Did I go too far? Mummy-story.

Big guy, you broke my heart with that story. My 83 year old mom has only recently begun to forget her grandkids. You are as big in heart and character as you are in size. Don’t stop these moments when they come to you.

Mark Bosse

People don't like to think that the family they love could suddenly degrade to that status. They don't like the uncomfortable and ugly side of failing mental health. They don't want to talk about it or hear about it. That's why things are so far off the rails in many countries. Clive, I think people NEED to hear about it, especially if you're comfortable talking about the oddities of dealing with someone who is degenerating mentally. Nobody is immune. I personally thank you for sharing the experience.

Not at all, I've been involved with Alzheimer's sufferers in the last few years, and humour is a powerful tool to help manage it. You obviously had great affection for you Mum and it shows. Tell on, sir, tell on.

Phil Collins

in this instance specifically, i see no issue whatsoever, especially as it was just a passing comment. In general terms, i think you have a fairly mature audience, and an audience who knows you, and your humour, quite well, so these kinds of offhand (arguably) inappropriate comments aren't a big deal. Personally, i'm a big fan of your informal, conversational style of commentary, and for you to edit it in that way would detract from it for me. Also, nothing you say is actually particularly offensive, and i don't come to your channel for a sensitive and considered commentary (and this is coming from a queer, nonbinary, leftist, who has dropped other channels for single comments that they've made, so i think you're pretty fine)

Clive, I consider you a friend. Please do not change. Your videos and stories have helped get me thru a very tough 2 years. And with that said, I get my revision surgery next Tue Feb 6th! Wish me luck!

I agree please dont change your videos I feel like I'm with an old friend telling stories and I love it

Agreed! Please never feel the need to sensor yourself for us. If you mean no malice by something, it won't upset me. I think that should be the par for everyone. Heck - I nearly suffocated when I first watched "Disco-Piss"!

Andrew Sloniger

Sorry to hear about your parents. They teach the staff in nursing homes to not ask questions, as well. Haha! Thanks for ending that on some levity!

Andrew Sloniger

BC, do not ever change your vids. I love the spontaneity and free flow of your commentary. No censorship please, even by your good self.

Clive, don't ever change! We're all here because we appreciate your work and it wouldn't be special if it didn't have your personality and humour in it. If some prude can't cope with a small joke that is their issue and not yours. Keep up the good work!

Matthew Halfpenny

I don't think Clive is really into "meeting fans"; considering he lives on a reasonable remote island and is probably not the type to go around with an entourage of screaming fans wanting his autograph!

Stephen Eyles

Nope, I like the stories that humanize you, Clive. A drawback to you talking about your family and stuff, though, is it probably makes meeting fans awkward. A lot of people forget they have a "relationship" with you, but you don't even know most of us. Knowing Better describes this phenomenon, called a parasocial relationship: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vmzh5MBhYuQ" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vmzh5MBhYuQ</a>

Andrew Sloniger

That was perfectly fine, frankly it's nice to hear some real life experiences. I think only the professionally offended people who like to troll for the noise, would be offended.

Stuart Goggin

I see...nothing...but agree with the other that say your stories are relating to your life. EDIT Sorry had to get caught up on my Clive. YES by all means do not hesitate to share your experiences online it isn't nonsense or OS it is the experiences you have had in your life and it matters and it's important.

Michael Thompson

To add to the few comments I have read. No you didn't go too far, but then I have also lived with one parent diagnosed with Alzheimer's (and the other who was most certainly afflicted) and can totally relate.. My mother was always intelligible but I went from being son, nephew, husband, to totally unknown person with friendly face who made her smile. I learnt never to ask questions. of someone with dementia. I have 1 copy of "the gene" and 60 now and looking forward to when folk stop asking me questions.

Demolished Man

in my opinion would be better to keep it off from YT, or maybe drop an edited revision there. Here on Patreon is fine, we do understand you.

Claudio Zodio

People don't share their caregiving war stories enough.

Jonathan Hendry

Not for me, but I'm well know to have a warped and twisted sense of humour to all my friends.

Just my 2p, the wife was listening and she chuckled at the period furniture joke, seems ok to me

Adam Pepper

It's like when you see paramedics joking amongst themselves at a fatel accident along the motorway. Many people are appalled by that and say they are assholes. They see that almost everyday and I'm sure they feel bad for the victims and their families. It's their way of moving on

it's life mate some people won't understand those people are assholes

Steven Cox

As a respite carer for our aging family members I agree completely with the sentiments expressed in the previous comments. We must laugh in the face of the terror that is our fate, or else we would be completely disheartened to carry out the difficult duty. It is to you and your brothers credit that you gave so much to to your mother and asked nothing in return.

Dear Clive. As a carer myself I know you have to see the funny side or you will go insane. Your mother story hits the funny button but more importantly highlights the realities of caring for the old and sick. I think it is vastly important for people to be made aware of this and I think you did exactly the right thing, and also I don't think the story was in any way disrespetctful of your mum. Quite the contrary, it shows her as human and vunerable which state a lot of us will end up and, God knows, we would hope for the same level of care and concern which you and your brother showed your mum. Ignore the easily offended out there. As to the "period" joke, yes Clive bad taste, offensive and distressing, jolly well done and congratulations for yanking a few snowflake chains. you should do it more often. Also it made me really laugh for which i sincerely thank you. Keep it up my friend.

Edward Parker

My Basic attitude here is What Ben Said: "Your mom, your channel, your story choice." However My reactions are: The Dementia story is very hard, (this must have been tough to live though) &amp; therefore for me very important. It is important that we talk about &amp; know about this sort of thing, because it is very real, getting old, senile, &amp; dying is not pretty. People in this situation, both Carers &amp; sufferers, need the understanding &amp; support of their surroundings, &amp; not to have the messy bits hidden as some secret taboo. So I think keep it in, anyone who has a problem with it can just live with that problem, maybe they will later have experience which will give them more sympathy. The 'Period furniture' joke was a miss for me. I would wonder how it is perceived by non native English speakers.

I think there are a lot of delicate people out there who seem to like being in an offended state. It's a way of getting some attention I suppose. My Mum has dementia, and we have similar stories. She's now in care and seems to be thriving. Honestly, these situations are ones where if you don't find a funny/absurd side, you'd probably cry yourself to sleep ever night. I say F**K off! to the easily offended, spend a year or two of your life looking after someone you love, watching their grip on independence slip away until they a a drooling heap. Then, be offended. Clive, your story just gave me more respect for a person I already had tremendous respect for.

Wim

Clive, I found nothing wrong with the joke or story. I admit the furniture joke was a groaner and will be hit or miss with people, it's not the most hilarious topic. The anecdote was very personal and as you say, the situation would be absurd in normal circumstances but given the reasons why - you just make the best of a challenging event like that and soldier on. I appreciate you sharing the moment of "well, that just happened".

Stephen Thompson

Your mom, your channel, your story choice, as I see it. Didn't put me off!

I had to fix a "macerator" once. It had jammed and they just kept piling stuff in. The electrical department passed it onto the motor department who passed it on to me. Quite a nasty experience.

Big Clive

It is. It makes their life so much better because they are in a familiar home environment. My mum lived out her days sleeping in her own bed in her own home.

Big Clive

If you need any info or want to ask if something is normal or not just send me a message here.

Big Clive

Challenge! Clive, make the toenail video. Let's see it get the highest view &amp; like counts on your channel.

Scott Miller

Or maybe just add in a lower third with the words "Snowflake warning: Stop listening if you can't take it."

Scott Miller

Thanks Clive, for the joy you bring to us all everyday. Your videos aren't just electronics breakdowns of led lights and power banks, your recordings are about you, your brother, your mum, and your dad. You have opened your door and welcomed all of us in with open arms, almost to a point of us personally knowing you. I couldn't care if you recorded your next door neighbours mowing their grass, it's about you and the great stories you provide us with. So really, your great mum that has been mentioned on many of your videos, is all part of" The Big Clive" story. Most of us would be happy to watch you clip your toenails, with your commentary of course. Keep up the great work you put in, and fantastic videos you present us with

Mike Wynne

Clive, someone will always be offended by what ever you say. It seems that the "permanently offended" SJW's etc. Will always find something to complain about. Simply being a white male is enough nowadays. Why is the perfectly normal act of menstruation, taboo. If its off limits, then all jokes on bodily functions are too. As to your mother's story, I found it humorous but at the same time touching. You tried to make the best of a sad situation of your mother's failing health.

A story about life in an educational video. Excellent work.

Thank you for being honest about what caring for the elderly can be like, I'm taking care of my 92 year old da, and 90 year old ma. I have one friend who is dealing with his parents and we get together and talk old people problems as a form of therapy. If we didn't we'd definitely lose our bottles. I'm off to unplug a toilet, again.

Didn’t offend me, but i don’t find period blood particular funny... Gross mainly. My feelings are is the joke good enough for what ever whiney punks you’ll have to deal with? If it is, keep it... If not, just voice over it with “Join Patreon Now For Naughty Jokes”... period. The Alzheimers story i don’t see anything wrong with.

Michael Gilchrest

I'll be very slightly different and say I think the story is one which some people are going to find a little jarring and somewhat outside of what people watch your videos to hear. But having said that, what the hell, eh? I didn't mind it personally.

I don't think it was in bad taste. As we get older, we have to deal with aging parents. I lost both of mine many years ago.

George Cohn

I am in agreement with the majority but I'll say it anyway, I think the story was great, and the joke was funny. Mental illness is serious yes, but at the same point, it is something that should be talked about. If you were saying something demeaning about it, that would be one thing, but you loved your mother, and you and your brother cared for her, that is a unique and funny story of things that happen... people need to understand that, and when push comes to shove, it was not in bad taste :-).

Matt Enwright

I'd say... GO FOR IT! I LOVE your content and always look forward to watching what you post! If people don't like it..... TUNE OUT! NOone is forcing you to watch!

people need to lighten up

Cryphius

Fine by me. I've heard MUCH worse on Youtube.

Chuck Kirchner

People need to be able to speak frankly about mental illness to break the stigma around it. I was delighted to see your matter of fact approach. You spoke about your mother in the same way you would a perfectly healthy person who had a hilariously undignified accident. I say keep it all in – perhaps with a prefixed warning of the impending mestruation and poop related humour for the sensitive types. YouTube is global and taboos vary by region.

Ship it as is. Anyone who's getting by-proxy-offended over your life can go cack their drawers in front of a wood stove.

Your story was definently not in bad taste, I thought is was very funny, thanks for sharing it with us.

Not a problem. If a mob forms outside your house, call us and we'll take care of 'em.

Leave as is.

I thought it was hilarious and the story itself a little eye opening. Yeah sure, you might have a few prudes get offended but fuck them. They don't know what it's like.

Randi Tastix

I don't see any need to take any of it out. It's a good thing to raise awareness of the kind of things people with dementia do and what the family and carers go through. You have to have a sense of humour about it otherwise it would drive you up the wall and people need to see that and understand it. Telling stories like that and slipping them in to your videos is a great way to do that.

I'd leave it all as is, Clive. Particularly the Alzheimers contentary. I find the way you lovingly talk about your Mum, and you and Ralfy's caring for her to be quite endearing, and it matches the care I've seen my own friends give to grandparents and parents. I'm going to use a buzzword I hate, but which is completely appropriate for thie conversations -- toxic masculinity. Clive, you're a great example for people who can be "manly men" without being a "toxic" person. A lot of people look up to you, and enjoy your videos, and it's your humility and lack of pretention that keeps us coming back. The period joke was OK, too, I thought.

Loscha

Me too. No offense here. I rather enjoyed hearing the real life story. Those of us who are old enough know what Alzheimer's is and can relate to your struggles dealing with it.

I’d cut or noise over the red and moist comment because that could be seen as misogynistic if you were a that way inclined and all you’d lose was a joke that was in bad taste. But the incident in front of the stove, that’s just part of life and part of the looking after of your mother. Altzimers is cruel in all its forms, though in the later stages it is the relatives that suffer the worst of it. (Hopefully, I really don’t want to consider that my mum was still in there and aware of,her situation). Disclaimer, I’m married to a nurse and the father of another nurse, my in laws are doctors and my mother was lot to,Altzimers fro,the last 5 years of her life. I might not be the best judge

Paul Coombs

There are way to many overly sensitive snowflakes out there these days!

Bo Holbo Rasmussen

It was an unexpected moment of personal story sharing but afterwards I'm ok with it. Maybe put a notice up, but that would just serve to highlight it rather than help. Dunno. No opinion either way, just caught off guard by how personal it was.

I found it amusing rather than gross. Well, in the "rather you than me" sense of amusing.

Moz in Oz

You didn't. No worries. Some can get offended or turned away, but most sure appreciate the story.

No offending here.

l do not take offence ,,leave it as published ,,,,your narration to the videos are natural

John Catterall

You're right Kevin, that's why we watch the MBC videos, why else would anyone watch hairy blokes drink beer on the interweb?

The Tinkering Shed

My dad is going through Alzheimer's, we make a point of laughing at the stupid things because otherwise it would just be grim, you know what I mean by that I'm sure. That story was wholly appropriate and might even give someone a bit of comfort, knowing that they are not alone going through the same thing. The period joke on the other hand was not funny, periods are just yucky and should not be referred to outside of ladies powder rooms. 😆

The Tinkering Shed

I think it's ok leaving it in. But there will always be someone offended by it. It seems like some people search around hoping to be offended. As a defensive measure maybe age restrict it. Or maybe put up two versions with one edited. I would rather see this version.

Nani Isobel

Just change the title to "Warning, not for snowflakes or princesses". Nothing offensive about that 🤣

The Tinkering Shed

I had no problem with it. Seemed appropriate

iamdarkyoshi

I missed the offensive bit? Maybe throw a prostate joke in there for balance. 🙂 There is a line somewhere, but I don’t think you crossed it.

Rob Googe

One of the notable reasons for watching Big Clive is that it is like an evening in with friends. Your sense of humour and the anecdotes are a big part of that. Be yourself - that is what we want!!!

If you're really worried, just blank it and add a label "Joke removed to protect the sensibility of idiots". There are always those to whom's ones very existence is an offence.

Its not offensive..its funny and real. I have seen dementia first hand in my Dad and being light hearted about it is not concerning at all. Please leave it 😁

Leave it!

Leave it as is, It was a lovely story and one of many I'm sure. Your channel has always been frank and you are known to say it as it is. Leave it, it's fine.

Richard Boyce

All good Clive.

Whilst I've got no issues with the anecdote or the off colour joke, why invoke the gods or trolls of YouTube?

To date I have never ever taken offense to anything on your channel. Being 50 and traveled all over the USA and some of the world I have seen much and not much will phase me in the least.

Charles Bruckner

It was a lovely story. It's your channel but no concerns from me

Steven Clarke

Deffenetly not to far, sone people used to live together generations I mean. So it was known from childhood that one day you would be taking care of your elders. Also people live in a bubble nowadays, better to hear it from someone then to just come across it and get shocked by it. Feb 3 last year I and my son moved in with my folks (to help out) I'm 45 my son is 13, I've seen more crazy things in the last year. Rules that were driven into my head as a kid being broken left and right by the same people that drove those rules into my head. It's crazy hard to just live and help out family. I cant imagine how hard it was for you and Ralphy. But I can appreciate it. The story needs to be told.

I’d say just leave it in. Someone will probably find it offensive, but then someone always is. I don’t think the majority would mind it at all, especially not your regular viewers.

Please leave it in, it makes it very authentic. And it's real life story...

Paul Schuur

Faghettaboutit. :D

I didn't find either offensive... just humorous. I will admit having to google the "period period" joke though. Such things are part of the human experience and need to be laughed at periodically. You do have sort of a disclaimer on your videos suggesting they will be "dangerous and naughty" at times.

Howard Simons

Leave it in dude! Twice I was at Costco buying adult diapers that are next to the children's diapers and thought to myself oh my it's a full circle. It's part of life and you tell life's stories very well.

Aaron Nadler

Leave it in Clive. Your unscripted natural style is something your fans enjoy and why we keep comming back.. Sometimes you wander off (technical) topic but you're always entertaining, whether its about your work history or your family. Your watch through stats must back that up. The joke was funy. disclaimer it if you're worried about the YT police, but i don't think it's necassary.

I vote for leaving it. You're a wonderful person and a joke is a joke, nothing to be ashamed of.

I vote: don't change it. I follow you for your engineering skills AND your humanity.

No need for apologies, its your channel, do and say what you like as long as youtube doesn't mind.

Don’t change the video Clive, I found it funny, it’s what happens. You have to take things in context, and in perspective, no harm done.

I'm guessing it's a resounding leave it alone. Life isn't all roses and buttercups. I love hearing your story's, wether they are work related or family. Makes you even more entertaining.

Neil Tonks

I didn't find the "period piece" offensive at all. I wouldn't even have thought twice about it if you wouldn't have pointed it out. I did chuckle a bit.

James Sutherland

Maybe add a warning in the title or description, if you're worried about it, but leave it at that, no need to censor or redo anything.

Theodor Ciobanu

Yes do leave it in, you shouldn't censor real life!

I lived through almost the same thing, doesn't bother me.

Cleveland Prescott

Leave it in. Anyone who has seen more that just a few videos has gotten more insights on you and your life. Tasting of rotten fish etc. Leave it in. It caught my unguarded but it's a human face to the video. Maybe put a disclaimer/warning before it.

Tim Albers

Leave it in Clive. We had similar issues with my Father when he got Alzheimers. We joke about some of the things he did. It is not being disrespectful just remembering a loved one with a bit of humour. In case the YouTube police are watching you may wish to put up some sort of warning message on the video .

John Russell

Leave it in! People will not mind as - Well it's Clive!! I see that Fanny Flambeau is still online so people didn't worry about that. :)

Shaun Runham

Leave it, it is as it is. Find it refreshing to hear someone else talking about this.

You will never please everyone, someone is always going to be butthurt by something. Keep being Big Clive and say what you want to say...I count on your humor and hijinks when I sit to enjoy your videos. I'm so tired of snowflakes whining about being triggered and microaggressions...they just need to grow a set and relax. Soooo my opinion is keep the video as is.

I say don't change it. We need to eradicate taboos and shame around human life and it's difficulties. If we can't make humor and light about hard times in the past, we would ALL go insane. I think that it's great that you can joke about that now, because it must have been difficult to live through that...period... of your life. I think that being able to look back at that and laugh is the healthiest of outcomes, and judging from the comments here, it sounds like there are others who are appreciative of the anecdote, because they are or have gone through the same thing. If someone else complains about it, remind them that this is YOUR channel, and if they don't like it, they can go elsewhere. (It's not like you've said something extreme here, or broken the rules. ) If you're very concerned, perhaps a a text disclaimer several seconds before the story would work instead of a cut or edit?

KingDingbat (Troy Kristoffer)

Keep it! It's real life, My mom-in-law did some strange and funny things before she passed..

At the end of the day, it's your story so it's up to you, you obviously don't look back at it as a bad day, so do what feels right to you.

Jono Harley

I wouldn't worry about it Clive, it was part of your life with your Mum and how you go about these Vids, feck them if their upset. Keep up the good work mate.

Keith Pawson

My mum's Alzheimer's went on for 10 years.

Big Clive

Hat's off to you Clive, we're going through a similar thing with my Dad. Keep it on. If anyone is offended, f*** em, their time will come.

David Pearson

Clive, we love your personality and your stories. I think you should leave it in. Having had a parent with similar problems, I can relate.

Ross Clark

Friend of mine (while writing a comment for Clive) was telling me of his nan one day, who decided to take her walker around the nursing home and "shoot" all the other residents with banana. He's no idea where she got the idea, and the next day had no recollection of it...

Chloe Cresswell

Leave it in. We know what you are like, this is part of your life (as was), people do entire shows on this and call it "reality TV", what's one story?

Chloe Cresswell

Honestly, the story wasn't all that graphic and the period joke was alright too. Don't mess with it, it's fine :)

Erik

I have no problem with it.I take care of my Mom now instead of letting someone else do it.I feel her quality of life is more important and that means being with family that actually care. So for you Clive and Ralph.

Simple. Only if you (and Ralf) would rather not share that particular story. Personally i found nothing objectionable in your video. Although I do object to all things Family Guy.

It's not about people having no sense of humour, the benchmark is whether a joke is being told at the expense of people - normally a group of people - who can't hit back and who it is designed to ridicule or belittle. This joke meets that test just fine, IMO - it's Clive telling an anecdote about a family member that breaks a taboo around a subject people often don't like to discuss honestly. I say keep it in.

Mike Knell

I thought it was funny, especially the part about patiently waiting for her to finish. I also appreciate when people are willing to talk about real stuff. If people unsubscribe because of things like this, you're better off without them.

Keep it in, it's real (and pretty funny)

leave it as is

God 420

I would say leave it in. Stuff like this is considered taboo, but it's a real situation that many have to deal with in their lives. The fact that you treat it with humour and positivity is very helpful.

Dan

I think Your story is a true down-to-earth description what it's like with Alzheimer or similar condition. That's just an example what can happen, and this story might actually help people understand that condition.

Leave it in - we all need to be tempered by a bit of reality now and then. Let some folks know what they may be in for someday - either them or their loved ones.

It's good to have fun anecdotes related to an otherwise grave situation.. I personally don't see any need to alter the video

My mom has also alzheimer's - and as my dad passed some time ago the only option for her was nursing home. I really do understand what's involved. The best and only thing You actually can do to prevent traumatisation to Yourself, is to find bright and funny side of these stories. That's life - and I do not see any point to hide or sugarcoat darker times, as they are part of real life. Just add some humour and the day is much brighter, already.

Leave it and fuck the haters, and don't even send them flowers after.

Patrick 'Chef_PC' Cusher

Keep it. The story is endearing and the tone of affectionate humor in your voice as you tell it is heartwarming, even if the underlying situation is unfortunate and embarrassing at times.

No joke or story is worth censoring... Ever... There's too much people with no sense of humor or irony in this world.

So far I seem to be in a minority with this opinion. My partner's late mother developed this condition and I certainly think she wouldn't find the story something to laugh at. But I do agree with the suggestions to keep this video for Patreons only - and to mute the sound for that punch line.

"period furniture" it would explain why much of it was in "red velvet" I did laugh when you said it and it HURT me at the same time , currently suffering from Bronchitis, trying my best not to get a hernia. Last time it was a umbilical hernia, I have now been banned from un-hooking curtains. John

John Harrison

No, leave it in. It's just part of life. When you care for someone with dementia or Alzheimer's, you need to see the funny side of some grim situations just to retain your sanity. Anyone who knows what it's like will be nodding and thinking of their own take on the vagaries of care for elderly relatives.

Nae problem here big man its life....

Don't sweat it at all, leave it in. It was an interesting side conversation you went down, and having cared for my grandmother after becoming bed ridden with a severe case of peripheral artery disease before dying due to it, I know all about the subject myself. Your audience are mostly adult I would assume, they can handle it. If anything, it shows how comfortable you've become with your regular audience you're happy to talk about such things so freely and openly, and as for a period joke, didn't see anything wrong with it, but I love a bit of humour in any video!

Adam 'RDL' Taylor

Leave it in... It's real. It's life.

Keep it in! I'm assuming your audience are mostly adults. If they can't handle that, then they can't handle being around real people. Keep the anecdotes and other discussions in Sir.

Leave it. People are way to easily offended.

Michael ONeill

Nope, leave it in. Don't worry about the snowflakes that can't handle real life

Jon Weston

Your videos are for an adult audience. You did not even come close to taking it to far. I barely noticed the period comment, and the rest was part of your life.

Jorg Jorgensen

Leave it in, we could tell you stories about my mother in law. It is real life that some of us have to deal with it hands on (or gloves). Some other people that have never had to look after an older person tend to be the ones that think it is not PC. When MinL was able to talk she told us that her son had been around and put on of those Turkeys "that is allowed out on it s own" In the freezer It took us a while to understand what she meant was "free range" I thought it was great that she found a way to explain - [Small vessels disease has since done quite a bit of damage ] I am pleased that you can talk to us about how the three of you coped and what you did for your mother. John We often think of Turkeys going down the shops and out on the town !

John Harrison

It is the anecdotes like this that make Big Clive videos real. You could mute the sound just for a moment over the period joke punchline, which probably wouldn't be noticed, but otherwise, keep it as is.

Perhaps we don't hear enough about this heartbreaking condition. And perhaps those of us lucky enough to follow your videos will dig a little bit deeper in our purses next time we are asked to donate towards research. Don't change a thing. As for period furniture... it's the schoolboy in you. Don't change a thing.

Keith Miller

Keep it in. The fact that you feel able to be yourself in your videos and not put on a front is one of the main draws for me.

I agree with everyone else your true fans will understand it. If you are concerned about it you might consider keeping it a patreon only video. You can have a teardown of the single fan unit for the YouTube audience and casually mention the dual fan unit is a patreon only video.

Nathan Musick

Having spent 30 years in psychiatric care of the elderly, just don't get me started. Leave it in.

Donald Meston

Keep it Clive, no matter what you do or say some will always be offended, personally I found it amusing, and the story about your mam moving..

I think it's fine, it is just a story about you and your mom. I see no problem with it.

Let it be. Life is not all sunshine and rainbows and the truth of caring for a parent with Alzheimers is not always pretty. Finding the humor in those moments (perhaps only in retrospect) is part of life and dealing with the stress of those times.

ducksauz

I'm a terrible person, so don't take my advice - but it certainly didn't seem offensive to me.

I am not an EMT but have had numerous friends in the field, and after caring for my deceased father I found a similarity in the two. Most EMT personal start life in a nursing home or similar facility.

My wee Nana has dementia, shes been getting worse over the last 18 months or so, its heart breaking to watch but when my Mum tells me about some of the the things my Nana says or does I cant help but laugh Your video is excellent big man dont change a thing!

Caring for someone invokes what could be compared to gallows humor in the EMS field, we do what we do to make life liveable.

Keep it and keep doing it.. I agree with a lot of what already has been written and it's fine, worse things have been said on the internet..

i got a good chuckle form it

Trevor Fox

It is a bit more Family Guy-esque than normal. Can 'we' take it, sure. Will the public? Unknown. One of those that's a hard call and ultimately up to you if you want this to be an example of your works. We will always support you, your love, passion and humanity toward your talents.

Keep it.

Neil Tonks

You found it funny so don’t worry what a few over sensitive people might think. As for “period furniture”, my brain always goes to the same conclusion. Same with “period drama”. My girlfriend loves a period drama but isn’t so happy when she comes on the blob unexpectedly during the night and ruins the sheets. Apparently it’s a different period drama.

evilution

I need to make a dedicated Alzheimer's video at some point. There's so much that people don't talk about that needs to be said.

Big Clive

It’s a bit edgy but I can take it. I am concerned though that non-Patreons might not be so hardened yet in life. If there is a danger your channel might be demonetised, I wouldn’t risk it. There are way too many “sensitive” people on YouTube that get offended over nothing and I’m not sure how to deal with them. One the one hand I feel like we should not let them self-censor ourselves but I also feel that life’s too short to get into those battles every time and just make it easy on ourselves. TLDR; I’m fine with it, others might not.

Robert K

You be you Clive! We, your fans follow and contribute because you are quirky and brilliant. Don't change! If people don't like it, there's a bazillion other channels for them discover and complain about too!! :D

mikenco

Nothing wrong with your content at all. I had a relative in a similar predicament and seeing the funny side is a big bonus.

Leave it alone. It's you Clive.

I had no problem with it. At some point any of us might end up caring for a parent like that, or might need to prepare while we can so we can be cared for.

I don't object. I appreciate the personal touch, and I assume it's valuable to you to help process the greater context of the event.

Jeremy Impson

No it was fine mate.

Gadgetman

Opinions are fine. Keep it up.

The Alzheimer's story was hard for me as my dad died after a long fight with dementia. But that's just me. You be you.

No one should be so detached from the realitys of life as to have a problem with this video.

Paul Malloy

I can only agree with what others have already written in here. You did not go to far - not at all - and stories like that is part of what makes your channel great.

Your random incredibly inappropriate moments are a draw for me. I was sitting there thinking the same think when you said period furniture. I’ll admit I was surprised you were talking about your mother, you are normally fairly taciturn about her. But if you are comfortable with it fuck everyone else. I throw my money in the hat to hear what you have to say, I view it as a way of preventing advertising from controlling content. I have seen caregiver burnout, it it brutal. A difficult end (and Alzheimers is one of the worst) is draining, and demeaning, but it is also reality.

No I think it was fine. I'm going through something similar with my mum and that's how it is. If some people don't want to hear about experiences in life it's their problem.

Lawrence ORourke

I wasn't offended either. If anything it brings an element of your personality and history into it.

Keep it in for sure!

I'd say leave it in. It's the personal touches that make your channel unique. (In a good way.) I think you deserve credit for caring for your mother at what must have been a distressing time for you and Ralfy. I don't think many people would have done as much (indeed, I probably wouldn't). Probably best not to do it too often, though...

If you are too worried you can always drop a disclaimer ahead of the video. Don't redo it.

Selth Blackwings

I guess the kind of people who like to find things to be offended by, might choose to find offence. But a true Big Clive fan, is also the kind of person who would see the comment for what it is a enjoy the humour.

Kevin Leah (AKA Zoinks!)

I personally think it was fine. You went through a tough time and sometimes the best way to cope is finding the humor in bad places. And sometimes realty isnt pretty and you showed those who have never been there truth. Dont change it. As for the family guy reference, leave it. If someone is offended they can go eles where we want you to be authentic and funny just the way you are.

I personally wasn't offended at all.

Martel DuVigneaud

You didn’t go too far at all. In my experience it is the ability to laugh about what could otherwise be quite upsetting that gets you through. Anyone who thinks you’re being cruel is an a-hole and should be ignored.

I di t know your or her full story. So i dont go around judging. Sure i found itnfunny but thats also your humor style i like. So if it was up to me theb Keep it in. Its a part of the harsh reality of life.

Orkekum

If anything you would be one of the offended ones you scamp

The Backoffice (Andrew Armstrong)

Don't change anything until I've caught up and watched the video :O

Leave it be, it's your personality and stories that make it your channel 👍

The Backoffice (Andrew Armstrong)

Not at all, I like your stories. It gives a nice twist to your channel :)

Mike Weijmans