Fight Crush
Added 2024-03-22 15:00:09 +0000 UTCI am having terrible trouble articulating the principle that underlies this concept and so am appealing to the internet for help. :D
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We enjoy a challenge with those we.respect for its own sake. A confident professional in any field welcomes that & kindly reciprocates.
Charles Vigneron
2024-04-06 17:08:29 +0000 UTCI don't think you did a bad job, or that it bears extra explaining. It's not that different from a man-crush.
Xavon
2024-03-25 00:46:26 +0000 UTCI get this with gardening. It's not envy, exactly, it's more along the lines of, "what you are doing is amazing, I'm inspired, but also what could I add to it?" Covetous collaboration? Aspiring association?
Liora
2024-03-25 00:21:56 +0000 UTCSeems like the fight version of "we would make beautiful music together", so something like "I am certain/trust that we could collaborate to make something better than I could make myself" or "we could make something magnificent by only by collaborating would this be possible"
Carol Wang
2024-03-24 01:53:41 +0000 UTCA quote from C.S.Lewis's "The Four Loves" about Friendship: Friendship arises out of mere Companionship when two or more of the companions discover that they have in common some insight or interest or even taste which the others do not share and which, till that moment, each believed to be his own unique treasure (or burden). The typical expression of opening Friendship would be something like, "What ? You too? I thought I was the only one." In this context, I think what you are describing is a recognition that this person has talent and ability, but more importantly, this person "gets it". You recognise that they have the same basic fundamental values and motivation that you have: they are a kindred spirit. Someone else might be equally, or even more, competant, but they don't have the same moral or ethical principles or the same basic attitude to the work, or the same ideals that they are working towards, and you just know that you could not get on with them.
Dr Martin Ward
2024-03-23 16:57:14 +0000 UTCNot a wordsmith but based on the comments I've read so far, I think it is beyond "competency crush" but also compatible personality. Another person may be as competent or more competent than you, but if your personalities are not compatible or there is friction in the relationship, then that makes it less fun. Where competency/skill and personality "vibe" (as the kids say), it can make the activity fun and productive and efficient.
Steve
2024-03-23 14:02:47 +0000 UTCMight I suggest "Proficiophilia" or "Demonstrophilia" perhaps? Attraction to demonstrations of proficiency. Or more fully: (plato-)proficio-demonstrophilia.
Berthulf
2024-03-23 07:02:11 +0000 UTCThe more skilled you get, the more your sessions with others devolve into teaching. You hold back, you give them breaks, you explain. Then along comes someone skilled enough that you can actually have *fun* with, someone who lets you flex your muscles and go all out (even if the activity involves intellectual muscles more than physical ones), someone you might learn something from instead of the other way around. You know, the reason you started doing this in the first place.
Dan Mackison
2024-03-23 03:45:18 +0000 UTCIn the improv theater world, youโre always looking for a performer who can lead you through the sections where they need to lead, and who you can trust to follow you through the sections where you need to lead. I imagine fights work the same way.
Michael Witry
2024-03-22 23:34:28 +0000 UTCAs noted before, in many professions, you get excited to test yourself with/against the best to elevate yourself. Not limited to stage fighting, but more admiration of a master and a desire to work with or against them. I definitely have that sensation as a lawyer. "Trial Crush," maybe?
AC C
2024-03-22 23:15:07 +0000 UTC
