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Patreon, R&P Q&A #152: Week 52

Fieldreports, red pilled actionable information, roadmaps

Part I https://youtu.be/__TGRu-s61g

Part II https://youtu.be/CWkrdr3oALU

 Patreon, R&P Q&A #152: Week 52

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Late 30s/married/5 kids One observation, and one relationship question. I'm spent over a year lifting consistently, lost 60 lbs of fat, gained muscle, made more money, made a lot more guy friends, having more sex, and had many new life experiences thanks to my actions and feedback from this space and MRP. I could go into more detail, but the short version of it is that I've followed the MRP map for a while with a few mistakes, but corrected the course and continued on with the MRP path. 1. I'm now at a crossroads. I have the tools to both forge my own path and to respond in a healthy and productive way to things that are thrown my way. A year ago, I thought the hardest thing was getting my wife to have sex with me. Now, it's figuring out where my energy should be directed. When I fall back into directing a large amount of energy into my marriage, it's never satisfying to me, which reminds me that I'm directing my energy into the wrong places. The real challenge I'm having is that what I have to do next probably still follows the MRP script in terms of goals, but the actions are not laid out for me, meaning that I'm going to have to go out and potentially fail at something. It was suggested to me to take a break from the MRP space to go out and get some experiences and find what I'm looking for. I am taking that advice, and looking forward to what I might find. My further unplugging starts this weekend with some more travel. 2. Unhappy wife/"struggle" victim? With the work I've done, I've gained a lot of confidence. I know my value and where my strengths are and what weaknesses I need to continue working on. It took a while, but this has naturally made me focus less and less on my relationship. My wife is not a road block or speed bump for anything I'd like to do. She doesn't believe in the Disney fantasy. I never hear her bitching at me. I lead her, and she follows my lead. I blur the lines. I initiate sex three to four times a week, and it always happens. I have new opinions and new hobbies, and all of a sudden she has new opinions and hobbies. Yet, it when it comes to sex or physical intimacy, there is definite shutdown and mood shift. She does not initiate any sex or physical touch with me whatsoever. I understand and believe that her not initiating sex is OK due to women's reactive nature. That part is not a concern for me. I notice her happy and laughing, and then I'll take her hand and lead her upstairs. She'll follow, but makes little eye contact and holds a very neutral face. The sex is never starfish. Sometimes there is hesitation. I told her last night I wanted her to blow me. No movement, I said nothing else, and then she sighed, and did it. I have some thoughts with this: 1. Is this an instant of "don't care, getting laid?" 2. Watching what she does, and not what she says? Anti-slut defense? 3. Or am I missing the signs, and am I dealing with an unhappy wife/"struggle" hug victim?

You're right. I'm terrified of her emotions and give in when gets tough. I know that she can't leave me but I don't want her to feel bad now when she's pregnant and she's playing me like a fucken piano


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