I'm going to say this: I think that even if Dorothy *did* have reason to know (which she doesn't) about Joe's character growth and internal desire to be a better person, she's still under no obligation to forgive Joe for his past behavior, and is well within her rights to 1) want to associate with him as little as possible and 2) give Joyce, her friend, her opinion that dating Joe is a bad idea.
She's allowed to not forgive someone a lifetime of bad behavior based on a couple of months (at most!) of change. And she's allowed to be annoyed that someone she clearly doesn't want to be around keeps showing up in her life through no intention of her own. And for all that she's accused of trying to control Joyce, she still let this lunch happen.
She was honest to both Joe and now Joyce that she wasn't happy about it, but so far she's not laid down any ultimatums or attempted to actually prevent Joyce from doing this. Even here she's just (politely!) asking Joyce not to do something that she thinks is a terrible idea. Maybe that'll change, who knows.
Frankly, some (not all or most! But some) of the criticism of Dorothy comes across as a little..."How dare this woman not instantly forgive this man for his long pattern of misogynist behavior just because he's now got a cute crush on a girl." It's annoying.
Jayne Lindgren
2022-12-20 18:51:17 +0000 UTC
Panel 1 without dialogue: The cover of "Where Do You Think YOU'RE Going, Young Lady?": A Dumbing of Age Pornographique.