50 Shades of Sissy

Today I'm writing something more philosophical around sissification, sexuality in relation to the terms we come across in our daily lives.

My thoughts are that there are many for whom sissification suits well. They can go from an ill-adjusted male to a powerful girl. 

It can be for a short time when they need to embrace the power of the feminine expression. Perhaps for them it is to feel those very powerful feelings around their sexuality, and perhaps to embrace their submissiveness.

I see it as an exploration that all should be allowed to make, but only a few courageous will ever take.

Transgender is a word that commonly describes those who are not conforming to the binary dogmatic standard of sex and gender in our Society. This means that when it comes to how they view themselves, or present their appearance, or wants their role in society to be, or their role in a sexual context they seem "opposite side" to what the societal norm currently dictates. Do not confuse this with Transexual. All Transexuals are Transgender, but not all Transgender are transexuals. 

By that definition of Transgendered, it includes everyone in the sissy community. The "transgender" term has nothing to do with sexuality or attraction. Some gay people are transgender, but not all transgender are gay. Same goes with bi, asexual or straght orientations. Orientation has to do with how you view others in terms of attraction, not yourself.

However it is related in the sense that with openness and understanding of the many nuances of gender expression, also comes an understanding that attraction just cannot be so plain binary either. 

The link above is to a ted talk about a girl who went out to capture normal people that were gay, as an empathic way to combat homophobia, to show people that gay people are normal people like everyone else. But what she found was no black and white.  

If you really look at reality of sexuality then you realize there is no perfect straight or gay definition that actually works in the real world, and having such a definition usually makes little sense. And homofobia is a paradox in that how can you fear gay people, if the very idea is a mistake from the get go? Because homofobia comes from a series of beliefs and values, of a fantasy world that never existed, of simple definitions painted over a much more complex reality. When people make complex things simple, they tend to make it worse.

It is very much the same with sissification. If you sissified yourself once, then are you transgender? Twice? Are you a sissy if you do it for years? The question is stupid, because why ask yourself or someone else if they are a sissy or not. As if there is a line one could either cross or not. 

Everyone carries feminine and masculine aspects inside of them. This differs from situation to situation, depending on who you are with, what you are doing and influences in your life at that moment.

You either repress that side of you, and go around being less of you for it, or you embrace and explore it, and become more of who you are. Sissification is one way out of many to take on that exploration. Some realize they just feel better and keep it up, others do it only from time to time.

At the academy we do on purpose stereotype femininity, and play on the extremes of this. Even as a sissy trainer I am still a feminist. There is nothing contradictory about that. I teach all my sissies to respect women, men and themselves. It is about a more mature, complex and empathic mindset.

Embrace it, explore, have fun! And if you are faced with doubts, or fears then contact the academy we have guidance counselors that will help you for free to come to terms with that.

We are here for you <3