WHEN TO BLOCK SUBS

Not every submissive man deserves access to you just because they are submissive. Men are men and they are going to be time wasters no matter what setting they approach you in. It's best to know ahead of time how to deal with these fakes and flakes to protect your energy.

One of the most powerful tools in a Dominatrix can have is the BLOCK BUTTON. I personally use it like no one's business and I'm not afraid to. If you don’t learn to spot the red flags early, you’ll waste time, energy, and emotional bandwidth on men who were never worthy of your time to begin with.

This lesson is all about discernment. Let’s talk about it in the different red flags that may pop up in your journey.

RED FLAG #1: They Lead with Entitlement, Not Obedience

1. You have the "Hi, hey, hello" types that just want a response when they have given nothing. Remember: as a Pro Dominatrix, these men are NOT your friends. They are potential clients or potentials on your block list.
BLOCK.

2. The “What do I get if I send tribute?” types. Submission is not always in pursuit of what can be gained from a Domme. The tribute is a token of gratitude for even being able to speak to you. There is no exchange of content or session for a tribute.
BLOCK.

3. Subs who demand instant attention, question your prices, or act like you’re interchangeable with any other Domme are NOT submissive. Usually these types have never had any session with a Domme and are trying to make you jealous by breaking your boundaries. Don't fall for it.
BLOCK.

A true sub starts the conversation with:

• Respect

• Tribute

• Inquiry (not interrogation) - this should be well communicated and show that they have done their research on you.

RED FLAG #2: Emotional Dumping Without Permission

Some subs don’t want to serve you; some just want a therapist or someone that will nurture them for free. If they overshare, trauma-dump, or showcase insecurities that may affect your day in their first messages, STEP AWAY.

Unless you’ve explicitly consented to a therapeutic or emotionally dominant dynamic, this is a violation of your boundaries and should be a hard limit.

Set the standard that emotional access has to be earned (if this is something you want to offer them in the future but you absolutely do not have to).

💰 RED FLAG #3: Financial Bratting Turned Disrespect

There’s a difference between a sub being a playful brat and a sub participating in manipulative withholding.

Watch out for phrases like:

• “I’ll send when I feel like it.”

• “I’m testing to see if you’re real.”

• “Other Dommes don’t charge that much.” (I hate this one, cause GO TO THAT OTHER DOMME AND LEAVE ME ALONE!!).

If they continue, BLOCK.

👣 RED FLAG #4: They Only Follow, Never Lead

Leadership in this sense means the submissive doing things that you love without you always having to ask. Do they ever initiate payment, praise, or submission, or are they always reacting, replying, and waiting for you to say the next thing?

Some subs want you to chase. Some want you to carry the full dynamic on your back. This can sometimes come off as laziness. They need to be dedicated to devoting their time to you fully.

Reminder:

Blocking is simply protection and it isn’t rejection.

If someone makes you feel:

• Drained

• Annoyed

• Uninspired

• Disrespected

BLOCK BLOCK BLOCKKKKK