A socially acceptable form of toxic masculinity
Added 2022-02-22 06:34:05 +0000 UTCOne of the most culturally acceptable forms of toxic masculinity remains immensely destructive. And that occurs when a woman wishes to harm a man in some way, and discovers how easy it is to find men who will jump at the chance to do it for her without question. The toxicity is clear when such men pass up the opportunity to encourage the woman to be her best self: instead of asking her to step back and assess the thoughts and feelings that are behind the desire to destroy, they prefer to "play the hero," even at the expense of others.
But some questions should be asked of her: "What did this person actually do, that you want to treat him as less than human?" "Have you given him the chance to change, where appropriate? Have you given him the chance to explain himself?" "Have you given yourself the chance to discover that you possibly misinterpreted something (and essentially blamed him for things that weren't his fault, and perhaps were your own)?"
Why do so many men suddenly turn into pro-bono mercenaries, in situations where they should be speaking up for due process? Perhaps they want to seem attractive to the woman, even if she's being spiteful, irrational, and myopic—even if she's never learned how to process her own thoughts and feelings in responsible ways—and they know that standing up to her will hurt their chances of getting certain favors they are hoping to get in return. Or perhaps it is simply cowardice.
Whatever the reasons, it shouldn't remain so commonplace in society. It truly is a form of toxic masculinity, and keeps women from walking in the power and responsibility that ought to come with the dignity of womanhood.
