Monthly Q&A Livestream!
Added 2019-09-19 20:52:53 +0000 UTCCome hangout as I answer the questions sent in by those in the $20 and above tiers! And who knows, you may find an answer to another question you had as well! xoxo
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TK
2019-09-20 02:51:34 +0000 UTC00:49:05 I spent the last 6 years calling a helpline where I live and speaking to a counselor regularly. The other night I got an email saying she was finishing up at the helpline I was lucky enough to call her and say goodbye. But it happened so fast and I was really upset when I called I didn't know what to say to her now I feel like I have let her down I didn't get to say what I wanted and I can't contact her again. I don't know what to do, do you have any suggestions to make this time a little easier on me. 00:52:00 Why do people who have an extensive history of childhood sexual abuse, have such a drive to re-enact that abuse? I often look at porn that has elements of my abuse and read books that have elements of abuse or alpha males in them. I find “normal” romance and sex almost boring. But the abuse catches my attention and using abusive literature and videos are the only way I can masturbate to completion. I’m so sick that I feel and act this way. I absolutely hate it. Why can’t I change it? 00:56:40How important is it to have support outside of therapy? Since I have been diagnosed with anxiety I have told two people and I haven’t told anyone about my OCD diagnosis. I’m really not open to sharing much. On the other hand, I think about when I am eventually done with therapy, and how alone I might feel if there is no one who knows that I have struggled with this. 00:59:45 I am being assessed for complex PTSD (not currently a diagnosis in the DSM, but it is in the ICD) in a couple of weeks. Do you think it will be in the DSM soon? I'm worried about what the assessment involves, and how I'll cope afterwards. I'm worried I will cry and get really upset. I am still struggling to express emotions. 01:05:15 My question is, what age, do you think , is too young to begin going to therapy. I ask this because quite a few years ago when I was on a psychiatric unit in the hospital, besides our unit there was another unit for small children. There were children in there as young as 2 years old! Do you think children that young can even comprehend psychotherapy? 01:08:55 My first boyfriend and I broke up last week. We were only together for two weeks but it still sucks. I’m glad I left though because he assaulted me over text after. I do feel traumatized. But my question is, is this trauma? Is it traumatic enough to warrant trauma based therapy? If you could give some tips on how to deal with the loss of a first relationship, as well as how to heal from the harassment I received. 01:14:40 Moving means I had to change therapists. How do I gain back all the progress and trust I had with my old therapist? Are there things I can do to help build a relationship faster? I'm very slow and not so great at trusting, and my last two therapists it took about 6 months before I generally trusted them, and I just don't have that kind of time. 01:19:20 Im so irritable at this stage of treatment for my eating disorder and I’m just such a horrible person to be around. The doctor tells me I’m being manipulative and I don’t even acknowledge it’s happening in the moment, it’s only after it’s pointed out I see that I am lying and trying to hide foods etc. Why can’t I see it and why do I take it so personally that I am being manipulative? It just feels like a horrible thing to be! 01:23:55 I was wondering about the use of music in when coping with certain situations (specifically when there is a really strong emotional response) and whether or not it is better to listen to something that is more closely related to that emotion or if music in the opposite of that emotion is better? For example if you're mad would it be better to listen to angry metal music or relaxed jazz. 01:26:45 How are you doing? What are you doing for your own self-care and mental well being these days? 01:30:35 In Australia we have a six subsidized session model. Could you pretty please tell me how on earth you would go about writing a treatment plan for a patient with social anxiety (CBT model)? 01:34:50 How the fuck does one quell their B & W thinking???? I’m currently working an IDD IOP DBT program and my B & W thinking has gone bat-shit crazy!! I don’t know how to think any other way! Please know that I am in no way discrediting the powers of DBT therapy; rather, for me, I work from an intellectual perspective and this process has me feeling very incompetent. 01:41:35 I’m having a hard time connecting with my new therapist. I feel like she is awesome at what she does and I really enjoy her approach but she’s not my old therapist and I’m having a hard time trusting her. How can I get out of my own way and move forward with letting this new person into my life? 01:44:40 I have had depression my entire life (I am 30), and been in therapy for the past 2.5 years. But I don't think that in that entire time let myself accept that I have an illness. But my brain has never truly accepted it as an illness. It has always been a part of who I am. So much so, that my self identity has almost completely revolved around it (around the thought patterns that come with it). I realize that, I have no idea who I am. I feel like a completely blank slate. And that is scary. Because I don't really know what to do with myself. How to go about trying to figure out who I am? 01:47:45 I have always had a strained relationship with my family. And it has gotten even worse since I told them, a year ago, that I suffer from severe lifelong depression. It has always been difficult to communicate with them about anything, that when we talk, I talk very little & try to end the conversation quickly. They always want to tell how to do things, that I shouldn't be doing X, or I should do Y this way. I don't feel any form of bond towards them. I never have. I have entertained this dynamic till now out of a sense of obligation. I have always chalked it up to me feeling this way because of my depression. But I don't think that's the only reason anymore. I don't want anything to do with them anymore. Should I make a clean break and tell them that I don't have space for this kind of relationship in my life right now? Am I crazy, and seeing things through the stained lens of my depression? 01:53:00 (For those who don’t know my story, I’m in the process of divorcing my spouse who transitioned from male to female during our marriage) I miss my husband and I can't stop thinking about him. I keep feeling his presence when I let my guard down and at night in bed. I’m devastated because I’m just now realizing how much I still love him and that I never really loved my wife in the same way. I miss him terribly even though I know he never actually existed and was just a persona my wife created. How can I morn the loss of someone who never existed? 01:58:40 (split btw video) The topic of mental health came up in a team meeting at work this month when someone asked questions around the level of depression and anxiety on the rise in our wider team and that it seemed that so many of the younger staff were going through it. Genuine questions were asked around the fact that it felt like so many people were using mental health as a reason for their level of work performance, especially in teams that work together regularly. What was interesting though was the number of questions around the validity of people going through debilitating issues and whether it’s just the ‘in thing now’ to blame your mental health for the reason behind how a person is performing in their role. Any thoughts on how you would respond to this?
TK
2019-09-20 02:51:06 +0000 UTC
