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Added 2021-06-15 16:59:29 +0000 UTCCome hangout as I answer all 36 of your questions this month! We will probably be here for at least 3 hours so feel free to pop in as you can! xoxo
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Q1. 18.41 - I’ve tried CBT (specifically thought logs) and I feel like I’m just doing it wrong. I understand the concept of challenging negative thoughts. I keep getting told to just rehearse the replacement thoughts until they sink in—but they haven’t yet, in the year or so that I’ve been doing this. Have you seen clients just get stuck on this simple task? Is there a way to jump-start this process before I abandon CBT? Q2. 25.22 - Can you talk about Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) and how to navigate a romantic relationship with RSD? Q3. 35.06 - When you’ve been diagnosed with a mental illness and lived with it for many years, is it possible that the mental illness can get worse? Have you ever seen that before? Q4. 42.55 - My question relates to how we cope when our mental health is impacted by real world discrimination or oppression i.e. in the form of disability discrimination (in my case), racism, homophobia, transphobia etc. Q5. 51.36 - Why does for some people an eating disorder get worse when everything else is under control? Shouldn't it be the other way around if an eating disorder is a coping skill? Q6. 54.24 - Is there any insight or advice that would help any of us waiting for referrals /assesment /therapy and worried about being misunderstood, feeling lost in the process. Q7. 58.11 - I need to lose weight because I'm overweight And I also have a lot of physical conditions because of it but I can't seem to eat healthier – any advice? Q8. 1.03.59 - Why do people stay in abusive relationships? Q9. 1.15.00 - I know I asked you a question about my mom's memory issues a while back and you said not to worry about it because it is just normal aging at the time I thought you were right but things have gotten worse. She is asking the same questions over and over again How do I not lose my mind when stuff like this is getting worse? How do I get her help when I am scared of the answers we will get? Also my mom is probably going to give up driving and I don't have my license mostly because I am terrified of getting behind the wheel and being in charge of something that could kill me and others if I make even the smallest mistakes. Any thoughts on how I can move past this anxiety. Q10. 1.21.00 - Lately I've been having a bit of a rough time emotionally and I feel really alone, even more than I used to since I had to quit therapy recently for financial reasons. I have really good friends, loving parents, a wonderful sister, nice colleagues at work etc and I know if I turned to any of them they would do their best to support me. I am much more open with them than I ever would have believed possible a few years ago but I still always pretend that I'm fine in total and coping with everything. I actually find this thought very comforting but I was wondering why do I still have this need to feel happier and more connected? Why do I feel like I have to find a solution to my problems and why do I want to find a way to create healthy habits and relationships in my life? Q11. 1.27.00 - I’ve recently started back into trauma therapy with my psychologist after a break due to COVID/her mat leave, but for some reason, this time around has been a lot more intense and confronting than before. We are definitely unpacking a lot more and going into way more detail than we have previously, which I know is good and means I’m processing more. However, in session I am finding it really difficult to not dissociate as soon as certain topics get brought up. My psychologist is generally amazing at helping to keep me as grounded as possible, but how can I stay grounded when going into all the details about my past abuse? I’ve also found after sessions I’m struggling to keep on top of my impulses and once I start getting one under control, other impulses get worse. I have tried impulse logs and they do work sometimes, but I am definitely feeling like the impulses are going to win. How can I not just give in? Q12. 1.33.00 - Why do enjoyable things make us feel awful afterwards? It seems like the more fun I had trying to cheer up, the worse the crash and aftermath. Am I going about it wrong, or is there another way to pull myself out of a low mood without falling into an even lower one? Q13. 1.36.07 – Are there any treatments for SAD during the summer? When I look up treatments for SAD, they often seem to be specific to the more common variant during Winter (e.g. light therapy). Q14. 1.40.42 - My therapist and I are working on some old trauma. Between the ages of 6 and 9, my same-aged cousin sexually abused me. I agreed to it, but obviously we were both too young to understand or consent to these activities, which included adult-like intercourse. I don’t think of him as an abuser, because he was also a little kid at the time and didn’t know what he was doing. Could I just be spreading the pain to him when he’s already moved on? Also, have you ever helped someone have a conversation like this and if so, do you have any tips for me, things to consider when deciding whether or not to go ahead and things to keep in mind while it’s happening? Q15. 1.48.36 - So, here we go, onto the biggest-boldest-what-came-over-me updates of them all. Of course it is about Red, and I did the bold. I told her through a song reference (which she thankfully got) "I don't have a name for it, but I do believe I love you!" Which is from a song that I shared with her, and like it sounds it's a song about loving someone. Her immediate response was a Smiling Emoji w/Hearts around it, and I responded with "Sorry if that was a bit up front, but I just had to say it." To which she responded in video saying "I love you Paddykins" without me even having to ask what she thought/felt about me. How the heck do I handle the situation with Red? Like I want to be intimate and have the affection portion of our relationship, but I also know that given the current circumstances that's not really the right thing. I want and need to be there for her, and I'm trying to but I don't know how. Like I have been sending her content, telling her stories, making the modern day equivalent of "mix tapes" with YouTube playlists, and I have been trying to show that I am there for anything she needs. Despite knowing that she appreciates me doing those things I feel... I feel like I've done nothing to actually help, and I keep asking "What else can I do? Am I doing the right things?" Q16. 1.55.35 - I had a major splitting episode on my wife recently and although I think she has forgiven me, I can't forgive myself for the nasty words that came out of my mouth and the actions i took. Do you have any advice on how to get to a stage where I can move on from it, because at the moment I feel pretty shitty.
Katie K
2021-06-18 19:01:17 +0000 UTCThanks so much your amazing!!x
Katie K
2021-06-18 19:01:06 +0000 UTCI'm no Katie K but I started this while rewatching.. :D Q1: 18:40 CBT Q2: 25:20 RSD (Rejection Sensitivity Disphoria) Q3: 35:27 When you've been diagnosed with a mental illness and have lived with it for many years, is it possible that the mental illness can get worse? Q4: 42:54 How do everyday discriminations or repressions impact the way we cope with our mental health? Q5: 51:35 Why does for some people a ED get worse when everything else is under control? Q6: 54:24 Is there any advice or inside that would help any of us waiting for referals or assessment and therapy and worried about being misunderstood, feeling lost in the process? Q7: 58:10 I need to lose weight because I'm overweight and I also have a lot of physical conditions because of it but I can't seem to to eat healthier and don't really have a reason, no willpower and am weak and I know I should be able to eat healthy but I can't right now. Q8: 01:03:57 Why do people stay in abusive realtionships, particular violent ones, is it because of the hope that it will get better one day or loyalty or past trauma? Q9: 01:14:58
Tatanka
2021-06-16 20:45:15 +0000 UTC
