Here we go again...
Added 2024-09-03 19:51:22 +0000 UTCOkay.... so, I'm making another rant post again because, well... some things need to be said.
I'm just going to keep this post simple. First off, there are many kinks and fetishes out there, and as someone who used to be involved with the BDSM lifestyle in real life, as someone who's helped facilitate seminars in safe BDSM play, one thing that I will always enforce is to not kink-shame others.
I do trust that everyone here, especially after my last post, that we've established that there should be a boundary, a line that separates reality and fantasy and understanding there's a difference.
Now, within the realm of fantasy, storytelling, and animation... there are many kinks, interests, fetishes, and genres we can all explore. Many of us may share the same interests, and the same time there are some themes that many of us won't share... and that's okay!
But, what is not okay, is imposing your own views and interest upon to others, as well as to myself as the creator and artist of the work in which I want to bring storytelling visions to life. I enjoy the input that each and everyone of you share. I love to brainstorm, I enjoy hearing from you all and bring ideas into life.
But attacking someone's idea will never fly. Just because you don't share the same interest means one of you is right, and the other is wrong. But what it does do, is make you look like an asshole!
Sensual and erotic is subjective, as we can all define what is sensual to us, and what we find erotic. So please... do not impose what you find sensual and erotic onto others as if your views is the only way. You know who you are. I won't comment on your behavior again, but next time... I will take action.
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100%. I wouldn't think of dominating someone without getting to know them. Open, HONEST communication is the only way to get there. Fantasy doesn't necessarily require it, but reality absolutely does. I was lucky to have some excellent teachers when I was living in Houston
Randy White
2024-09-06 15:20:50 +0000 UTCHey brother, no worries for the late reply. You gotta take care of yourself first and foremost. But yeah, most people do misunderstand the lifestyle... hence the reason I stopped bringing up when I'm on a date. The most annoying thing is when you meet a girl who've read or watched 50 Shades of Grey and suddenly think they're a subject matter expert. Then they get all like, "Well, if you're a Dom, why aren't you trying to control me or Dominate me?" I'm like, "Because I don't know you. We're still trying to get to know each other and build trust, and connection. Without something called consent, it's the defining factor that separates play from assault."
Crossroads Radio
2024-09-06 12:41:52 +0000 UTCThanks for the kind words. Sorry I couldn't reply sooner - I had a knee replacement today and I've been preoccupied with that. If I think of anything, I'll let you know. I know Patreon can be rather strict/arbitrary in how they want to enforce their rules. So many people completely misunderstand the lifestyle. Keep up the great work!
Randy White
2024-09-06 04:11:36 +0000 UTCI'd really like to hear more about your interests with the darker side of BDSM.
Crossroads Radio
2024-09-04 23:35:19 +0000 UTCSorry to offend anyone or all, but there are some of us whose kink is to poke outrageously extreme sarcasms at some characterizations and scenarios. Apparently, some didn't get the jokes.
Silverstreek
2024-09-04 21:46:26 +0000 UTCMy interests often lean towards the darker side of BDSM, but it must remain fictional, so thank you for your open words and the clear boundaries you have set.
JustLooking4H
2024-09-04 18:57:11 +0000 UTCHey, whether or not you've partaken in any real life kink, or BDSM, your feedback is still, and always will be valued, my friend. You have good insight, and you're very articulate in how you convey your insight. It's much appreciated. As for the 5 stuff you mentioned, yeah.. the first one which I won't even say because it's such a horrible concept that I don't want it to be said with my voice, or even typed with my fingers. But yeah, all characters will always be portrayed to be at least the age of 18, and on top of that, they have to be obviously and within reason, for most people to look at each character and agree they can be portrayed to be at least 18. Necro stuff... not into it. I get some people are, but I'll probably never do it. Just not my thing. Besti stuff, wel... I'm with you, as long as we all know it's NOT REAL. Also, I DO NOT CONDONE REAL LIFE... just like I wouldn't condone anyone going to a haunted mansion, summoning or conjuring a monster and getting tentacled. Heavy gore, not into it. Bad endings like death, well... I'm open to it, as long as it makes sense for the story, but it's not something I can do a lot of. Maybe once in a blue moon. As for the "Hard-R" that rhymes with Ape... never. I'm open to con con, dub con... but never the hard-r. Thank you for your support, you've been an amazing inspiration for my work. If anything, you've helped me improve my craft and as cheesy as it may sound, you help remind me that what I do can be more than just porn, it can be an expression of art. Thank you always, friend.
Crossroads Radio
2024-09-04 17:00:07 +0000 UTCFirst of all: I'm 100% agreeing with you that different sorts of kinks can peacefully co-exist even though some people have them ansd some don't. I do have some kinks myself that some people might find weird, but as long as I don't force these upon other real people (keyword: REAL people), I don't think I have to feel guilty about them. Also, I'm not experienced in any activities in that regard in real life as you described, so my input might be of lesser impact, but as someone who tries to be tolerant to everyone who doesn't force his/her beliefs, behavior, quirks or literally anything on others, I still am trying to put forward my point of view in a respectful manner without being condescending. :) As for the specific point of issue here, I don't think the scene you're working on is even remotely close to questionable, let alone unacceptable. To me, there are only five "kinks" (if you could actually even call them that way) that I would consider completely out of the question: pedophilia, necrophilia, bestiality (with real animals), heavy gore (including death/killing) and rape. Everything else to me falls into the category "don't kink-shame it!" as well. I've always been a fan of your work and that status remains untouched to this day, so I will keep supporting you and hope that your work will stay as amazing as it has been. Also, I really appreciate how you bring in ideas from the people who support you, but still stand your ground on what you want to do yourself and follow through with it. :)
Sajanto
2024-09-04 15:58:21 +0000 UTCGlad to see another BDSM Lifestyler/kinkster in the Rule34 space. It's awesome, because being from the BDSM lifestyle and community, I'm sure you have a much more better grasp in regards to consent, the concept of "Your kink is not my kink, but that's okay," as well as that understanding between reality and fantasy. Also, I think you'd be a great help in regards to my plan with Crossroads Radio, in making it hub of understanding safe play and expression with kink, or even just sex in general. I value your input, and always feel free to share your thoughts.
Crossroads Radio
2024-09-04 14:18:49 +0000 UTCWell said. I was also active in the BDSM lifestyle. If you learn anything, it's don't kink shame, consent is sacrosanct within defined rules and roles, and there are a LOT of things people love doing to each other or have done to themselves so judging assuming you are "right" is total bullshit.
Randy White
2024-09-04 01:34:58 +0000 UTC
