Dominant oder Submissiv *Mein Fetisch*

Immer wieder werde ich gefragt: Sandra, bist du eigentlich dominant oder devot?
In diesem Podcast erzähle ich dir, wie ich dazu stehe. 

Patreon Phlip hat sich außerdem gewünscht, dass ich darüber spreche ob es eigentlich "normal" ist, diese Vorlieben zu haben.  Ist es ok masochistisch oder sadistisch zu sein?
Außerdem: Wie kannst du dich in der devoten oder dominanten Rolle besser fallen lassen?
Und: Welche Erfahrungen habe ich mit dominant und devot sein gemacht?

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To my English Speaking Patreons: Here is what I say in the Podcast translated to English, you can also download the file, it is attached to this post!

Dominant or submissive - My Fetish

Hey Patreons. Again and again I am asked: What are you Sandra? Dominant or Submissive?
What are you into that direction...
Also in this podcast: My experience with being dominant and submissive.
I've tried both and have definitely a tendency. I would also like to talk about my difficulties in terms of being submissive and dominant.
Patreon Philip also asked me about it... if I can talk about it, if it is ok if one wants to be spanked and how the other should feel about it ...
Is that ok?
And whether it is okay to be masochistic or sadistic.

Here we go.

So: As many of you may already know from my videos, I don't call myself dominant or submissive, but rather rebellious.
So my preference is definitely to be overwhelmed. Being defenseless.
That turns me on more than: serving.
Or subordination. I would rather defend myself and then be forced to subordinate.
So ideally almost like Playfight.
But as a weak girl I have little chance against the strength of the man anyway, but that also turns me on a lot. When I have virtually no chance.
I also find it very good to be tied up, or just not being able to move.
So fulfilling orders or being a slave is not really for me.
I'm more of a little combat dwarf.

Whereby wanting to be defenseless also has to do with being submissive, so I see myself more in this role then.
Being dominant is rather difficult for me.

I am very dominant in my everyday life, typically “self made woman” and have to organize everything, no day is the same. That's why I probably enjoy the fact that someone else makes the decision for me what should happen during sex. A cliché?! Like the business man who then wants to be a slave in bed.
I really like to take part in everything, but I don't really like to decide what to do when it comes to Sex.
But I've already tried being dominant ... just to see if that's something for me after all.
Because I've often said: Maybe a dominatrix got lost on me. But the problem is: I get bored quite quickly.
In the beginning I also tried to be dominant, but I did it out of pictures I had in my head for being dominant. That was of course the top failure, because if just have done what I enjoy with my partner because I can decide, everything would have been much better.
But when I was still doing it according to the cliché I quickly felt bored and then I thought: I hope my sub is not bored ... and the next time I was a sub I thought: Oh dear ... I hope he is not bored when dominating. So a full blown vicious circle. Because dominating is not so much fun for me, I keep having the topic that I ask myself: Is it fun to be in control anyway, because I just can't imagine how it can be really fun for someone . But the nice thing: These real dominant people do exist. And you can rely on them to have fun. And that is my attitude now anyway: For example during oral Sex, etc. I think to myself: If he doesn't want to anymore .. he'll stop.


Another topic is of course hiting someone, for example. Because we hear and read everywhere: You don't do that. And that's a good thing, up to the point where the other person wishes it.
I once attended a workshop that was about slapping the face. Because yes: it has to be learned.
And then it was incredibly difficult for me to slap the man on the face. It was actually even worse slapping another woman in the face.
That was really hard for me. My hand just didn't want to go any further than just a pat.
Really weard.
But I think that is difficult for many, regardless of the direction in which you play.

Therefore: agree on a safeword.
Discuss with the other person what should happen and what not.
And then just start it slowly.
Often never slap as hard as you think, at least that's how it is for me when I have a whip in my hand. The other person often says: LOL. Much too soft ... But the same applies here: Everyone feels different, so it's always important to start nice and slow, especially at the beginning.
And finally I would like to point out that it is completely OK to have these preferences.
Many are ashamed of preferring to be submissive. Believe, like I did at the beginning, that the other person must be terribly bored. Or that it is not ok to want to give up control: a la: Self-determined woman, just don't let the man oppress you.
BUT: It's all about voluntariness. If you wish that and communicate that too, that's ok. But if the other person pulls this into everyday life and then: confusing bed and everyday life, that's a problem. But it's always about talking about it. Communication is key.

Conversely, it can also be an issue if it suddenly turns you on to hit or humiliate the submissive part. Then you are not sick .... A lot is also mirrored. If the other person really loves it, it is normal to be turned on by it.

The same applies here: If you do this without being asked, it is worrying. By mutual agreement, everything is ok. Offers a lot of potential and you can really try out a lot together.
Always stay: SSC, Safe - Sane - Consensual. Then you are on the right track.

As always, if you have any questions, always send me a message. Also if you have Ideas for Videos or Podcasts. I am happy to read from you. And thank you for your support here!