PATREON EXCLUSIVE: Do couples need to have shared interests?
Added 2023-03-25 04:00:02 +0000 UTC
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I’d add that complementary interests can fill in for shared interests to a degree. Doing different activities but together can clearly bring you closer. This works really well for lower energy people who are self-contented and like spending time at home. If you’re more outgoing then I’m sure you’d benefit more from having interests in common as otherwise your interests will lead you apart. It also makes a lot of sense to meet your partners through common interests and activities in particular. You’ll have something to spark conversation and are more likely to have values in common.
Thomas Owen
2023-03-29 17:01:05 +0000 UTCExactly the woman I’d like to have!! Girl I dated for a year, said she shared interests with me: but when it came time to go on a camping trip or outdoor activities she declined. Also she had no hobbies of her own at all, no skills, or interests. The last 3 months she basically lived with me, and helped none with household stuff, cooking cleaning, her excuse was it’s My house so she doesn’t need to help. Huge red flag for me… then decided to change my career and go to flight school to be a pilot which requires a move 2 hours away and she broke up with me. Physical attraction like no one else I’ve been with, she was pleasant to be around and have deep conversations with (though they were rare) but yeah common interests, but not tied at the hip. Two halves making a whole cohesive union. Balancing each other. I can cook, clean, do laundry, sew, garden, can food etc (my mom taught me) but I’d rather be fixing the vehicles, mowing the lawn, fixing household stuff and making money. I don’t wanna date a woman and have to do EVERYTHING.
Samuel Oliver
2023-03-26 01:05:39 +0000 UTCI have a lot of masculine interests, & just so many interests generally, which works well as it’s not hard to find men I share interests with, & I naturally adapt to my partner’s interests, often gaining into new interests as a result, which I love. But, I absolutely have to have an intellectual partner with whom I can have deep, meaningful, stimulating discussions. And a man who lacks inquisitiveness & has a fundamentally un-intellectual personality, is not a man I can respect, & he will bore me. He needs to be smarter, & in STEM like myself, & superior in his field. When it comes to actual quotidian life, I prefer my partner spend several hours a day doing his own thing, whether work, chores, or hobbies I don’t share. Doesn’t necessarily have to be outside the home, but I do think that some regular distance is generally ideal, even if it’s only a few hours at a time. I also appreciate being independent in my running of the household, & I will not share my kitchen, or my cleaning duties, sewing etc. Socially, I prefer we do things as a couple. Never really understood the appeal of a girl’s night, personally.
RhodiumMaiden
2023-03-26 00:46:57 +0000 UTC
