Please train, train, train, so you are ready to do the things! Skills are way more important than what gear you are running.
Where can I get the training associated with these tactical skills if I was never in the military, and do not know anyone that can train me?
Good question, here are some places you should check out:
Warrior Poet Society Training https://warriorpoetsociety.us/training/
Max Velocity Tactical (Romney, West Virginia) https://maxvelocitytactical.com/
Valor Ridge (East Tennessee) https://www.valorridge.com/
Ronin Tactics https://www.ronintactics.com/events--training.html
Real World Tactical https://www.realworld-tactical.com/about/therealworld
Vickers Tactical https://www.vickerstactical.com/
I encourage you to also be looking up training sites that are in your local area. There are a lot of good trainers out there, get some good quality training.
Training may seem to be expensive, but it will be some of the best spent money you have ever spent. Because you will be learning and honing skills that are vital to your survival.