A Lesson from Mooji

The universe is seriously plotting you guys. All the time! 

I was in therapy this morning and I was talking about one of my “breakthroughs” although I didn’t even realize it when I started it. That being that, I no longer over think my emotions or try to solve them personally. I came home and I opened up YouTube and one of the first things on my Recommended List was a Russel Brand Video about his favourite spiritual quotes. I clicked through and found the one above which was perfect and allowed me to put into the following into words. 

“Feelings Are Just Visitors. Let Them Come and Go.” - Mooji

It used to be in my early twenties that I would feel Sad, Angry or Alone and I would sit within that feeling and wade in it endlessly. I would ask myself - why do you I feel this way? I hate feeling this way! I never want to feel like this again. How can I live in a way so I never have to feel angry ever again!? Which threw me into a spiral where I would try to fix things and control my life and others in a way so that my own emotions would be balanced at all time.

HA! As if that is even possible!

Thankfully I graduated from that life position but of course held on to bits and pieces of that behaviour. I pretty much just created a new level to it. I knew that I couldn’t control the world and ultimately that I couldn’t control other people but I thought that I could very much control myself. I could control the way I reacted to things, the situations that I allowed myself to be in etc. (Which isn’t exactly wrong but…) Whenever I would get into a bad feeling I went through those same thoughts/steps only I took on all the blame for the negativity I was experiencing. I would hang onto it bad emotions, I would analyze why I was there, what I could have done differently in the situation and I would blame and beat myself up over it.  

Think : 

“Here you are again, alone and unhappy. Why can’t you just be more like ***. No one ever cheats on her.” 

“No one is ever going to love you if you continue to act that way. Why haven’t you figured that out yet?” 

“It’s set it stone, everyone is going to throw you away.” 

“Why would you EVER think this would work out? Obviously you’re not good enough to get that promotion.”

What I hadn’t learned at that time was that emotions in my opinion are somewhat there to lead you. They are there to let you know when you have to check in with yourself and make sure that you’re moving in the right direction, that you’re surrounded by the right people and that you’re taking your needs into consideration.

It’s human to have emotion. It’s human to be upset if someone wrongs you, it’s human to get lonely and it’s human to feel badly if something doesn’t work out or if you happen to fail. 

Every single person on the face of the planet feels those emotions. Everyone! We’re just never taught to talk about them or deal with them in a healthy way. So many people live in denial, they become comfortable within the “bad” or they fear change so much that they don’t push to be better. 

It’s MINDFUL to allow yourself to feel through your emotions. It’s good to ask yourself why you feel it. It will help you become more self aware. It’s also good to go one step further and really sit with it in order to identify if it’s not just your current situation that has made you feel the way you do but if it’s triggered an older emotion that you may not have dealt with and healed from. 

Once you’ve done that though and you understand your place, you understand why you feel this way you should be able to come to a conclusion on whether or not this is something that is passing (like loneliness) or if something needs to change to better your situation. 

For example: if you’ve been completely unhappy at job you’ve been at for 3 years. Maybe that’s not the right place for you? Or, if you’re in a relationship and you keep fighting about the same thing. Maybe the two of you have different values or beliefs? And if one or other isn’t ready or able to bend to accommodate then that partnership might not be serving the two of you in the best way?

What’s most important though is that you FEEL it, acknowledge it, ask yourself why it’s there and allow that feeling to leave once it’s done its job.