Monthly Livestream Part 2!!
Added 2020-11-20 21:34:23 +0000 UTCCome hangout as I answer the last half of your questions! xox
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Q19: 02.40 My therapist has given me seems so far beyond what I have given her through my payment of fees and expressions of gratitude. Is there any other way of giving something back from patient to therapist? Q20: 05.06 I was wondering why certain situations from my past that are over and that I logically am fine with by now suddenly come up out of nowhere and make me feel awful? What is the point of this and what can I do about it? Q21: 10.30 In the past couple of months I’ve been working on my grief over the loss of my mother, one year ago. I’ve realized that this grief therapy has got to get started. I have spent a whole year avoiding the loss of my mom and stuffing down all the feelings around it. My question for you is should I just take it slower or should I stop all together until I’m stronger? Q22: 14.17 In therapy right now we are currently digging into some childhood trauma which I have never talked about or disclosed to anyone before. I guess my question is how do I manage this on a daily basis while we sort through it? And how long will my mind be stuck there? Q23: 21.28 Recently I hit a video about hoarding. In this video they discussed how hoarding is a mental illness, but they also tacked on that it has been linked with OCD. Well, this got me thinking about something that my family gets on me about.. And I've been told that I have at the very least OCD tendencies. So, if I add 1+1 does that mean I'm a hoarder, or am I just someone who's materialistic and has a tendency to hyper focus? Q24: 27.55 How do I work on trust in a new relationship when I absolutely don't trust But how can I trust someone new when someone I did trust hurt me so badly? Q25: 37.05 I would like to ask about your opinion of enmeshment. Is it always a bad thing? I had a very wonderful friendship that we know sadly ended and my psychologist says it's not really about finding another friend to fill that roll. I understand but the fact I found that friendship to be so giving and balanced and healthy - is that a bad thing? I still have trouble with crying at music and sleeping which I can't seem to solve. So really, can I fill the hole myself? Q26: 43.55 My second nanny passed away a couple weeks ago and my ED has gotten worse faster than I can keep up with..I brought it up to my therapist but I know i'm not seeing her for that. My last one said if I work through the underlying things it'll go away altogether .....that's great and all but what am I supposed to do right now while I dont think I'm doing well even at a surface level. Q27: 46.12 I have a question about mixed emotions and how to manage them especially when it comes to family? How can I manage and juggle these very different feelings? Q28: 53.47 What are your thoughts on analysing dreams? Is analyzing dreams a waste of time? Is there any research about whether dreams actually tell you something about your life? Also, do you know if intrusive thoughts show up in dreams- because I’m pretty sure I’ve had that happen before and it's kind of scary. Q29: 59.00 For the past 2 months, my therapist and I have been having weekly sessions to discuss past relationships/friendships to try and figure out why I have such thick, tall, and almost impenetrable walls up for most people regardless of age or gender. I have a history of neglect and abuse, both physically and verbally, relationships starting with my parents and my older brother. After the last few sessions with my therapist she has said I could call her if I felt overly emotional between sessions. There isn’t anything in specific that sets it off, it’s always on the weekend. Is it normal to feel like I’m losing it? Why does my body tremble when I talk about trauma? Why do I always get the biggest headaches after this happens? What would you do as a therapist to help your client if they called you experiencing something like this? Q30: 1.06.11 I am just having a really hard time with my life and it’s like everywhere i turn it’s something else knocking me down, i get back up and then something else comes along and knocks me down even harder. I’m always told that “these things will pass” and “it’s not permanent” well it feels pretty permanent and i just don’t know what i am doing wrong? Is this just what complex ptsd is going to be like for the rest of my life? Q31: 1.11.30 As you know, I am currently in therapy and my therapist wants to start working on the big bag of traumas that I have. I mean I have spoken about my traumas in the past just not in therapy, so how will therapy help me with this? How does discussing and talking about the traumas I have experienced help me overcome it? I am able to talk about most of it, but I don’t feel like I am over it. I know when talking about all the trauma I have experienced I depersonalize myself from it to be able to talk about it. Could it be that I really need to connect myself to the trauma when I talk about it to get over my trauma or does depersonalizing all the trauma mean I am over it? I really don’t like talking about my feelings as it all just feels too overwhelming. How do you know when you have overcome it fully? Q32: 1.15.30 Self Harm has always been my way of coping with things. The longer my Therapy goes on for BPD, the more reluctant i'm finding myself to Self Harm - at least until it gets to the point where I feel like there really is no alternative. My problem however is that none of the distractions I've learned and none of the skills and tools that I've developed give me the same release and same level of control that Self Harm does. Do you have any suggestions or words of wisdom to deal with this feeling? Q33: 1.19.20 Can you speak on DIDNOS and "Parts Work"? Q34: 1.25.50 I think I'm finally starting to fully heal from what brought me into therapy in the first place (yay!) But now I find myself trying to find issues to fixate on and I can't get out of this. Is this normal? Q35: 1.28.40 . A lot of times my anxiety is either seen as me being impatient or selfish.. My anxiety hates when things aren't done or don't have at least a plan to get them done. What can I do about this? Q36: 1.35.11 What’s something you have been working on in your own journey or therapy of late (that is safe to share on Patreon)? In terms of where you are at in your process of that situation, what are some of the learnings you have had about yourself or steps you are taking? Q37: 1.40.09 What are your thoughts about the role that spirituality and anything beyond our perception have in our mental health journey?
Katie K
2020-11-22 13:10:08 +0000 UTCThanku.
Claire
2020-11-20 23:03:58 +0000 UTC
