Male spaces: bjj, martial arts obviously are great. But it has age limits, meaning… you don’t see allot of 50+ in there for good reason. Also the yearly dues…. ? I fence, which is similar. It also has age restriction but much older… Shooting ranges… archery…. Just thinking of combat sports that don’t hurt as bad…
Cousin Eddie
2023-03-09 19:31:10 +0000 UTC
Actuary stuff: Didn't get the job nor did I get a second interview. The recruiter told me they had already filled the position, maybe that's true maybe not. I think I made some mistakes during the interview and on my resume that are easy enough to correct. There's a small bit of relief that I didn't get it tbh. It wasn job my actuary buddy had recommended and it felt like I was being rushed into it.
I've had a lot of this problem lately with friends being a little to helpful. Another friend of mine has a habit of pressing his suggestions as imperatives. Most recently he suggested that I go and get a second phd to facilitate a machine learning career path. I had to fog him pretty heavily so I didn't tell him that I thought his idea was balls ass retarded. He means well, but he thinks his values are my values.
I had quite a bit of anxiety over all of this. I think I was letting myself be drawn into their frame. Once I pulled back and applied my own standards to everything that I felt the anxiety wash out.
At the start you always ask the question "what do you want" and I think I have the beginning of an answer. I want to live my life to my own standards. I want to do things to my own standards.
I found a job posting hiring mathematicians to work on slot machines. I think I'll apply for it.
Divorce stuff: Pretty tame this week. I finally got access to my retirement accounts back so I could provide the necessary financial docs (the wife had originally set them up with her email and phone number for account recovery). The last details on parenting time have been ironed out so I should be seeing the kids relatively soon.
BJJ: Rolling is absolutely wrecking me, but in a good way. It's nice to have a real male space again.
