So you started Messaging?

In this post, I want to start you off  the right way in your conversations with potential play partners, clients, or sugarparents.

always start the conversation open and friendly. This person might know a little bit about you, but first impressions are always important. Play the perfect little sugar, baby, eager to please, until you have a better understanding of what they’re looking for.

If this potential partner is asking for too much beyond on your comfort level, or doesn’t seem like a good match… You can always leave the conversation. Just remember to leave the conversation on an positive open note, in case you feel comfortable enough to revisit the conversation later.

Start the conversation off with asking what they’re looking for. Be blunt. Some people will be too shy to tell you what they want… And you have to pry it out of them.

Play Koi and cute, but straight to the point with proper communication.

I have a couple of sayings, or one liners, that I like to use at the beginning of most of these conversations.

1. “Closed mouths don’t get fed so please be open to talking me exactly what you want or what you’re looking for.”

2. Telling me all your favourite kinks and fetishes will help me tailor this experience to best please you.

3. what are your hard limits?

4. What are your absolutely necessary needs

5. Are you looking for this to be short term or long term

And of course, the most important question you should be asking, but not right in the beginning…

6. What are you looking to spoil me with? Or what is your budget for allowance/spoiling?

if you happen upon someone who doesn’t have a lot of money to share with you, but you still wanna work with this person … you have every right to negotiate to make it worth it for you. Keep in mind that not all spoils come in the form of a monetary value. This is a great opportunity to find yourself a weed, daddy, a food, daddy, or simply someone who wants to spoil you through an Amazon wish list. Just because they can’t afford to send you hundreds of dollars, doesn’t mean it is a worthless experience.

One last tip on the topic of starting these conversations out, right… Keep in mind that some people are just as nervous as you are. Even if they don’t pull the trigger right away, keeping the line open for communication and positivity, could pan out in the long run. I called these “long cons”. You never know when your kindness will be rewarded longer down the road. So never burn a bridge unless you absolutely need to.