Baby Reindeer Episode 4 EXTRA Early Access/Watchalong
Added 2024-06-24 02:35:53 +0000 UTCWe take a dive into Donny's past and learn a lot of important things that affect his decision making and hesitance to report Martha in current day. Make sure to drop a like if you're excited for our Baby Reindeer reactions!
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I wasn't expecting to relate to this show in any capacity. That is until he said he wasn't sure if his feelings had always been there, just buried deep down or if he had changed him with what he did. I was sexually assaulted by my brother at a very young age (pre-teen), but from my perspective, it was just an activity my brother and I alone could do...and I loved spending time with my brother. He was barely a teenager at this point I think, maybe even like 12. I think he was just discovering things about sex and I was there to help. I think he soon realized what he was doing was wrong as we stopped doing that very suddenly and I stopped getting to hang out with my brother after that. From then on we had a very strained relationship, him always angry at me or blaming me for things and I would just egg it on cause at this point I was mad that I lost my brother and I didn't know what I did wrong. All this is to say, around the 6th grade I realized I was gay. Never thought anything of it outside of my "american dream" as they would say of a wife and kids and a white picket fence vanished that year and it tore me apart. As I got older, into my 20s, in the military, taking college courses when I could, I would do research papers on being gay; nature vs nurture. It led to me finding some articles on it being speculated whether being SA'd at a young age could have an impact on someone's sexuality and all those memories kinda came up to the surface. Its always left me wondering am I gay because of what happened? Or is that just a coincidence. I would like to think that those feelings were always there and I just didn't recognize them until later. Hell, I used to have a crush on this popular girl in elementary school in the 4th-5th grade. Was that just me doing what I thought I was supposed to do? Or was something in me changed. Sorry if that got a little deep lol I just wasn't expecting to relate to what he was saying and it flooded my brain with all these memories and thoughts I had had.
Mike
2024-06-29 22:46:56 +0000 UTCThis was almost harder the second time around! sending you guys hugs!! <3
Hannah Bond
2024-06-24 08:30:44 +0000 UTCsome context since 'Fringe' on the door seemed odd to you: Donny was performing during the Edinburgh Fringe festival, arguably the largest annual performing arts festival. Phoebe Waller-Bridge performed Fleabag as a one-woman show there before it got picked up for TV, as did Hannah Gadsby with her comedy special Nanette and the original form of the show Taskmaster. it's unfortunately become less of a platform to jumpstart unknown careers in recent years because of the popularity but was once (during the time he was there, and especially in the UK) genuinely THE opportunity of a lifetime which lends even more to Donny's motivations during this traumatic period of his life more positive sidenote: there are now Fringe festivals across the US in a ton of cities so if you want to support upcoming theatre or comedy artists check to see if there are any nearby
mcegan
2024-06-24 06:04:25 +0000 UTCthe depiction of the power imbalance between the predator and victim was so horrifically and accurately depicted in this show in how donny is forced to sacrifice his own autonomy for the false hope the predator gives him that obliging to their twisted desires will grant donny his dreams. I love what Bryce said in the outro discussion when he pointed out how common it is for victims of sexual violence to repeatedly question which part of the assault they "played a part in" and whether or not their flashbacks of the event "suggest that they enjoyed it". As a survivor of rape myself, I can definitely say I believed this about my experience for a long time! I think it's important to know that having these thoughts doesn't mean your trauma is of any less value. Thank you both for handling this subject with such respect and grace<3
juliette w
2024-06-24 04:29:37 +0000 UTCThis episode is so hard to watch. Itβs so hard to get through.
Neftaly Duran
2024-06-24 03:18:34 +0000 UTCThis whole episode had me not being able to breathe. Donny has went through so much and I can in a way understand why he went about the Martha situation as he did.
Ashlyn
2024-06-24 03:13:55 +0000 UTCThis episode was so hard to watch
Leela
2024-06-24 03:05:01 +0000 UTCwatching him spiral and self destruct was fucking terrible
Lauren Christian
2024-06-24 02:47:58 +0000 UTCWellβ¦ this still feels very telling π
Ash W
2024-06-24 02:39:43 +0000 UTC
