Being Mixed Race (Hapa) (2020 Rerun)
Added 2024-03-16 14:00:06 +0000 UTC[Rerun] Dr. Kirk talks about his experience of being mixed race.
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August 28, 2020
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Very interesting and very relatable. I'm mix as well, half native canadian and half white. I look mostly white but culturally I was raise more native on my native side because I spent most of my childhood with my native grandma. I feel like an outsider on both sides. There is a lot of tension about the idea of white people pretending to be native. The quote "my grandma was a cherokee princess" makes me not want to say what I am for the fear people will think i'm pretending. Though my brother looks native and no one would doubt his genealogy. There is a similar classification to HAPA for mix native people called Metis.
Leanne Jones
2025-05-06 15:26:05 +0000 UTCThank you for this, it was very interesting! I'm mixed from a completely different background, half Ashkenazi Jew, and half white (southern italian) catholic. Never felt welcome in either community; to fanatical jews I'll always be goy, to whites a Yid is a Yid, and to other races you're either white-passing or worse than whites —Let's not go into judging whole races, ugh. I think there's a lesson to be learned here about what being an ally to others, and what looking for allies, really means. More importantly, I wonder what identity means when you're raised between cultures, which doesn't seem to be your personal case because there is an established asian-American set of cultures. How do we build communities and find allies outside of existing in-groups, for those of us who have none?
Not I
2024-03-19 08:12:43 +0000 UTCI can totally relate, having a similar and yet completely different experience 😅 I will try to share more details later, but have to go make breakfast for the kids now. Just wanted jump in here and say that I relate a lot to your comment.
Julia
2024-03-17 09:12:05 +0000 UTCThank you for this, and admittedly I haven’t listened to the whole thing, but you say you specifically focus on half-Asian mixed race people (which makes sense as it is your experience!). My experience growing up in a predominately White area being half-White half-Dominican was really difficult. Part of me wanted blue or green eyes and to look more like my White friends, while another part of me wanted curly hair and tan skin like my mom. No one ever spoke to me directly about race either and I was confused why I didn’t look like either of my parents when all my friends did. We also didn’t speak Spanish much in the house growing up because my dad didn’t speak any and my mom was scared we would resent the language if she forced it on us (my older siblings would say “we don’t want to speak Spanish!” when they were little, so by the time I can remember we didn’t speak much Spanish). I have always felt not Latina enough in this sense and it’s been a great source of shame, though I have learned a lot and I’m conversational now. I still have to reassure myself that I am Latina enough, that being Latina isn’t a race but an ethnicity and it’s half of me, but people’s offhand comments can be very hurtful. All of a sudden I’m realizing how much I’ve written hahaha but I guess I was wondering if anyone else has experienced similar things, or if anyone has suggestions of things to read/watch other than this! This is also my first comment, I’ve been a long time watcher but just joined Patreon :)
Jessica Price
2024-03-16 18:01:05 +0000 UTC
