CRP Patreon Exclusive: “The Reasons for a Relationship”
Added 2021-03-24 14:30:01 +0000 UTC
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Thanks coach
2021-09-01 01:36:40 +0000 UTC
In all your chanel the only grey area is your father .I am very sorry you think like this for your father
2021-06-28 23:21:01 +0000 UTC
It's non of my business about what happened between you and your old man, but what kind of things should i avoid like the plague as a father?
2021-06-21 00:08:47 +0000 UTC
The older I get, the more I realize that something like this to be true.
As soon as it stops being "What's in it for me?", people start paying less attention to you if not at all, drift away without any notice or at worst they will deliberately drop you. (Of course, they will never admit this but look at their action).
They do these things because they're looking out for their own best interests.
So, there is no point in criticizing people or getting in their face for it.
Only a fool would do such a thing.
I see few comments trying to persuade coach to reconcile with his father.
That is his decision and the complexity of the situation can only be understood by him.
Only time will tell.
As men, we like to fix things but few men ever become good at letting go and renew.
We were taught to avoid anything uncomfortable and resort to quick-fixes from early on.
This is probably because a lot of men in our generation were raised by a mother.
(Women’s nature is that they breakdown far easier than men when stressed. That’s just life.)
Or if there is a father, he failed at preparing his son(s) for the real world (not the world that we see in movies and dramas on TV where everything came out fine at the end).
Not all relationships are reconcilable and attempting to do so can cause an incredible amount of internal pressure and frustration to your own detriment while keeping up with an appearance to the people around you (family, friends, associates, etc) that things are all peachy.
FYI, if it is a matter of your own survival, yes. You will have to resort to this tactic of reconciling and keeping up with an appearance.
But recognize that it's a passing phase and your job is to remove yourself from the awkward dynamic as soon as you can afford to do so.
Our first goal as a man is to strive towards autonomy.
Not in the sense of being able to survive in a deserted island alone but in the sense of taking care of physical needs: 1.Money, 2.Location, 3. Sex (masturbation is far better than being stuck in a failed relationship).
Once you have a plan and a way to track and measure your progress, you need to have perseverance and patience.
People make the worst mistakes because they don't have patience for following their plan and letting things to unfold.
Ultimately you want to have more relationships because you want to and not by default.
We were all born and raised choiceless in this regard but when we can satisfy our physical needs we have a choice.
I wish I knew this when I was in my 20s. It would've saved me a lot of time and handled different situations a lot better with far fewer negative consequences.
2021-05-31 20:24:33 +0000 UTC
I would be wary how you formulate such a message to people around you, because even though you probably mean well and want to illustrate a point, it comes off as extremely asocial and people will actually avoid people who openly display such a level of cunning, as you signal to the other that you are only out to objectify them (which is understandable that they feel that way). Most people will want and expect a certain level of authenticity to be felt in a relationship, especially if they were to form a deeper connection with you.
As to your standpoint, if you choose to assess human relationships through Machiavellian lens only, and have no genuine desire for human connection and authenticity (no, not everybody 'does not give a shit about you'), then be aware that consciously or unconsciously, you will attract the same kind of people and I wouldn't consider that favorable as human being ARE actually social animals and most definitely do depend on another in ways that go beyond the material sense. If that were not the case, a concept like e.g. heroism wouldn't have social value.
2021-03-28 22:26:59 +0000 UTC
Relationships are naturally maintained though the common shared goal(s) and the pursuit thereof. If it feels artificial it's because the current or in spe relationship just serves a functional purpose, with no currently felt deeper meaning to it. In that case I'd consider that normal.
You cannot calculate an exact number as to how often you ask a person out, to ask this is to not understand that this is something you pick up through your social acumen and more importantly, is based on the mutual exchange two parties offer each other and the mutual strength of the desire they feel to uphold it.
2021-03-28 22:10:26 +0000 UTC
I very much appreciate your comment, Ed, and I understand your point of view. I'm glad that the way you handled your situation with your father helped you grow and become a better man—truly, I'm glad. But your situation is very different from mine, and what helped you won't necessarily help me, or someone else. Tolstoy said it best: “All happy families are alike, but every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” That's the case with fathers and sons: There isn't a one-size-fits-all solution. What works for you might not work for me, and vice-versa. But thank you for your kind words, that's very kind of you. Best, CRP
2021-03-26 14:41:22 +0000 UTC
Coach, I know you don't have time to reply but if you read this, you should see your father, only if it's to get off your chest how much he failed you. My dad left when I was 6, I commented about this in many of your videos and it's the reason I follow your content. My dad came back into my life when I was 35. I exploded in rage and told him every single situation in my life I needed him and he wasn't there for me, how much pain he cold have prevented if he just gave two shits about me. That didn't change him, he said he was sorry, he had me too young ... whatever, but it did change me, I started taking better care of myself, I started to follow your content and red pill. It all started by releasing all I had bottled up for years and at least now he knows and I'm free from carrying his ghost.
2021-03-26 01:51:39 +0000 UTC
THE RULING CLASS STRIKES BACK: Sums up the situation now. Very disappointed with the end. Just asks questions. The answer is pretty obvious. * Another perspective: What does history tell us about 'rulers' who rule against the wishes of the people? An example is the iron curtain/Berlin wall. When the rulers lost the will to kill the citizens ~ the whole thing collapsed. The citizens ruled, Never wanted that system of government. It was forced on them when rulers seized power. What about contemporary Viet Nam or Cuba? If the governments fell - would the people re-install something similar to the system they have now? After all, Everyone who wanted 'freedom' left long ago. Maybe that is the secret sauce that enables the rulers to stay in power? Just remove the undesirables? That basket of deplorables, Like us?
2021-03-25 19:35:29 +0000 UTC
I work in public accounting and this video definitely hits the spot. Everyone is friendly but everyone wants something at the end of the day and they have no problem being upfront about it
2021-03-25 17:17:08 +0000 UTC
Finally, a video I completely agree with, but CRP contradicts himself with his last video. People are a means to make money or get power. That's it. Don't care about them afterwards. Totally agree. We are not social beings. You don't need this group feeling etc when you know that people don't give a fucking shit about you. Why would you need social relationships outside a means to an ends???
2021-03-25 13:47:48 +0000 UTC
Great vid Coach
2021-03-25 11:45:19 +0000 UTC
This is something I struggled with in my 20s. I would bump into ex flatmates and ex colleagues in my city and would go up to them to say hi. They would completely ignore me
2021-03-25 11:13:50 +0000 UTC
im struggling right now to maintain the relationship between me and my girlfriend. its mostly my fault im slowly losing interest
2021-03-25 06:55:33 +0000 UTC
The outro jingle is pretty amazing. It closed the lecture with a bang. I’m dancing while going my cost benefit analysis in my mind 😎! LoL thanks coach.
2021-03-25 04:50:18 +0000 UTC
the Buzzsaw noise adds effect to befriending despicable people. lol
2021-03-24 23:57:27 +0000 UTC
Forgive your father coach. Do it for yourself.
2021-03-24 20:38:56 +0000 UTC
In the words of xigbar frim Kh3. He promised me something. Why else would I put up with his nonsense?
2021-03-24 20:35:56 +0000 UTC
Keep the beard coach!
2021-03-24 20:34:23 +0000 UTC
My relationship with GL CRP to learning something new to help better my life each week and be very entertained by his videos
2021-03-24 18:10:18 +0000 UTC
This video, combined with one of your older videos about how men and women can't really be friends, really gave me a lot of insight when it comes to why I should have certain women in my life over others. Thank you for your videos coach!
2021-03-24 17:50:26 +0000 UTC
But how to maintain a relationship no matter the reason of the relationships? Every time I decide I'm going to maintain a relationship, I add them on facebook and ask them out, but it feels artificial. Even if I can pretend and act natural, how often should I ask them out?
2021-03-24 16:55:06 +0000 UTC
Great video
2021-03-24 16:27:47 +0000 UTC
Me before the vid: havnt we been through this already?
Me after: ah yes, fresh redpills. Very refreshing
2021-03-24 14:41:30 +0000 UTC
Loving these topics of your videos, coach. Keep it up! 💯
