"Magdalene is about me finding my voice without society's whispers"

UGH!

Ok, if you don't know FKA Twigs, I already don't know what you're doing with your life. She is literally EVERYTHING. And she just released her album Magdalene which I am already loving. 

I saw this interview pop up on my YouTube this morning and gave it a listen while I was working and it's full of so many great questions and thoughts that I thought I would leave it here for you guys. 

One of my favorites is:

" I’m from a generation where I was taught that our Prince Charming would choose us and that when they did we should be grateful. It was more about being chosen instead of you asking like:

What is right for me?

What do I need?

What are my boundaries?

What do I need to feel nurtured and complete?

I envy girls who are 12 and 13 now because the conversation has changed."

Which I personally agree with so much and I find myself having my own conversations about this and beating it out of myself. The idea that I have to be chosen and waiting for that and it meaning something that I haven't been. 

THAT IS SO REAL WITHIN WOMEN!

Like....to the point where one of my patrons asked me last week or possibly the week before why I was still single. I don't believe that this person meant any harm in their question but like, it just goes to show you who much that thought is ingrained within so many of us, male or female.  Even in the moment I took that question as "why hasn't anyone chosen you?" And, just being honest - like, I took that question badly because I have internal insecurities about being single now, having been single for so long, having never been married etc. 

Personally I'm really trying to change that narrative within myself. I used to cry over being so alone. It was one of my biggest fears to end up alone and internally I felt HORRIBLE because I felt as though no one had ever chosen me (not just romantically). However, now I'm able to see my worth outside of that notion and that was SO FREEING. 

Now, I'm alone but not lonely. I spend SO much time alone, I connect with myself daily, I take care of myself first. No more of this free emotional labour for men who aren't worth my time or fair-weather friends. Being alone, being comfortable alone and finding my true self within that has been empowering. Knowing that I control everything, I control if I react or not, I control if I engage at all, I control who is in my life and how much I share with them. I control my environment and who I include in it - and once I started being VERY picky about those things my life became so much more balanced. I found so much calm within being alone. 

And she speaks about things like that within the interview as well. It's just such a strong meessage that I wish I had gotten when I was younger. 

It's a good interview, good little listen if you have the time and you can listen to Magdalene here:

https://open.spotify.com/album/2w8Wshbp9RCPJdPU1iOpaY?si=vO_OhnDzRHCGgZoxqrhAGA