very personal text. Speaking about an issue helps me process the issue. And processing my life thus far and what has happened and how that affects the future us one of my primary goes at present. Please bare with me.
Peter
2023-02-19 10:20:07 +0000 UTCI gotta watch this video. That quote is soooooo true
Peter
2023-02-03 04:50:10 +0000 UTC"Achieving sex is only impressive to those who can't get it." Great quote from the video.
Moshman
2023-01-28 03:26:41 +0000 UTC
