Quick goodbye :)
Added 2019-11-22 00:59:07 +0000 UTCThat ended to quickly.. so let's chat for a couple of minutes
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1:34:15 If I have bad transference w/ my long term therapist, is it more like I'll have it with other therapists? I have to start seeing a ED specialist & I don’t want to get attached if it’s only temporary Also, does transference last forever & is it necessarily a bad thing? 1:38:45 I live in Australia & right now there’s very dangerous fires destroying property & taking lives over the entire country. A famous athlete has taken to social media and the news saying that these fires are god punishing us for legalizing gay marriage. I’m openly gay to everyone besides my family. At work if a patient catches wind of the gayness I get verbally attacked for causing the fires. How can I cope with this? 1:42:30 Could you talk a bit about belonging? I thought it was just a Texas thing where people are typically categorized as "Texan" or "non-Texan", but my therapist brought up a good point of how would you fit in and belong in a new town when that's always a big struggle? 1:46:10 How do I stop rotating between unhealthy coping skills? Journaling helps a bit but whenever I move from distractions to mindfulness all my common sense goes out the window because of some deep seeded fear. My intellectual mind tells me that there’s no value in this; however, my actions and inability to cope and I go back to distractions. 1:52:35 My father’s been an alcoholic for as long as I can remember and has done an uncountable number of mentally scarring things when he's been drunk. I’m completely done with him, I don't want to speak to him ever again. I want to leave my house and just go somewhere I never have to deal with him again. BUT, I'm worried about my mom because she's not in the best health. I love my mom and I want to make sure she's okay but I can't stand my father anymore. I'm stuck in between needing to help family and needing to get rid of part of that same family. 1:57:55 Why do we sometimes want to do things that we know aren't good for us? I'm not talking self-harm. I'm talking more of a sense of texting an emotionally abusive ex, hooking up with someone when we know it's probably not the best, etc
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2019-11-22 01:43:44 +0000 UTC1:15:05 Is it wrong if I will never be able to forgive my abusers? 1:17:50 Can you talk about how trauma can diminish self-compassion, and what you can do to rebuild it and maintain resilience? 1:23:25 I’ve suffered with procrastination for a long time and it has significantly affected me in school, work, and my personal life. I know it is common for people to procrastinate when it comes to things they don’t want to do, but I feel it’s gotten so bad that now I’m even putting off doing things I want to complete. I know that there are aspects of perfectionism, fear of failure, self-sabotage, and addiction to suffering at play, but I’m just not sure how to tackle it anymore. 1:27:15 I’m on the hunt for a therapist & I’m on #4 who gets me like no one else except they’re 3 red flags: she only wants to talk about my failed marriage, her office makes me uncomfortable & I have trouble with eye contact. Should I work thru these issues or move on to #5? 1:33:30 I’m so sorry to hear that your grandfather passed and I can only imagine the grief you’re going through right now. What can the Kinion community do to support you while you’re working through this?
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2019-11-22 01:33:44 +0000 UTC51:40 My therapist recently had me fill out a safety plan due to some recent events that have happened which made me spiral into a really bad depression. The safety plan had a lot of “reaching out” to people. To friends, to her... etc. she knows that i don’t already do this because i don’t ever want to bother people and always fear being a burden to others. Even reaching out to her outside of session is something i won’t do even though she tells me to call/email her if i need to. So it made me wonder... is the safety plan for ME, or is it to protect HER if i was ever to do something? 56:25 What was your reason to go into the field of psychology? Do you just like helping people or does it go deeper. 1:00:15 Can you talk about how we can ‘sit in a feeling’. I saw a therapist a couple of times & she always gave me homework to 'sit' in a feeling rather than push it away. My issue is that by the time I can see I’m having a negative feeling it's already gone. I can logically identify the emotion but it's like it is entirely separate from me. How do I practice sitting in an emotion if I can’t find it in the first place? 1:07:55 I am lonely in a way I never wanted to be. It's been over five years since my soulmate friend had to take her life and I'm just sad. I have great friends but they can’t understand what I’m going through. I wish I had real life friends who understood the mental illness part of me.
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2019-11-22 01:25:41 +0000 UTC34:35 Ive been trying to make changes in my life to live more ethically but i often choose just to do what is easy for me. I feel like it's really hard to always do the right thing without completely changing my whole lifestyle. Do any advice on how to make these choices for myself? 39:15 I get stressed about the holidays because I don’t always share the same political views as my family. Politics always come up & I generally just shut down completely & refuse to participate in the conversation. Is there a healthier way of coping with the situation other than disengaging completely? 45:40 I saw a therapist for 3yrs for OCD, low self esteem, social anxiety & suicidal thoughts. A lot of boundaries were crossed & we started sleeping together. I stopped seeing him but now all my symptoms are worse than before & I've got new ones. I started seeing a new therapist & I’m learning what happened in my previous therapy was abuse & that’s why I'm feeling so bad now. If it was an abuse - was I really so stupid and naive? How do you heal from it?
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2019-11-22 01:18:42 +0000 UTC4:55 Difficulty with loneliness during the holidays due to being a single adult without a family. 9:35 I have PTSD & Panic Disorder & I’m wondering if I should switch to a trauma specialist. Overall I’ve been happy with my therapist but I don’t feel comfortable talking about the trauma with her. I don’t know if it’s this therapist or I’m avoiding dealing with the trauma all together. 13:50 How do people with eating disorders not lapse when they get sick? I recently had a major sinus infection and it triggered my ED behaviors. 18:40 Could you address SSRI withdrawal? I’ve tried several times to get off one but then after a few weeks I start struggling with what feels like depression. Is it possible to tough it out and get past this sticking point? Or Is likely that I truly need this for my brain chemistry. 24:00 I’ve been diagnosed w/ OCD but had trouble going into detail about my intrusive thoughts w/ my current therapist. I’ve be attended a class at a local clinic specializing in OCD. I really like my therapist, and she seems to understand OCD, but it is not her specialty. Should I go to the OCD clinic or just keep working with my current therapist? If I do go to the OCD clinic, how do I tell my therapist? 30:40 Can you use deep pressure materials too much? I use a weighted blanket every night to sleep with and I love how calm and safe I feel under it. I recently started using a weighted vest as well. Will I become desensitized to the effects if I use the vest and the blanket too much?
TK
2019-11-22 01:13:05 +0000 UTC
