CRP Patreon Exclusive: “On Vasectomies”

I got a vasectomy myself out of my own desire, because I just don't want kids. It's awesome for reasons I perhaps shouldn't share online, but it's quite the powerful in a different way. That being said I agree with the coach about when a woman asks for it

Giacomo Vaccari

I am content with my two sons. If by chance I change my mind down the road and the docs cannot reverse my vasectomy then I put some potential progeny in the cryo bank just in case. So vasectomies can be very practical choices for many men. But I agree whole-heartedly with Coach on this: if a woman brings up the vasectomy and you're not personally opposed to having more children, don't do it for her. The snip should always be for you.

Even though a tad difeferently, this still reminds me of m y girlfriend's mother (who is another race than I am) trying to impose her views onto me that when I have children I should giv e her my giflfriend's last name, because that would improve their chances of finding a job. I'm a minority within my country and face discrimination whenever I send out job applications (this bias has been proven by research to be the case). So her argument was to let my children have her last name so they do not have the con of having the last name of a 'foreigner'. Mind you that this woman made her husband (my GF's dad) get a vasectomy. I told her respectfully no and that I am the only son of my father and thus the only one who will carry the family name. I will not have that stripped away for a bunch of stranger racist bigots who next me because of my ethnicity rather than my skills. And I told her straight in her face with my girlfriend present that if this is an issue for her, then she should go date a native guy. I am proud of my last name and my heritage and I will carry them over to my children whether people like it or not. It's like this woman tries to end my family's lineage in name itself. Sadly for her, my children will carry my name and nothing else. Either it is with her daughter or with someone else. And I have no issues ditching a woman as I have no issues replacing them.

Bin auch deutsch, grüße gehen raus

I am in the minority. I got a vasectomy at the age of 25 because I DID NOT want kids, period! I am now 40 and it was the best decision I ever made. I live a very stress free life and all the guys I know with a girlfriend, wife, and kids are 10x more stressed out than me.

Dude, I'm 20 years old. I started watching you when I was 16. And to this day, I'm still amazed how you can remain this sane view/perspective on everything. This vasectomy shit sounds exactly like some bullshit some chick would come up with and talk you into doing. I live in Germany. Thank you coach for the sanity. I need it

Samuel Lembke

Don't get her intertwined into your life in the first place and it is easy to let her go. Learn game and have a few women around at arms length

after 4 kids, I was the one to want one. still, it was a mistake, as now, with a much younger new girlfriend... another kid could be a possibility. thankfully, the one I got is reversible.

Piero San Giorgio

As a Catholic, this is one issue I don't need to address, thankfully. The decision is already made for me.

I agree it's a bad sign if the woman brings it up, but I think he may be overestimating how often it is the woman who brings it up. I've never had a woman bring it up, in fact after having our son my ex explicitly did not want me to be the one to get tied up as she felt it would give me the ability to go cheat on her at will. But I think Coach is also downplaying the real/rational fear men have of the family court these days. Most men are not so rich as they can just write off a court ordered 18 year negative annuity as no big deal. If you already have a couple of kids and are old enough that there's no chance you'd want more, it could make sense. But younger guys considering one IMO should hold off, even if you think you don't want kids now you may change your mind, I know they are reversible but it's not 100%. I didn't want kids either when I was younger. There a lot of people in the manosphere advocating vasectomy's, I will say having and raising a son is the most fulfilling thing I've ever done, and best decision I ever made, even though until my mid-late 30s I thought I would never want kids. Keep your options open til you're at least 40-50 years old, IMO. I'm 40 and have thought about getting snipped, not because I don't want to procreate but because I'm single, I already have a son, and I'd like to be able to nut in whomever I want without having the family court tie me to her for 18 years (it's more than just financial, I'm not talking about parenting but being tied to the other parent ... would you really want to co-parent with everyone you sleep with? I'm going to say for the vast majority of us, no). I have held off because I'm still young enough there's still the off chance I could meet someone else I'd want to have another kid(s) w/. I figure if I'm still single at ~50 I'll probably do it.

Walt Dockery

I got mine because I don't want anymore kids. I have 2 at 14 and 16. My wife is dead and I cant imagine starting over with another woman. I'm just a party boy now.

You can make a better life for your kids, if you consciously work on it.

I feel CRP is lumping the reasoning for men getting vasectomies into too broad of a category. A lot of people aren't meant to have kids. I don't view this as a result of them not being genetically fit to reproduce but by not having the mental framework of coming from a stable familial background to where they replicate that in their own lives. Maybe as one goes through life they can reconcile their upbringings to not repeat the same failures as their parents. For a lot of men having kids is not worth that risk and the vasectomy is the insurance for accidental/unwanted pregnancies that lead to dysfunctional families in the first place. Some guys already have multiple kids and they're tapped out. There's more reasons than just "guys are just unhappy with their lives". I do agree with Coach about leaving a woman if she pushes you to get a vasectomy. Also I believe getting a vasectomy shouldn't be considered so early on in life. Just my thoughts

AceBoogie

Amen. Unironically what a stupid cunt lol.

Some men get vasectomies in order to not have certain women bear their children. Until ready to do so.

Brian Taylor

Can you make a video of anomie?

Coach I think you might have the perception that everyone who listens to your videos is a master in the art of "letting women go"wether these women are casual hookups or long term relationships. A series of videos on this topic would be very helpful to all of us. 👍 Thanks

Does it affect your orgasm in any way?

Them: There's too many people Me: Oh, you believe we should shut off immigration?

Because there was no point in going to the moon.

Kids need Mom when they are very young. After about 5 yrs they tend to need Mom less and less and need Dad more and more. Dad being: Coach, Mentor, drill instructor.

Also as a second note, you can still have kids if you get snipped. The only difference is that it'd be invitro, where they basically extract it directly from you, in which case the man is given total and complete control in when and who he gets pregnant. It seems to me a wise decision to eliminate that risk of your life completely given it is still pretty easy to have children after the fact

Hey Coach. I've been watching your stuff for a long time but I've gotta disagree on this. Some men just don't want kids. I've worked around kids for years be it as a tutor or assistant at my old school. I just personally don't like them and don't see myself being happy devoting my life to upbringing children. And that's fine! I think it's a bit of a stretch to say these men are suicidal. I'm happy! I enjoy spending time doing my own hobbies, be it riding my motorcycle or doing nerd shit and living my own life. I just personally feel as though making the focus of my life towards having children instead would take away from that.

"And that's what it came to...I was, after all, just a human dildo."

Wonderbread

@CRP Don’t get me wrong i love your content on social issues, but when it comes to conspiracy theories most of them end up being true. And if we did go to the moon then why didn’t they ever go back in the last 50+yrs and why don’t they ever set up a camera up there for a 24/7 live feed for us to stream? Hmmm…

Question my intelligence all you want—we went to the moon, period. Do you know how I know that we did? Because the footage could not have been faked. I know cinematography, and I know video—the footage could not have been filmed anywhere but on the moon. The government is fooling you about things happening right now that are a lot more important than going to the moon. I suggest you focus on that.

Don't win the Darwin award.

Tomek

I understand that CRP is speaking to younger men here. I've had 2 kids and have had a vasectomy a few years after my last one. I'm now divorced and am quite happy knowing that I won't have anymore kids at my age.

My ex gf who is a Harvard PhD actually suggested that I go "tie it up" after we have 2 kids. She was speaking from a gender equality POV. Her argument was, "why does the responsibility of contraception always have to fall on the women's shoulders, guys should do it too". Obviously, we broke up 2 weeks after we had this conversation and I am glad that we did. Don't wanna spend the rest of my life debating gender equality, feminism etc. with a Harvard PhD

Humphery

On a side note: If you really believe we went to “the moon” then you’re in denial to the obvious hoax right under our noses, because otherwise I’d have to question your intelligence especially after carefully observing the lunar module which looks like a 4th grade elementary school project.!

My ex girlfriend tried to pull that stunt on me, and I kinda wanted to do it, but thought about it more carefully... and no way, I`m out... anyways, I'd do that vasagel reversible one, it is still on trial sadly.

lol

You might as well be asking: "How do I get someone so mad that they'll want to kill me?" The simple answer to the question in any case is that they find you more interesting than their current partner. Current behaviors of people, not just women, suggest that a "nuclear bomb" is about to explode and the only thing you can do is get your suit, supply a bunker for yourself, and wait for the affects of the bomb to subside.

I wonder how that guy at the NYC meet up a few years ago who said he got a vasectomy is doing.

The thought of a vasectomy disgusts me. If it isn't broke. don't fix it. I don't want to have kids, for several reasons, but that doesn't mean I will sabotage myself. Circumstances may change at any point.

It's just another sign of impending malthusian collapse, or Kali yuga. Another form of decadence.

It all comes back to don't date single mothers

Interesting take.

Coach I know this is going to sound very beta, but I’m curious if you could do a video on stealing a girl from another guy.

Tyler Carelli

Coach, I’d be interested to hear your take on OnlyFans Girls and Baby Mommas. These are two issues that will only get more prevalent into the near future. I’d love if you did a video on these topics. Much love Coach, all of your videos are incredibly insightful. Cheers