Thinking that you can never be a beautiful female?

Hey there sweetie!

Maybe you are just exploring sissification as a fantasy, maybe you are embracing it fully regardless of what might come or maybe you have decided this is how you will live your life forever.

Most students realize that they could not really become that perfect, youthful, beautiful female of their dreams.

Any of these reasons matching yours?

Do you focus on your body, such as it being too big, too old, too ugly, or too masculine.

Perhaps the focus is more on your life situation such as I cannot because of work, friends, family, sports, hobby, events or activities you love, kids, girlfriend, wife, culture, money or laws?

Some finds internal psychological reasons such as not enough time, not enough energy, not enough confidence, not enough mental stability, or some even because of a struggle with burnout, autism, adhd, borderline, ptsd or similar.

Some therefore conclude that this is a reason for them to not move forward and just keep it as a fantasy. That is fine. Others conclude they still need to move towards but carry around a sadness, lack of hope and often a constant feelings of envy towards women. Some say they don't give a fuck, but on the inside they really do.

What about if you could see things a bit differently?

Would that not be to ignore reality? Is there any point in denying the truth of the world?

I think telling yourself something that you know is not true will end up harming you. It will not truly change your mind. Even if you manage to trick yourself to the point that you swear something is not as it is, then will you not inevitably end up in situations were others perception of reality does not match yours? That is often not so fun. Because if we are begin honest here. Will you handle it by ignoring them? Or by defending a belief you do not agree with? Often this is not so fun.

And so want to I ask you if you think that telling yourself something that is not aligned with what you deep down believe truly resonates with being your authentic you?

Let us look at how you can get both. Being and acting in a way that you feel good about. That is aligned with that you value and truly believe, yet without pushing yourself down. Without taking away your hope for a future you wish came true somehow. Without you having to suffer or be constantly and painfully reminded of this impossibility or mismatch in your life. Curious?

First I want to acknowledge that if you have thoughts or feelings that resonate with the reasons we listed above then it is very possible that parts of your life can be tough. Maybe it sort of feels like you are fighting an internal and external battle that you never asked to be part of.

This could be a time where it is probably more important than ever to embrace your inner feminine strength.

“Success is a little like wrestling a gorilla. You don't quit when you're tired. You quit when the gorilla is tired.”

At the Academy, the aim is to help you stay mentally strong, explore yourself and develop your feminine mind to be able to, if you so choose, to be able to tackle what might be one of the biggest challenges of your life.

If you are just enjoying it as a fantasy, exploration or fun then feel free to just enjoy the benefits that comes with raising your mental strength, can be quite useful regardless right? <3

Your sexuality is probably an important part of your life journey, and something that can contribute to your happiness regardless of who you are going to become. It is not something to just dismiss.

While my aim with the academy is always to deliver and aim high, it is far from perfect.

It is, after all, just one single program, that is meant to work for so many different life situations. 

Before we get there I just want you to know that I always listen with open arms to all that submit their feedback to us. It is when I hear what you struggle with in regards to our content or structure that you give me the power to improve it for everyone in a similar situation. It is not your responsibility to write your feedback in a perfect and respectful way - just do your best to convey what is important to you and write your perspective and it will be appreciated as such <3

So back to the topic at hand.

Why does so many students have these thoughts and feelings about their looks, beauty and female potential?

Even though this is quite common most students thinks actually they are more or less the only one with such thoughts or reasons.

And this is no strange thing, since the difference between many students internal desired image of themselves, and their actual external one can be quite far apart! The cultures most students live in is also not fully understanding, open and accepting of differences in general, and often less so about sexual exploration; as a good sex life is not something that can contribute to most human's lives.

At the academy I have the aim that our content allows our students to feel limitless when they explore that desire for perfection.

"Perfection is always a fantasy."

Dreams does not need to take away from reality. I'd argue that many times they are what shapes our reality. Ideas start as small seeds that seem rather lacking, but they can grow into the most important things we know of and spread over the planet to the benefit of all.  

This exploration of your fantasies and dreams still allows for us at the Academy to encourage steps forward that are real and tangible. Instead of being a limitation, it can be what paves the way forward.

You can know for sure that with current day technology you probably won't be able to look like that youthful perfect fantasy girl of your dreams, and at the same time this does not in the slightest indicate that you can know for sure that you will never be sweet, beautiful or one day live and be perceived 100% as female.

You may think you are sure of this, but you cannot truly be sure what the future holds can you?

How do we measure if someone is sweet enough, beautiful enough or female enough?

Actually many are surprised just how big difference it can have to lose muscle, lose weight, practice smoother feminine movement and gestures, a feminine wig or hairstyle, clothes and makeup by itself can do.

Then of course those that truly are decided on making this a permanent part of their lives tend to end up starting hormones and girl, no one can know how you will look after years on that.

The truth is that you do not know how you will look like, or how your life situation will be in a year, and even less so in 10 years.

Being a female is something that is not defined by only the external. Here you qualify very much as a female and will be treated as such.

It saddens me to know that many students in their daily lives do not experience the acceptance and respect that I believe all humans should have. 

Yet what I deeply ask of you is to at least admit that here at the academy you are welcome regardless of cultural labels, expectations or looks. Your mind is what qualifies you; that you want to be here hun <3

Is it fair to the staff and your fellow students, to say that you cannot "come near to qualify as a female"?

You do qualify.

I know most students then correct themselves and say something like "Well, okay I agree, but what I meant was when anyone looks at me... they do not see a female.".

So let us rephrase that story you tell yourself a bit to be more truthful.

Yes, in many ways you qualify perfectly as female, and one area where there might be some way to go is in real life visual perception.

However your perception is something that you can work on in many levels so it is far from as bad as any reason for you not being good enough, being able.

No one knows how they will be perceived by others, especially not in the future.

Perception is different across cultures, across time, groups, and situations.

When you think back on your reasons, can you admit that maybe they are not pure truths but rather stories you are telling yourself?

Can you slightly change the phrasing to make it more true?

For example imagine one of your reasons are that you are "Too big", Then ask yourself what is "too big" anyway? Is it a line and when you are one millimeter past it you are "too big" and a millimeter before it is fine? How can you know for sure that this will limit you to a point that makes it "too much" or "an actual reason"? What if you are wrong? There are so many students that have had stories like that who now have no issues at all with that.  

Would it be more accurate to rephrase it to something like "Some people I meet will perceive me as bigger than average", and perhaps then the consequences of this might be that "Some of those people might therefore treat me differently", and add that "there will also be people that do not even consider how big someone is as something to even take note of, and even more that will not consider how big someone is to matter or play any role in how they treat that person".

People that we could imagine would treat you differently because of this might do so, in large, out of some cultural pressure to fit in or just being unsure how to behave themselves. These people might not be the ones whose opinion you primarily go by.

Whatever reason you can think of there is also a possibility that you are slightly or outright wrong about your story. It might be true to some extent but what if that ends up having little to no impact in your life? Maybe other things will turn out to be much much more important to your happiness?

Does this not apply to so much in life?

There is those that pressure others to fit in and limit themselves, because they were themselves pushed to armor up, toughen up, fit in and not make a fuss. They may just be repeating stories that they have heard but not actually arrived at by their own thinking.

What a fluke if you go your life listening to stories from people you care about, or even worse from people you dislike, and it turns out this was not actually their stories?

Instead it was their defense from admitting they are just like you, unique, vulnerable, imperfect, struggling human beings that fear above almost anything else that anyone gets to know what is underneath their surface. Because in their minds, perhaps they truly truly believe that if someone knew about their flaws, desires, dreams, fears, hopes, vulnerabilities, mistakes or heartful stories that no one would accept them. That they think that they would never be accepted for who they are, and so they search for protection and stories that they can use for that.

And would it not be especially a big facepalm if the very reason they hold these beliefs. The reason they might struggle to fit in, or perhaps lack in the depths of human to human meaningful relationships. What if it is this very fear that makes them unable to let even the people they love inside their world?

Do not aim to be perfect. Aim to more forward.

Dream about being perfect. Let this inspire you moving forward.

And I highly recommend this video for anyone that feels they have a lot of arguments about how a possible female future might never be possible:  

https://youtu.be/AHU1hRYhKwY 

Hope that helps a bit.

Warmly,

Trainer Frida