USING YOUR PERSONALITY TO SELL
Added 2021-04-13 13:30:48 +0000 UTCOften when we come into this work, whether in BDSM or SW, we think that we need to have a certain personality to be able to sell our content. This is FALSE. I always tell people to just be themselves, literally. Yes, you can also play a character or different personality online if you should choose, but for some of us, that seems much harder.
For example, in my personal life, I am nurturing, bubbly, and still can be stern. I translate this into my Domme life by being a sensual sadist, meaning I'll still have a quality of femininity and sensuality about myself, but I'll also put you in your rightful place.
Take the best parts of yourself and put it into your work:
Into gaming? Create content centered around video gaming. You could even film yourself playing the video game while ignoring clients. This is known as an "ignore" session.
Into cooking? Film some mukbangs while relaxing in lingerie.
Maybe in your real life you're quiet and like to remain mysterious. Use this to your advantage by never filming your face, only neck down or waist down. Entice subscribers to wish they knew more about you.
Into crystals, tarot, and magic? Be the Domme or SW that reads your client's future - which is for them to keep spending on you!
Even in the SB/SD game, you can use your personality to your advantage. Most SD's see this form of dating as a fantasy for them; they want to be taken away from the stress of their busy real world. Play into that fantasy as long as you're comfortable.
If you need more help with this, comment below on things about your personality. Let's brainstorm!
Comments
This! This! This! I came across someones IG page who makes cakes and then sits on them and shes killing it. Thats ALL-- she bakes, decorates, tastes it and then she sits on it. I saw someone else whose style is cottage-core and like the "cozy reader" and she always has the camera on her ass. Ya'll have fun and be creative!!!
Enchantress Amara Nicole
2025-02-04 01:47:09 +0000 UTCIm someone who is very comfortable with the fact that i have a couple of personalities. Their are 4 sides of me to be exact. I want to find a way to incorporate at least 3 of them. In other words their is regular me, sweet loving funny people person. its also a side of me thats very sexually confident and in total control of the moment. I get what i want and they cant resist me. Then theirs her!!!! If you encounter HER well then you done fucked up cause she don't play. i get asked all the time"who are you today" Lol. I think thid would be a fun and different way to switch things up. Im a hair stylist that has been in the industry for 30 years. Plus i"m a writer among a few other things. Trying to decide how i want to go about it. Any suggestions?
Goddess Cream
2025-01-16 07:05:44 +0000 UTCnot we the same person 😂❤️
Mimi
2024-06-07 12:39:29 +0000 UTCMysterious is my thing
Essance
2023-08-06 21:21:58 +0000 UTCI consider myself nurturing but I like being the hardcore mean girl at times, then going back to the nurturer....
Cherice Cardwell
2023-06-17 00:03:16 +0000 UTCI like to smoke weed then do yoga or hula hoop. Friends come to me when they need someone to hold space for them and smoke with. My humor is a little dark, but hilarious to most. I'm very charismatic and understanding. People divulge their life to me very easily.
The Erotic Creatrix
2022-10-10 02:43:12 +0000 UTCAnd is anyone else into food? Does anyone know any good resources on FOOD fetishes that isn't feederism/eating copious quantities? I LOVE to eat and want to get subs/SDs to buy me amazing food to eat/cook at home and out on the town. Would folks do this just to watch me--in my cute very expressive way ;) -- eat? I can eat VERY heartily at times and definitely do not mind gaining weight, but I'm not into pushing my limits with forced feeding etc. It's a sensual and JOYFUL thing for me! I love foraging--would watching me eat weeds from the ground be anyone's $$ fetish? Maybe they buy me the steak or lobster to eat with my lamb's quarters? :D Given how society tends to mistreat me as a "neurodistinct" woman--rushing me and being impatient, making me work harder to generally still remain misunderstood--I LOVE mindfuckery and/or just getting to be an impatient dick with subs. :D Even though I feel fabulously funky, inimitable, and worshippable in so many ways, I also feel like I can't really make this FinDomme stuff mine bc I'm too physically disabled (POTS + chronic pain) to wear heels and I never wear makeup. I'm pissed that chronic illness and esp this never-ending pandemic has robbed me of the release of beating ass in person. And that my life is all virtual bc no one is comfy outdoors. I'm not a robot but a person...wondering how that may best channel itself into FinDom work. I am SUPER predictable in some ways and totally enigmatic in others. I LOVE nature (just IDing or taking photos of plants or bugs or fungi makes me so happy!), food (eating and cooking it), teas, foraging... I am also OBSESSED with Black music (funk, trad, swing, soul...over a hundred years and innumerable styles of it at this point!), and people say I can carry or reinvent a tune with aplomb too. :)
Bridget Jones Brokevitch, the Public Health Harlot
2022-08-01 18:23:43 +0000 UTCAnyone want to work together on talking this stuff out, shoot me a DM!
Bridget Jones Brokevitch, the Public Health Harlot
2022-08-01 18:06:45 +0000 UTCI love to read, I love to talk and sometimes debate, I love going out to places like cedar point or Main Event
Velma Valor
2022-07-17 17:16:14 +0000 UTCI'm kind of glam /masculine. Love pinup and Burlesque but also love horror movies ,cigars and cars . Looking of ways to incorporate both .
Miss D
2022-02-18 18:04:41 +0000 UTCI'm figuring it out day by day...I'm a bbw who loves gardening, reading, working on my truck, and traveling. So I plan to add my interests into my content. I've locked down my personal accounts, so I can comfortably shoot videos or photos outside in my garden. I want to try out doing some naked erotica reading that have happy endings. Not sure how I want to incorporate my truck into things....I may order some dildos shaped liked tools that I use from phreak.club in the future. That's what I've got so far. I'm a very solid switch that has been kinky for years and I definitely want to let my Dominant side come out to play more in this endeavor: rope, floggers, bastinado, spanking, chastity, pegging, etc are all things I plan to use as I already enjoy them. It's the humiliating people that makes me go...Ehhhhh
Lady Darina
2022-01-27 19:35:28 +0000 UTCIn my real life I own a sensuality and chakra focused brand. I teach hula hoop and sensual movement classes. Because I post videos of this on my personal page I'm a little unsure of how to translate that over to my SW page without them merging
The Erotic Creatrix
2022-01-25 16:16:06 +0000 UTC
