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Patreon, R&P Q&A #153: Week 53

Patreon, R&P Q&A #153: Week 53

A bit on the late side, hopefully you're ready for field reports, tomorrow, 3 - 5 see you there!

Part I https://youtu.be/9IAcjeGRl2Q

Part II https://youtu.be/qx_HMHmXB3g


EDIT *edited second episode, techinical issue. fixed now*

Patreon, R&P Q&A #153: Week 53

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"LEARN IT AND FORGET IT" 
STATS: 

6’0 Mid-30s Married 14 years (SAHW) 6 kids (not Mormon or Catholic lol. I was a hardcore trad baptist in my mid-20s but I'm not anymore. I’m not black lol ----you asked) 
Lifts: 240 bench, 280 squats, 300 deads. Gym 6 days a week push/pull/legs split. Weight: lost 3lbs more this week. 47 more to go. Red Pill EDUCATION Recap:
 Read the entire sidebar, ALL the books, a shit ton of MRP posts, the vast majority of Rain Stone videos. First: I got to say you were 100% spot on with everything you said last week about my narcissistic leanings fucking me up. I liked how you told me not to focus on being “the oak” right now but to instead do more beta behaviors because my life has too much alpha... and that’s why it’s so chaotic. You said that while the beta behaviors may get me less good sex, it will give me a more peaceful life---which I desperately need btw. My life has been chaos for the past 5 years. Overall, the week was good other than a rock bottom spazz-out episode I had this week, which gave me a lot of clarity afterward, But since then things have been great... The rock bottom episode: I had been coming to terms (self-pity) with the fact that my results in life reflect who I really am, and that I am not who I have thought I was. “We are what we DO not what we THINK.” I realized that my frame was bullshit and that I really ain't shit (like I said last week). My insecurity bled out into one huge fight with the wife, which I started because I wanted her to stop working her new part-time job because it was interfering with my ego as (the man) although I hamstered about different reasons about my schedule lol. What REALLY happened was that since I’ve become aware that my frame actually ain't SHIT (whereas before I thought it was) and so I became an insecure self-pity faggot. It’s like I felt exposed as a fraud. I felt insecure about her being around other guys at her job (even though she’s never given me reasons to suspect cheating) and because of my lack of income. I was thinking “why wouldn't this girl leave me because I really ain't shit?” The reality is that she’d not be working if I did better with my business. I’ve been totally distracted from my business for four years. My personal life has been shit with the mistress thing, weight gain, no social life, and the whole COVID distraction shit. Anyways, I think I had my own “come to Jesus moment” and saw I was wallowing in self-pity and so I just said “fuck it”-- it is what it is. So after the fight died down things were great. The wife was on pre-ovulation time we’ve started fucking like rabbits 3x per day. Token Resistance: What’s funny is that the wife sometimes gives some token resistance sometimes and says “I don’t need as much sex as you” …but then she ends up being super enthusiastic during the fuck-session, and so it seems like a case of “ignoring what she says and paying attention to what she does.” The reality is that this girl likes to fuck me even though she plays around with some anti slut defense. It’s like she doesn't like the idea of me thinking that she is the kind of girl that fucks 3x times per day …even though she is lol …. So she has to give herself some plausible deniability… which I’m happy to play along with because "who cares, got laid". DREAD MISTAKE OBSERVATION: I’ve been so obsessed with trying to be MRP correct in my behavior that it stresses me out and so I get insecure that I am not doing it right, and then I pick fights with the wife by being a passive-aggressive faggot. But, when I just go with the flow and do not obsess about being MRP correct, we end up smashing a lot, at least 1x per day. I’ve realized that it's better to “learn it and forget it” as Rian says, and then to use field reports to reflect and adjust. Despite my fuck ups, I appear to be on good footing with the wife as she enthusiastically likes to fucks me, and responsive to kino, game and is overall happy. I’ve noticed that the more natural I am, the better she responds. It’s like women can sense when our frame is not real. When I started digesting the various different MRP views on DREAD, I was actually doing so as a covert contract. I was trying to “fix” my wife (Hornsofapathy type shit) (Rian please get the MRP under control because it’s gone trad “fix your wife” mode lol) and it caused me a lot of frustration because I was acting like a dancing monkey. Once I started mentally letting go of what I have been learning and started focusing on what I wanted for myself, I then became much more natural. It seems like DREAD for the purpose of dreading your wife is a faggot covert contract and women can sense it. But dread done to just become the best you can be, and to get what you in life is freeing, and also women dig-it because it’s a man truly being in his own frame. I’ve spent over a decade trying to learn frame strategies “tip and tricks” instead of actually building a real frame. And all that did was create a massive insecurity in me that I never identified as an insecurity, until recently. The theme for the next week: “Learn it and forget it.” Still need to work on creating my own social life. Being in this Patreon has been of the best things I've ever done.


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