"Hey, so..."
Added 2021-11-18 22:37:19 +0000 UTCI kind of cut this out from being a continuing problem by coming out via a comic that went wider than anything else I've ever made.
But telling individual friends and family was always preceded by a lot of anxiety. Even people who I knew beyond any shadow of a doubt would be accepting and start with new name and pronouns right away.
It's... a change. And change can always be a bit daunting. I like a lot of my relationships with the people in my life, and the thought of them changing, along with everything else that was (and is) changing for me was a real fear for a while. (And still is, frankly.)
I actually only managed the nerve to tell a few people by phone. There was a lot of very nervous Discord messages.
(I finished this a bit late in the day, so have some early access before I throw it up everywhere else.)
Comments
Pretty much everyone I know or am likely to meet again knows now. Just today I sent out the email to everyone at my job.
Taigan
2023-11-30 00:52:21 +0000 UTCPanel 7 is correct. It's a hard truth to accept, no matter your situation. The only person you can ever fully control is yourself. People are going to separate themselves into those who support you, and those who don't. It will suck and I wish there was a way I could make it less painful for anyone who has to go through it. But you will learn who your true family and friends are. Make every effort to show them how much their support means to you, and return the favor if you can. Because those people are worth it.
Rhamona
2021-11-20 00:39:59 +0000 UTCHappy Girl Robin is best Robin regardless of how others react.
Moostapus
2021-11-19 20:12:50 +0000 UTCI'm sorry that they won't give you the support you deserve. I hope things get better for you.
Robin Brooks
2021-11-19 18:41:52 +0000 UTCI feel this. I've experienced both, and one more. My spouse refuses to see me different (despite being super accepting of physical changes and gender expression, she sees it as just my outside changing). My father doesn't understand but is wholly in the "sees the change and respects it" camp. My mother is the dreaded "I'm mourning my son and you are no daughter of mine." So, I felt this comic HARD. I actually teared up at the end, because this is me everytime I call someone I haven't told yet...
Elle Strom
2021-11-19 18:02:29 +0000 UTCWow, panel 6 hit me hard and I'm not sure why. I'm so glad that coming out has been generally going ok for you. <3 And can I just say that good lord, doing that by phone is Hard Mode for sure!
Marie Buhtz
2021-11-19 13:29:32 +0000 UTCHaving been out to some of my friends for nearly a year, I'm glad to say this seems to be the case for most of them.
Robin Brooks
2021-11-19 05:11:29 +0000 UTCSometimes it be like that. Also, thanks! Glad you like them.
Robin Brooks
2021-11-19 05:08:59 +0000 UTCTwo of my friends are currently transitioning; one of them is one of my oldest friends (about 40 years). For me, nothing has really changed. Well, the pronoun I use as we're ragging on each other has, but otherwise....
Patrick M Fitzgerald
2021-11-19 01:46:34 +0000 UTCOh jeez. Sensible way to let them know imo, it can help to give people some space to let them process it for a while. Weeds out some of the more annoying initial reactions.
Phoenix Cherry
2021-11-18 23:57:51 +0000 UTCWhen I dropped my bottle-breaking comic on Twitter I also went ahead and dropped it to my Facebook, too. I have actual blood relatives that found out that way because we rarely talk and I wasn't exactly champing at the bit to have our first conversation in years be "Hey, btw I'm trans."
Robin Brooks
2021-11-18 23:37:44 +0000 UTCOof, feel this one. I agonised over how to come out to my irl friends, hadn't decided how to approach it. Then I came out on twitter forgetting that quite a few of them followed me there. Took care of itself because I'm an idiot and went well, thankfully.
Phoenix Cherry
2021-11-18 23:08:01 +0000 UTCI'm almost crying now, but it's not sad crying. Not really happy tears either. This comic just sorta opened the lid on some bottled stuff, I guess. I love it. I love all your comics. Rock on, sis.
Billie Doherty
2021-11-18 22:51:40 +0000 UTCComing out to myself was one of the hardest things I've ever done. I agonized over it, and I still do. You are beautiful, you are valid and you are loved.
George Michelle Catron
2021-11-18 22:43:08 +0000 UTC
