Patreon, R&P Q&A #243
Added 2023-10-25 16:00:01 +0000 UTC
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Just a quick one, I am seeing a girl that just got engaged this week to her long distance boyfriend I think I posted about this girl previously, I saw her this week and she got the news while being with me, I play it casual, but I think I made a mistake asking her that if would be ok it I can still see her until she moves out of the country, her reply was that she was unsure, but i got i feeling that i will be seeing her again, what would be best way to play this out.
Ruben
2023-10-26 17:42:14 +0000 UTCBreaking Free Exercise #6 Write down examples of situations in which you have tried to hide or distract attention from any of these perceived flaws. How effective do you think you are in keeping these things hidden from the people you love? The biggest thing on my mind related to hiding bad news is parenting issues that I am facing. There is one difficult situation in particular with my oldest child that is taking a great deal of my mental energy these past few weeks. The thought of telling my father about it feels very embarassing. Of course he would still love me, and he would probably have some useful advice on the subject. But I know I have made some mistakes. When Aaron Clarey goes on a rant about how modern fathers don't do their jobs, I cringe. I have to ask myself how much I am hiding with my Catch and Release field reports. Given how things are going in my marriage, would I really pass up opportunities to sleep with other women, if I had them? People can and do criticize my actions in field reports. But that is actually part of the value. The value of field reports is not just the "comparing notes," it's also being criticized and realizing that it is not the end of the world. I think Glover is little off the mark with this message that people will still love you, even if they see your screw-ups and imperfections. A lot of guys in here get their shit together and still end up divorced. The point is to find the people who see value in the real me; not everyone will. The last thing I will mention is restaurant and bar tabs. My wife has been very keen on saving for retirement for the last several years. A few years back she started quizzing me whenever she saw charges from fast-food or beer places on the bank statement. I have a couple of government-issued debit cards that were sent to me for tax rebates that she does not know about. I have been using them sometimes to pay for the odd happy-hour when I go out to do catch and release. Am I hiding, or just not telling her things that she doesn't need to know? Frame is both what you do and why you do.
Gearo's Journey
2023-10-26 16:54:56 +0000 UTC
