✨ loneliness in company is so much worse than loneliness in solitude ✨

Ah then it's a good thing i feel lonely alone and with company haha 😩 okay sorry bad joke but yeah that is sadly very true cause that means even when you have someone or friends and yet you still feel lonely that when you know that you need to see someone for help or to remind yourself that you have people it's not a instant solution and i far far from a professional but i feel like it might go somewhere you know? Anyone i've blabbed on for long enough even if what i said was on topic be well everyone stay safe and please never shut yourself away the only thing it'll do is hurt more

Tommy Hiesto

I've had a relationship like that for two years. It's one of the worst feelings in the world. It's better to focus on work and your hobbies than to look for love as it'll follow you when you're finally ready.

Dezeray

Yes, and I support these words as they make sense. By the way, that's why I often prefer to be alone, than to feel lonely among shit people.

NakedSunFlower

Unfortunately, I can agree from experience.

Being lonely in a sea of friends is the most drowning feeling I've ever experienced. I want to get out of this soon. Idk how

KniggWardd

I'm learning to embrace being single. Reminding myself that I am who *I* am. Another person won't complete me, and I won't complete them. We'd just be fortunate to be to complete individual sharing moments in our lives. Should such an eventuality come to pass.

Scarida Ghostly

...I've thought about it more, now that you explained this. I have always thought it was a given to have a relationship with someone who is the right fit and they think the same of you, but I must admit I have engaged into relationships before to fill the hole of loneliness or be the one that filled that hole for someone else. I know better now and also think it's unfair to the party that is comitted in this relationship for genuine feelings. Also, there's the chance of falling out of love or discovering that things weren't as advertised or assumed. Man... I want to date and it sounds very hard, but I still think it's rewarding... with the right person, of course :)

cpt_yakitori

Wisdom, wisdom and again wisdom ... This is what is in you and I would even say that it is in abundance in you, and this is so cool!

VitAnyaNaked

This. This. Just this forever :)

TeacupAudio

Maybe even just not being right for each other. If you can't agree on the shared trajectory of your life, or your core values, or maybe even something as simple as it doesn't feel right. People can absolutely help curb our loneliness, but they have to be the right people - for us and for them. That's what makes relationships in general so complicated - people don't always feel the same way about each other :)

TeacupAudio

Personally, I see it the other way around. But it's because this is a more subjective statement rather than an objective one. The way we all see it depends on the circumstances of the social/romantic parts of our own lives. I tend to always be alone by myself so obviously. I've also experienced times where I felt alone within a group of people. From my own stance, I can say I think I prefer at least having the company of others. Because even though you may feel alone with them, it doesn't necessarily mean that your interactions with them follow in suit. The interactions can still be fruitful depending on the situation.

bag

"I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone." - Robin Williams

Just Plain Joe

The loneliness I feel is the lack of romantic partner. I couldn't imagine feeling lonely whilst being with someone, because I've never experienced it. But it does sound like a nightmare. Thinking about it... feeling like crossing the desert of romantic loneliness, then finally thinking you arrived at an oasis... but it was a fata morgana all along. That must be true despair. That does raise a concern, namely where does this feeling of loneliness stem from? What is it you as a person are lacking in life?

cpt_yakitori

Well said Tea, well said. I just want to add something that people sometimes seem to mix up because being alone and being lonely is not the same. You can be single live alone have your own flat (just as an example) but still dont feel lonely even though you are alone, but even the reverse is true cause even with a partner (to stay genderneutral) and maybe going out with them and some friends so not being alone you can still feel lonely. Being alone just means that you are the only person in a certain area while being lonely means that that you miss something or someone mentally/psychically/heartily.

Not sure what you mean. Is it because you have company with or around you that if you feel can’t be yourself more, thus feeling lonely? In contrast, a single lonely person is still able to be themselves despite having no one with them? I think that’s what you mean but still unsure. Maybe making a Spilling Tea post will help explain what you mean by that.

Coby-O

While I'm sure this is meant genuine, I feel it's easier said from the other side. To never once have had the chance to see if maybe you've found someone. To feel so totally alone despite having friends and family who care for you. It's like the worst of both worlds. There's only so long you can go feeling incomplete before it starts to affect you in unhealthy ways. Especially when you feel as though you have so much love to give. I'd kill to even just have a pet right now.

Ethan

Sorry, I'm not sure I'm understanding your comment. Could you expand on it, please? :)

TeacupAudio

I feel you but just remember that living up to that word when she isn't holding up her end of the bargain will not make you feel better. You do not get that time back, and honestly that promise is a tool she can use to manipulate you and keep you I'm her circle for self validation. Have an honest conversation with your partner and if nothing changes with time then I encourage you at to at least give some thought to moving on.t best of luck my friend. Mad respect for trying to uphold your word though

Baba the Bearzerker

When so many are lonely as seem to be lonely, it would be inexcusably selfish to be lonely alone. - Tennessee Williams

Hadouken99w

I'm honestly not sure if I completely agree with this one. As someone who is avowidly extroverted and gets spoons from being around people, I feel like my mental health takes a huge hit when I'm surrounded by friends and family

Baba the Bearzerker

Very true. As much as it sucks to be in solitude all the time, it’s even worse when you finally are around people and don’t feel any less alone.

Kojiro91

So true.

David Murphy

My well I don’t know anymore but I think girlfriend straight up neglects me, and it’s so obvious because she has time for everyone else but me. But I promised her I’d never leave and really don’t want to go back on it

Thank you

June

Oof, that’s some deep shit

sa r dran 24

Thank you, Tea.

Blindluck92

Ain’t this the truth. My last relationship I was getting cheated on left and right, feeling alone when I had someone next to me was so much worse than me being alone and single now. At least now I don’t have any false hopes or insecurities in what I mean to other people. Thank you for your kind words Miss Tea. 💕💕💕

Austin Truslow

True words. My touch starvation audio we worked on really helps out with it. And I’m glad that it can help others

Galactic Gaming

Essentially, if you're around people and you still feel lonely, that's a lot worse than just being by yourself and feeling lonely.

TeacupAudio

This one hits hard right now

Thank you

Squirrle team 6

I don't understand what this means tea.

Devonbolster

🥺❤️ Thanks for the words of wisdom

MalikTheRonin