Fat Gainer

There are many labels out in the world and they can help us present who we are without a lot of explanation. But being fat and gaining Are more than labels. They are two separate issues that are linked but are very different frames of mind.

Gaining is a fetish, it can be a fantasy, but being fat is a reality. You have to be comfortable and confident in your every day life and love your fatness. 

We exist in a world that shames people for being fat. It’s in advertising, tv shows and movies and news reports. Society messages us every day that fat is not sexy, not heathy, not acceptable. But we the gainers, the encouragers, the chasers and the chubs know that fat is sexy. What matters is seeing yourself as sexy. 

Gaining is transformation. It’s an active push to become the ideal that we deeply desire. But being a gainer is mostly secret, it’s behind closed doors or it’s a big meal with a wink and a nod. It’s something you never have to expose to people if you don’t want to. And it’s not necessary. It’s a fetish and we mostly don’t expose our fetishes. They can be hidden. But being fat and becoming fatter, you cannot hide that. People see your bigness, the shirts that get tighter, the double chins, the difficulty you have squeezing into those narrow cafe chairs. Your fat is on display in public everywhere you go. And they don’t know you are a gainer, that you are forcing yourself to gain. All they see is someone who is fat.

How you are perceived can depend on how you present your fatness. To be fat in a positive way is about having the confidence and courage to defend your fatness. The hardest part about becoming fat is being fat.

Depending on where you are in your life, being fat and getting fatter may be met with many challenges. Do you live near family? Do you have a partner or a job that might have a negative opinion of your increasing weight and expanding body? Is the reduced physical ability that can come with getting fatter affect your work, sports or hobbies?Somethings can hold you back. Can you adjust these things so you can continue to get fatter? Are you willing to give up some activities in exchange for a bigger, thicker body?  Can you handle the questions and comments?

After I started gaining and  developed a bulkier body I found my deep passion to be big. With every pound I packed on, every clothes size that I ballooned out of, I was finding I enjoyed the look and feeling of my swollen, thickened frame more and more.

As I grew larger, a deep sense of masculinity and power started to emerge, I found others who liked my new size and some that didn't. I started to see my increasing size was limiting some aspects of my life. I couldn’t go on many amusement park rides. I couldn’t shop at just any clothing store. I had to find cafes that had sturdy, comfortable chairs. These were all things I had not thought of and they could have stopped me in my tracks. What allowed me to continue was that at the end of the day, alone with my own thoughts, I was happy with who I was. Not just happy, but in love. I was fat. Without anyone else desiring me, without anyone feeding me or worshiping my growing body, I loved how I felt and looked. That is what allowed me to have confidence in my growth and fatness.

I am confident in my girth in my everyday life and I defend it. At work I request a bigger, sturdier chair with no armrests to limit my wideness. I respond to waitresses that suggest a booth “Do I look like I’d fit in a booth?” I order big portions and remark “That ought to fill the tank”. In being confident and showing my own acceptance and approval of my size, it exposes the issue, it frames my interactions. People see me as strong and confident and happy. And that, I believe over rides others ability to cast their views on my size. And I’m prepared to defend it. 

In the many years and literally hundreds of pounds I’ve added to my frame, I’ve come to know that gaining for me isn’t the end goal. It’s finding friends and partners that accept me as a fat man. They don’t need to feed me or talk about when I’m 20..50..100lbs bigger. They need to appreciate and explore who I am today, at this ample weight. The fantasy or fetish of gaining can be fun and erotic, but what brings me the most pleasure is when I am accepted, appreciated and enjoyed as the fat man I am in the here and now.

I am a happy fat man. I’m confident in my choices to have overfed my body to produce the bulk and blubber that is here today. I’m glad that I explored the desire to become bigger because I’m happy being big.

I have been posting my journey online for many years and I hope it has helped others explore their desire to gain or express their love for big men.

I respect who I am and I hope others can do the same. Be happy, be fat and be confident.  Enjoy your gaining journey, but own your fatness. Revel in the happiness being fat brings you. Being fat or loving fat men does not have to bring you shame. Your version of happiness is as valid as any other person. 

Look in the mirror. You are fat. And you deserve a place at the buffet like everyone else. But don’t wait to be accepted. Accept yourself and let others know you are worthy of their consideration and respect. Become a confident fat man and enjoy the ride.